Thursday, June 30, 2011

Mother-in-law sends worst email ever to bride: forgivable?

Everyone says that the most interesting can be with an In-Law and this article from Yahoo proves that it can some time be very true....

New term: mom-zilla. We know all about temporary bridal insanity, and the underreported groom version, but in some families, it’s the parents who are seized by irrational wedding meltdowns.

Last month, 60-year-old British florist and total mom-zilla, Carolyn Bourne attacked. After her stepson’s bride-to-be, Heidi Withers, was a guest in her house she had a thing or two to teach her before she entered the Bourne family.

So Bourne sent the 29-year-old a soul-crushing email. The subject line: “Your lack of manners.” The bullet points for the bride, in paraphrase: her wedding is going to be tacky, she’s too picky of an eater, her sense of humor sucks, and her stepson is making a dreadful choice in marrying her. And one more thing: her out-of-work parents are cheap.

When Withers received the email (Bourne sent it three times to be sure) she did what anyone would do: she forwarded it to a few friends to share in the shock. What was the alternative —respond with a 'frowny' face? But instead of simply offering advice, some anonymous friend got pro-active and forwarded Bourne’s e-attack, launching a viral sensation in a matter of hours.

Now everyone in the Western Hemisphere has laid eyes on Bourne’s email. In a way, it’s the ultimate revenge on a mother-in-law who needed to be put in her place after such power-mongering. But it’s not going to make for smooth wedding. Bourne has been labeled the mother-in-law from hell by media outlets and Withers’ father Alan has fueled the fire by publicly calling Bourne “Miss fancy pants." Now parents on both sides of the couple are fueding and nobody's manners are in check. Suggestion for Heidi and Freddie, her groom: elope.

Bourne has told London's Telegraph she still plans to attend the wedding, but will maintain a "dignified silence." She may know about English etiquette but she’s clueless about the cardinal rule of the Internet: never send an email you don’t want the world to see. You almost have to feel bad for the lady, mom-zilla or no. That is, until you read the actual email she sent Withers.

Here’s an excerpt:

from: Carolyn Bourne
to: heidi withers
subject: your lack of manners

Here are a few examples of your lack of manners:

When you are a guest in another's house, you do not declare what you will and will not eat - unless you are positively allergic to something.

You do not remark that you do not have enough food.

You do not start before everyone else.

You do not take additional helpings without being invited to by your host.

When a guest in another's house, you do not lie in bed until late morning in households that rise early - you fall in line with house norms.

You should never ever insult the family you are about to join at any time and most definitely not in public. I gather you passed this off as a joke but the reaction in the pub was one of shock, not laughter.

You regularly draw attention to yourself. Perhaps you should ask yourself why.

No one gets married in a castle unless they own it. It is brash, celebrity style behaviour.

I understand your parents are unable to contribute very much towards the cost of your wedding. (There is nothing wrong with that except that convention is such that one might presume they would have saved over the years for their daughters' marriages.) If this is the case, it would be most ladylike and gracious to lower your sights and have a modest wedding as befits both your incomes.

One could be accused of thinking that Heidi Withers must be patting herself on the back for having caught a most eligible young man. I pity Freddie.Ouch.

There's no denying it's harsh, but if you've ever been in the line of fire in a wedding party, you know marriage anxieties strike darkness in the hearts of man. What do you think: Is this mom's email forgivable?

For You Love.....

The funny thing about life is that it always has a way of changing plans for you......

Anyone who knows me knew that at one point in time, I never would have dreamed that I would be in love and be truly loved in return. The mere idea of someone giving their heart and soul to me was just a dream and now that we are together, I am the happiest I have ever been.

I treasure Scott because he took my broken heart and soul and repaired them with love, compassion, understanding, laughter and respect. He showed me a different side of love that I had never seen before and for that I am grateful. I take this time to type these words because they have been heavy on my mind for a few days now.

This post is dedicated to you my love. Thank You for loving me as no other man could, for being the rock that this Superwoman needed and for just being you.

Love You Forever and Always,

Jasmine ~aka~The Future Mrs. Cameron

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Photo of the Week

This is a photo of Scott and I out for another friend's birthday. Jonathan aka DAY DAY had a Pimped Out Limo for his birthday as we traveled Los Angeles. That is also the night I introduced Scott to Pinches Tacos (Some of the best tacos in Los Angeles). A wedding note: Jonathan is ordained and will be marrying us on our wedding day...Yay Day Day!!!

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

2011 McMearn Family Reunion

A Slideshow from my daughter Jacelyn of The McMearn Family Reunion Weekend....

Monday, June 27, 2011

Its All about the Dress

Now that the Family Reunion trip is over, I realized that the most frequently asked question was....Have you found a dress?? Its the topic going right now and with so many choices, it might be a little overwhelming for me to handle. Here are a few from one of my favorite wedding shows, Say Yes to the Dress: Big Bliss, that I thought were some good choices....

Chris Brown - With You

Love this song and the words.....

Sunday, June 26, 2011


Back from San Francisco and the trip was WONDERFUL!! Loving time with the family and introducing Scott to everyone. Here is a few from the weekend...XOXO

Thursday, June 23, 2011

Family Weekend

Scott and I have traveled to San Francisco for my Family Reunion. This will be a good time for him to meet a lot of my family........

Excited for a fun weekend. Hope to post pics when we return.

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Javier - In Your Hands (Album Version)


Photo of the Week

This is one of the very 1st photos of Scott and I together. We were at our friend Jessica's 30th Birthday dinner at C&O Trattoria in Marina Del Rey. It was a great nice of food, friends and Karaoke.

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Jill Scott "Cross My Mind"

In honor of the release of Jill's new album coming out... Here is one of my favorite Jilly from Philly songs. It makes me think of Scott quite often.

Monday, June 20, 2011

Man Proposes to Girlfriend Through East Village Graffiti

Man Proposes to Girlfriend Through East Village Graffiti

Brian McKnight - Crazy Love

I Love Me Some Him....

He whispered in my ear this morning...."I Love You and I cant wait for you to be my Wife". It was a great way to start a Monday. :)

Thursday, June 16, 2011


I love him every way that a woman could love a man, from personal to universal but most of all its unconditional.....

Wednesday, June 15, 2011


We think about it, Sing about it, Dream about it and Loose sleep worrying about it. We search for it when we don't know we have it. We don't know what to do with it when we discover it. We fear loosing it when we have it. It is the constant source of pleasure & pain. Its a short word, easy to spell, difficult to define & IMPOSSIBLE to live without.

Tuesday, June 14, 2011

India Arie - Beautiful Surprise


Monday, June 13, 2011

Time is flying...

When we first got engaged and decided on a date.... It seemed like it was so far away and that it would never get any closer but now that we are in the full swing of planning, negotiating, photos, bridal party and all that... Its so real and time is flying by. The day we become Mr. and Mrs. Cameron will be a great one no matter what comes our way. This kind of love is true and will endure all that God has to offer us.

502 days and counting.......

Sunday, June 12, 2011

Greatest Marriage Proposal EVER!!!


Friday, June 10, 2011

Mom & Scott's Special Video

A beautiful video created by my 12 year old daughter, Jacelyn. Love You!!!

Thursday, June 9, 2011


Love's not about time. It's not about how long you've known each other or how many times you've been together. It's about those moments you spend with them and how they make you feel. It's about giving everything, risking and loving. It's about throwing yourself out there, knowing the other person is catching you without a doubt...

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Cameron Engagement Shoot | weddinggawker


Cameron Engagement Shoot | weddinggawker

Interesting Fact Find

Did you know the wedding ring goes on the left ring finger because that’s the only finger that has a vein that is connected to the heart??

You learn something new everyday. :)

Tuesday, June 7, 2011



Saturday, June 4, 2011

Maxwell - This Woman's Work


Princess Jasmine and Prince Scott