Friday, September 28, 2012

Friday Letters

Dear Carmageddon,
Be kind to these LA Drivers... They already have enough issues...
Dear Brandy,
Thank You for all your hard work the last few weeks getting stuff ready for this weekend. I know that you had alot of hurdles to get here but I know it will be great and I am excited to see how it all turns out.
Dear Bachelorette Party,
You are here... Make Mama proud and bring on the Pole!!
Dear Wedding Check List,
I knock alot off of you this week... Thanks for being so kind. More to come soon.
Dear RSVPs,
So nice to see you back in the Cameron Household.
Dear Scott,
No true words could ever be said about how much I Love You. I cant wait to be your wife and I am excited for our life together as 1. I hope you enjoy your new woman Siri while I am away at the Bachelorette Party. XOXO
29 DAYS.....

Wedding Advice From Veteran Couples - Project Wedding

Wedding Advice From Veteran Couples - Project Wedding

Thursday, September 27, 2012

I had to share...

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I saw this on Pinterest and I had to share... Wish I had this when I was counting down all the way back at 500+.

Wedding Planner or Personal Assistant?

Hmmm... how to say this nicely... I'm your wedding planner, not your personal assistant. There, I said it. Wow, I feel much better. Brideys, it's really important for you to be able to distinguish between the two. No, really it is. You hired me to plan your wedding, not to tap my network for an amazing maid service to clean your apartment, not to "quickly grab a coffee (for you) before our meeting", and certainly not to pick up your birth control prescription because I am right near the pharmacy.

Listen, I completely understand how the lines can easily become blurred. I am in the service industry, but not the ALL services industry. I have a job to do, and would like to do it without being the liaison between every little detail in your life, and your wedding planning, especially when I'm in the midst of wedding season, and every bride thinks she's my only client, I feel myself starting to lose patience. And you really don't want BB or any other wedding planner to lose their patience because then it's really easy for us to stop being your advocate, and start being your nemesis.

So here's a simple checklist of wedding planning etiquette for you to follow so that the lines between planner and personal assistant become a bit less hazy (this is applicable to the wedding coordinator at the venue who's working hard to make sure your wedding is a success, and the person you hired to plan your wedding):

1. Drop the "Can you?" and "Do you mind?" statements from your vocabulary. Catch yourself before these words slide out of your mouth, because in my experience, it's always followed with something personal instead of wedding planning oriented. Is this something you can do? Do you really need your wedding planner to fulfill this task? Great! Then do it!

2. This is pretty basic brideys, but think about what you are going to ask before you ask it. Do I really need to be present when you're choosing which Jimmy Choo shoes to wear under your wedding dress? Or perhaps picking out some fun jewelry to wear on the big day? Because as much as I love shopping, shoes, and jewelry I start hating it when it's expected for me to have the ultimate say so in your decision. I am busy planning the significant details for your big day, so put your big girl pants on, and choose whatever makes you happy all by yourself. Or grab your MOH to help you! That's part of her job!

3. While I am always happy to help make your life easier during the planning, it's outside the scope of my services to assemble your welcome bags for your guests, unless you are paying me to do so. We can certainly talk about what you should be putting into the bags, the design, the color, etc., but if you are going to take on a DIY project (any DIY project for that matter), then DO IT YOURSELF!

4. If you need yarmulkes, Kiddush cups, coconuts, unity candles, light bulbs, rice or anything ceremonial, I can certainly guide you to the resources and even procure them, but if I am doing the work, then I am going to be paid for obtaining the items for you. As lovely as I am, I am also a businesswoman. My time is valuable, billable even. And frankly, these items can easily be retrieved by an actual personal assistant or even your by your fiancé. So, if I am getting them, expect that a percentage will be factored in for my time.

5. This is my absolute favorite... "Can you please email the notes from our meeting with the florist to her assistant? She doesn't have any because she was busy creating our arrangements for the showing." This is an actual line from an email I received from one of my brides. And not only is this florist NOT in my network of vendors, it is her responsibility to take notes, pictures, etc., and retain the details. If she wants to call me, we can talk, but I am not transcribing the meeting minutes.

Brideys, it is truly my goal to educate you on how to behave during your wedding planning. I want you to understand what is appropriate and what is out of line. I know that you most of you haven't planned a wedding or even a large event, so it's completely understandable that you are unaware. But, that said please allow me to provide you with the insight you need to really be a Bitchless Bride. Got it?

Whats Left To Do......

One Month Before

Enter RSVPs into your guest-list database. Phone people who have not yet responded.

Get your marriage license. The process can take up to six days, but it’s good to give yourself some leeway. If you are changing your name, order several copies.

Mail the rehearsal-dinner invitations.

Visit the dressmaker for (with luck!) your last dress fitting. For peace of mind, you may want to schedule a fitting the week of your wedding. You can always cancel the appointment if you try on the dress then and it fits perfectly.

Send out as many final payments as you can.

Confirm times for hair and makeup and all vendors.

Assign seating. Draw out table shapes on a layout of the room to help plan place settings. Write the names of female guests on pink sticky notes and the names of male guests on blue sticky notes so you can move people about without resketching the entire setting.

Purchase bridesmaids’ gifts. You’ll present them at the rehearsal dinner.

Write vows, if necessary.

Get your hair cut and colored, if desired.

Week of the Wedding

Reconfirm arrival times with vendors.

Delegate small wedding-day tasks. Choose someone to bustle your dress, someone to carry your things, someone to be in charge of gifts (especially the enveloped sort), someone to hand out tips, and someone to be the point person for each vendor.

Send a timeline to the bridal party. Include every member’s contact information, along with the point people you’ve asked to deal with the vendors, if problems arise.

Pick up your dress. Or make arrangements for a delivery.

Check in one last time with the photographer. Supply him or her with a list of moments you want captured on film.

Set aside checks for the vendors. And put tips in envelopes to be handed out at the event.

Book a spa treatment. Make an appointment for a manicure and a pedicure the day before the wedding. (You might want to get a stress-relieving massage, too.)

Send the final guest list to the caterer and all venues hosting your wedding-related events. Typically, companies close their lists 72 hours in advance.

Break in your shoes.

Assemble and distribute the welcome baskets.

Pack for your honeymoon.


Today is the 1 month mark till our wedding!!!!!!

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

You may be seated....

Since we are coming closer to the wedding day,  now have the task of making a seating chart. I think it is giving me a bit of anxiety because you have to make sure you got the right people at the right table. You dont want to do too much mixing where its weird for people to be together but you do want to make it fun. Here are some of the tips I found on the internet:

Family Tables: Often, the parents of the bride and groom sit opposite each other at a large family table, with grandparents, the officiant, and other close friends. An alternative is to have the bride and groom's parents "host" their own tables, consisting of their family members and close friends. In the case of divorced parents, each parent may also host his or her own table, smoothly diffusing any awkwardness or discomfort.

Mix or Match: As for the rest of your guests, should you put friends together or seat them with "new" people? The answer is a bit of both. While it is a great idea to mix in a few new faces at each table, remember that people are most comfortable when they know some of their dinner companions. Be considerate. Not even your most gregarious friends will want to sit at a table full of complete strangers, so put acquaintances together when you can. If you have guests who don't know anyone, seat them near guests with similar interests. If you have a group of friends that cannot fit at one table, split them down the middle, and fill in each table with other guests. Whatever you do, don't leave one of the gang out.

If you have no idea what to do with your parents' friends, let your mother and mother-in-law arrange those tables. They will be thrilled to be involved, and this may keep them from trying to control of the rest of your seating plan.

Singles vs. Couples

If you've been dying to fix your old roommate up with your fiancé's cousin, you might take this opportunity to discreetly seat them next to each other. Resist the urge, however, to create a separate "singles" table, though, as this might embarrass your guests. By the same token, don't seat your unmarried friend at a table full of gushing newlyweds. A little sensitivity and some good old common sense are the best guides.

Seating Children

If you have several children at your wedding, seat them together at a separate kids' table. If your flowergirl and ringbearer are the only children present, seat them with their parents.

Place Cards, Escort Cards or Seating Chart?

Now that you've figured out where to put everyone, all you have to do is decide how to guide them to their seats.

Place Cards: These tented cards can be used alone or with escort cards. Displayed near the entrance of the reception in alphabetical order, they usually include the guest's name and table number. Once at the table, guests usually select their own seats.

Escort Cards: Used in the most formal seating plans, escort cards usually contain the guest's name on the outer envelope, and their table number on the card inside. Place cards await guests at each table, designating their seats.

The Seating Chart: Usually displayed alphabetically in a pretty frame near the entrance of the reception, seating charts are lists of guests' names with their designated tables. Additional place cards may be used at each table to designate assigned seats, if you wish.

Nametags: This is a wedding, not a convention, so skip the nametags, as irresistible as they might be. Your guests are capable of making any introductions you haven't made previously.
Note: Guests should never alter seating arrangements or "switch seats" at a wedding reception, but it is perfectly acceptable to mingle at different tables after dinner.

Before creating your seating plan, it is a good idea to obtain the floor plan and make several copies. This way, you can experiment with various different arrangements before making your final decision. When in doubt, trust your instincts. And no matter how perfect your final seating plan seems, you will undoubtedly receive at least one last minute phone call begging you to change something to make a guest (read: your mother) happy. Try to be accommodating, but don't let it make you crazy. Chances are, after the dinner, everyone will want to get up and mingle anyway.

Photo of the Week

This Photo of the Week is from our Engagement Session, My photos are my background at work and this one came up and it made me smile. We took those pictures last year and now here we are 31 days away from our wedding... Time sure flew by even though I thought it would take forever to get here.

Unique Vows and Readings - Project Wedding

Unique Vows and Readings - Project Wedding

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Free Wedding Dress From A Bride Who Wants To 'Pay It Forward'

The wedding dress is a big part of every wedding. But after the Big Day, it may be doomed to a life inside of a box, waiting for a future daughter to wear it down the aisle. Or worse, never to be worn again.

But one Washington, D.C. woman decided her dress was too beautiful to condemn to a life in hiding. So she's giving it away.

HuffPost Weddings spoke to the generous bride -- who wishes to remain anonymous -- and she told us that, after tying the knot two weeks ago, she felt so surrounded with love that she decided the best way to repay her family and friends for such a "hospitable, generous, and warm" wedding was to pay it forward to another bride.

The woman is looking for a bride who is unable to afford a wedding, a groom looking to surprise his bride with a dress they wouldn't have been able to afford, or a couple who had to elope or have a courthouse wedding and is now looking to have a more formal affair. "Basically, I'm hoping to find someone who really loves the dress and whose wedding experience will be truly transformed by having it," she told Huffington Post Weddings in an email.

The dress, which originally cost $800, was purchased from the family-owned Cocoon Silk in Portland, Ore. via Etsy. The shop uses Cambodian silk to create all of their own designs, and even did some alterations for free. The dress roughly fits a size 4.

"To know that this dress will bring someone else joy on their special celebration is an incredible blessing. It makes my own wedding feel that much more special, to know that we were able to use it for some greater good," she said of her decision to give away the dress.
HuffPost Weddings is helping this generous bride find her perfect match. If you or someone you know needs a wedding dress and can't afford one, send your story and why you love the dress to by Thursday Oct. 4. The winner will be announced Friday Oct. 5.

Why I Don't Get Friendly With Clients Until After The Big Day

My first year as a wedding planner, I learned a hard lesson about not becoming too close to the brides who are my clients until after their big day is over. Don't get me wrong -- I adore my brides and grooms and I look forward to welcoming them back to the island as "friends" when they return for their anniversaries and other special occasions. But until you've gone down the aisle and said your "I Dos," you're my client and I'm your wedding planner, not your girlfriend.

The first mistake of this kind that I made was letting one of my brides get too close to me. She was marrying a guy with a challenging family (my way of saying the MoG was an evil nasty witch) and her own mother and her sister (the MoH) weren't particularly nice or easy people to deal with either. I got this impression long before I met them as I held this client's hand through bouts of tears at all hours of the night. To be honest, I did it because I liked her, and I thought we would probably be friends when the wedding was over with, but I never drew the line in the sand for the bride. And that came back to bite me in the butt.

Everything about her wedding weekend went perfectly -- there were no major bugaboos, no big drama -- but the bride was strung tight as a wire through the whole thing. Sadly, I doubt she enjoyed a single one of the numerous activities she'd so meticulously planned. As a graphic designer, she'd gone way above and beyond with customizing every little element of the weekend, and by the time she arrived on the island, she was physically and emotionally drained. Not the best way to approach your Caribbean destination wedding weekend.

On her wedding day, this bride was a hot mess. The hairdresser called to give me a heads up that she'd spent most of the afternoon crying in the chair at her salon, with the MoB and MoH just making things worse. But what was I supposed to do about it? Every detail of this wedding was a challenge, and I was needed on site at the wedding setup. I gave her hugs and tried to pep her up as we crossed paths, but I was trying to make sure that the place cards didn't blow away and that the table ribbons were all anchored with double-sticky tape (the challenges of outdoor, waterfront wedding venues).

I didn't hear from her after her honeymoon. I was hurt and I emailed a couple of times. When we finally spoke, I asked her what she thought of her wedding (the pictures were amazing) and she started to cry. She told me that while every detail of her wedding was perfect, I had let her down emotionally. She felt I wasn't there for her when she needed me on the big day. Wow. I was shattered. While I knew her expectations had been unreasonable, I was devastated she felt I'd abandoned her.

On a lighter note, that same month, another bride pulled a doozy on me. Back then, my office was in my house and some of my clients had been there. This couple had ties to the island and we'd been out socially with them a few times. At six o'clock in the morning on her wedding day, this bride showed up with her MoH on my doorstep. Drunk as a skunk, sobbing hysterically and having just had a nasty fight with the man she was due to marry in exactly 12 hours.

As there are no rules in the How-to-Be-a-Good-Wedding-Planner guides about how to handle this sort of situation, I brought them into the house and talked her off the ledge while the MoH made coffee. My husband Bill got up and made breakfast (no really, he did!) for our guests while we got her into the shower. After about an hour-long nap, we sent her down to the hairdresser to begin prep for the hours of photos she had planned (she was in need of some serious war paint after all those tears), and I went over to the villa to talk to the groom. End of story -- they had a beautiful wedding that night and they lived happily ever after. And I know this because we are still good friends to this day.

With that said, it was the last time we told clients where we lived before they were married. And I never let myself get close enough to another bride so that she would be leaning on me for moral support on the day of her wedding. That is not my job. Just to be clear -- a wedding planner is an event coordinator who takes the responsibility for facilitating and executing (perfectly) all the little details that come together to create the most fabulous day of your life. A planner is not a therapist, she is not your MoH, she is not your BFF, and she is not the person whose shoulder you should plan to cry on during your wedding weekend. I'm not heartless -- I wish I could be all of those things to every client I have. But the reality is that you have to assign the emotional support role to one of your friends or family members on your actual wedding weekend because my job is to be everywhere you are not, getting things ready for when you arrive.

Until next time, happy wedding planning from Weddings in Vieques and Weddings in Culebra!

Traditions From Around the Globe

Wedding Traditions in Italy

When: In bygone Italy, wedding festivities kicked off in the morning, ideally on a Sunday. Regional Italian folklore dictated that couples should never marry (or leave for their honeymoon) on a Friday or Tuesday, or they'd be bound to have loads of bad luck, while Saturdays were reserved for widows getting hitched to husband number two (or three, or four...).

Attire: In addition to a white gown, the blushing bride's face would be hidden beneath a veil -- a symbol of her virginity and to protect her from unruly spirits. Tearing the veil, however, was considered good luck. (Why? Just use your imagination.) Meanwhile, the groom lugged a piece of iron (preferably a small one) in his pocket to ward off evil spirits.

Activities: Italian brides and grooms made their way to the chapel on foot. In some regions, it was considered bad luck for the groom to turn around once he stepped foot outside his house on his wedding day (no backing out now!). Just in case, he'd be accompanied to the ceremony by a group of friends who would run back for him if he'd forgotten something. After the wedding ceremony, the couple would shatter a vase -- doing their best to pulverize it, since the number of broken pieces represented the number of years they'd be happily married. Villagers might also set up a log for the newlyweds to saw through with a double-handed saw -- representing how they would work together in their new partnership.

The Food: Even hundreds of years ago, food was an essential part of an Italian wedding. Course after course of antipasti, calamari, pasta, fish, pork and more were accompanied by a liqueur or wine. Guests could always count on having some wanda, bow ties of fried dough dipped in powdered sugar that symbolized good luck. Confetti -- sugar-covered almonds (or Jordan almonds, as we know them) representing the bitter and sweet parts of life -- served as a snack or, yes, as something to throw at the newlyweds as they made their exit.

The Music: The bride and groom would lead their guests in a jaunty circular jig called the tarantella. Legend has it that this springy dance could save victims from poisonous tarantula bites.

Added Perk: Money -- and lots of it. To help with the expense of the wedding, guests would place cold, hard cash in a satin bag called la borsa carried by the bride.

Wedding Traditions in China

When: It all depended on the astrologer. Chinese couples consulted a fortune-teller to find a favorable date derived from their birth dates.

Attire: For centuries, Chinese brides wore the traditional qipao, a bright-red silk dress with intricate gold embroidery. These loose, high-necked, long-sleeved gowns fell all the way to the ground -- revealing only the bride's head, hands and toes. At the reception, the bride often changed gowns several times throughout the night to show the opulence of her family.

Activities: On the morning of the wedding day, the groom and his groomsmen would make their way to the bride's home. There, the bridesmaids would give the groom a hard time -- forcing him to negotiate (with money) his way into the house. Once the ladies were satisfied with his offerings, they would deem him worthy of entering, and he would join the bride's parents for tea (served by the bride) as a parting ritual.

The Food: Weddings were a great excuse for families to flaunt their wealth, making a 10- to 12-course banquet a regular occurrence at a traditional Chinese wedding. Shark fin soup was a luxurious staple -- which, at upwards of $100 a bowl today, could drain anyone's bank account quickly. Other delicacies included bird's nest soup (yes, made from real swifts' nests) and a whole fish, which was served because the word for fish, yu, sounds similar to the word for abundance.

The Music: At more elaborate weddings, the couple and their guests would enjoy a performance called the lion dance, in which performers dressed as powerful felines swayed to the beat of drums, gongs and cymbals to scare away evil spirits.

Added Perk: After the wedding feast, friends and family would follow the couple into their bedroom, making as much noise as possible and taunting them -- all in good fun, of course. Guests tried to stay in the room for as long as they could before the privacy-starved couple kicked them out.

Wedding Traditions in Mexico

When: A summer evening.
Attire: The bride's attire would vary greatly depending on the region, from simple white cotton to a colorfully embroidered huipil. Spanish-inspired mantilla veils were common as well. She might also wear a blue slip or sew three ribbons (one yellow, one blue and one red) into her undergarments to symbolize food, money and passion in the years to come. The groom would usually wear a lightly colored guayabera, a loose-fitting shirt perfectly suited for the Mexican sun.
Activities: During the ceremony, the groom would give his bride 13 gold coins, called arras, which symbolized Christ and his apostles. Following the vows, the priest would wrap a lazo, or lasso (a large rosary, rope or a band of flowers), in a figure eight around the couple's necks to represent their eternal unity.

The Food: Spicy rice, beans and tortillas. The traditional Mexican wedding cake is made with nuts and dried fruit and soaked in rum.

The Music: A mariachi band (with at least two violins, two trumpets, one Spanish guitar, one vihuela and one guitarron) would provide the day's music. La Marcha -- a dance similar in appearance to an elaborate game of Follow the Leader -- would serve as the couple's reception entrance. Two lines, each led by a family elder, would weave around the room, eventually meeting to form a bridge with their arms before breaking apart to form a circle around the bride and groom for their first dance.

Added Perk: Bridal attendants called madrinas (godmothers) helped the bride by making the plans, arranging bouquets and keeping a general handle on the day's events. It would also be their responsibility to guide the bride throughout her married life.

Wedding Traditions in Sweden

When: With almost 20 hours of sunlight each day, summer was considered prime wedding season.
Attire: A crown of myrtle leaves on the bride's head represented virginity, while a gold coin from her father in her right shoe and a silver one from her mother in her left shoe guaranteed she would never go without.

Activities: In some regions, brides and bridesmaids also carried bouquets of weeds that stunk to high heaven in order to ward off trolls (don't knock it -- trolls haven't crashed anyone's wedding so far!). The couple would also enter the church together. The first to step foot over the threshold was said to become the pants-wearer in the relationship.

The Food: The traditional Swedish smorgasbord lasted for three days and included inlagd sill (pickled herring), lingonsylt (lingonberry jam) and kottbullar (Swedish meatballs).

The Music: Throughout dinner, the guests would sing love songs and, eventually, rowdy folk songs accompanied by a fiddle. Every guest was welcome to give a speech or toast in honor of the new couple.

Added Perk: A Swedish bride received three gold rings from her future husband. One was for her engagement, and on her wedding day, she'd receive two more: one for marriage and one for pregnancy.

Wedding Traditions in Morocco

When: Historically, Moroccans celebrated weddings on Sundays in the fall at the end of the harvest, when there was plenty of food to feast on.

Attire: This varied greatly by region. But what they all shared was color -- and lots of it -- including yellow (to scare away evil) and green (to bring good luck). In preparation for the day, the bride and her attendants, or negaffa, would have a henna party, receiving temporary tattoos on their hands and feet (with the bride's being the most intricate, of course).

Activities: A traditional Moroccan wedding lasted up to seven days, with separate parties for the men and women. The first three days were spent preparing, partying and beautifying the bride. On the fourth, the couple was married. On the fifth and sixth days, the celebrations raged on. Finally, on the seventh day, the parties combined and the bride was placed on a cushion and held aloft in front of friends and family. The men would hoist the groom onto their shoulders, and the new couple would be carried off to a special room to consummate their marriage.

The Food: Fish and chicken, ancient symbols of fertility, were often served. Guests dug into tajine (a chicken, beef and lamb stew mixed with almonds, apricots, onions and other spices) alongside heaping piles of couscous.

The Music: The bride and groom were ushered into the reception with a lively wedding march called the zaffa, complete with music, dancing and even flaming swords. Guests would boogie down throughout the night to the sounds of drums, tambourines and a string instrument called a zither.

Added Perk: Sure, the wedding was exhausting, but Moroccan brides got some serious pampering too -- namely, massages and milk baths (hammam) to purify themselves for the special day (er, week).

A special thanks to: Lisa Light, founder of and author of Destination Bride: A Complete Guide to Planning Your Wedding Anywhere in the World (2005); and Timeless Traditions: A Couple's Guide to Wedding Customs Around the World (2001) by Lisl Spangenberg.

Monday, September 24, 2012

Cause it has happened to all of us....

Music Monday: Jill Scott - He Loves Me

20 Secrets to a Fun Wedding Reception

Jazz Up Your First Dance

All eyes will be on you during your first dance, which means it's the perfect opportunity to shock your guests. Imagine starting with a slow dance to “At Last” and then suddenly switching to a fast, sexy Latin dance or a jazzy swing step. It'll totally throw your guests for a loop and set the tone for a lively dance party.

Have a Game Plan for Kids

To keep the little ones entertained throughout the night (and to give their parents an opportunity to hit the dance floor!), set up an area specifically for them. In a separate room, arrange for a babysitter who can set up movies for them to watch. Or designate a couple tables just for the kids and pack them with coloring books, crayons, and small toys.

Keep the Toasts Short (And Prep Your Toasters)

As meaningful and wonderful as toasts can be, it's important that you don't let those toasting to drone on and on. Quite frankly, it'll put a lull in the evening. When it comes to toasts, it's really all about quality over quantity. So direct anyone who is speaking in advance to keep their speeches to two minutes max and ask them to share any other long-drawn-out stories at a prewedding party like the rehearsal dinner.

Give Out Party Favors

Don't forget that a reception is a party! Let your guests know that it's okay to cut loose after a formal ceremony by passing out crazy wedding favors at the reception. A few of our favorite ideas? Funky masks, noisemakers, or Silly String. We even know one couple who handed out neckties and encouraged their guests to tie them around their heads on the dance floor. Quirky, but definitely fun!

Put on a Welcome Dinner

Okay, so this tip isn't for your reception, but it will end up making the party more fun. Why? A casual event where all of your guests can meet and mingle the day before the wedding means that by the time your reception rolls around, everyone will have already gotten to know one another. That way, your guests can skip the pleasantries and get right down to celebrating.

Plan an Interactive Food Station

Great food makes great celebrations, but customizable food (so that everyone gets exactly what they like) is even better. A risotto station, pasta bar or grilled cheese station where people can choose their own toppings and sauces will leave you with happy, well-fed guests ready to have a good time.

Keep Your Guests Fueled

If you want to ensure an all-night crowd, arrange for your catering staff to bring out trays of late-night munchies like French fries or a self-serve taco bar. If you stick with low-key, comfort foods like those, they'll wish the party would never end. Another great idea: Offer a coffee bar complete with special syrups and toppings to keep them caffeinated.

Tell Your Guests About an End-of-the-Night Treat

Nothing stops a party in its tracks faster than guests heading for the door early. Take out an insurance policy against a skimpy crowd and plan a treat for the end of the night that people will look forward to: You and your new spouse can perform a song with the band for the last dance, or you can plan a reception getaway that'll gets guests excited, like a fireworks show or an exit with sparklers.

Plan a Surprise

Sometimes the best parts of a reception are the things guests don't see coming. Surprise your guests with unexpected entertainment during the cocktail hour or reception, like a belly dancer, a mariachi band, or even a salsa dancer.

Arrange Seating Assignments Thoughtfully

It sounds obvious, but it belongs on the list: Seat guests with people they'll know and get along with. A well-thought-out seating chart leads to great conversation, which leads to a great dance party, which leads to…well, you get the idea! So seat your high school track teammates near your college running buddies, and put your tween cousins with other kids their age rather than their parents (and keep track of it all with our seating chart tool).

Order Good Food (That's Not Stuffy)

Just ask yourself: What would you want to eat? If you're not the meat-and-potatoes type, consider doing something more to your liking -- maybe Spanish tapas, Mexican fajitas, or a big Italian dinner. Or skip the sit-down altogether and opt for a heavy hors d'oeuvres reception. Think mini sliders, bite-size vegetable quiches or a cheese table.

If You've Hired a Band, Make Sure There's Good "Break" Music

We've all been to that wedding before: Just when the dance floor starts to get packed, the band takes a break and the party dies. Don't let that happen to you. When you hire your band, ask specifically about how they plan to handle breaks. Some bands will take them in shifts and split off into a smaller 2- or 3-piece bands. Others will turn on filler music. If yours is planning to use filler music, ask whether you can provide the mix.

If You've Hired a DJ, Make Sure You Share the Same Tastes

Okay, this is an obvious one, but it made the list because music is a major fun factor at the reception and it has a lot to do with how long your guests will stay. The last thing you want to see is your dance floor clear out when the "chicken dance" comes on. So, make sure to talk to your DJ about your do-not-play list.

Play Danceable Music

Whether you've hired a band or a DJ, if you want to keep the dance floor packed (and we're guessing you do), plan a playlist of songs that will please the crowd, not just you two. You may love obscure indie rock, but now isn't the time to show off your discerning taste in music. People love dancing to Lady

Add a Lounge to Your Reception

If at all possible, create a lounge-like area in your reception space. Why? People can get antsy. Instead of having your guests sit around the same dinner tables all night, a change of environment will promote conversation and keep even your nondancing guests entertained. Look into renting or borrowing couches, chairs, and other pieces of furniture that you can then stage with pillows and votive candles in your wedding colors.

Hire a Day-of Coordinator

You may have a ton of fun ideas for your reception lined up -- say, a rockin' entrance, an amazing band, and surprise late-night snacks -- but the truth is it's much harder than you'd think to keep each of those plans in check. If you already have an event planner, genius. If not, look into booking a day-of coordinator to oversee the details (trust us, it's worth it).

Bring in an Expert Tasting Station

A full bar is a must-have for a great reception, but amp it up a notch with an interactive drinking experience. We're talking about a wine, beer or whiskey tasting, where guests can sample different drinks and learn a few tasting notes. A hand-rolled cigar station also fits the bill, as does a choose-your-flavor margarita bar (yum!).

Create Zones

The key to a lively celebration? Movement. The best parties encourage lots of dancing, with mini breaks for mingling and snacking -- not just sitting. So divide your reception into distinct areas for dancing, sipping drinks and chatting, and getting coffee or bites to eat. Arrange a few cocktail tables near the bar, provide an outdoor seating option or set up a dessert table of bite-size sweets.

Change Into Something Comfortable

Let's put it this way: You won't have a good time at your reception if you can't breathe, right? So after the first dance, swap your veil and train for a little white dress. (This applies to grooms too -- depending on the formality of the wedding, guys can change out of a restricting tux into a more relaxed suit.) If you and your new spouse are comfortable enough to move freely, you'll dance more, chat more and laugh more, and that'll rub off on your guests.

Serve a Leisurely Dinner

Instead of a quick, three-course menu of salad, entree and dessert, stretch out dinner over four or five smaller courses. Then, plan small surprises in between, like a short toast from your hilarious aunt or a professional dance performance. It'll give your guests the experience of a fun night out on the town, complete with dinner and a show.

Fab 5 Freddie, Cheer Sisters and Wings

Hey My Blogger Friends... Here is my Weekend Update:

Friday Fab 5 Freddie arrived.. aka my iPhone 5. It is my wedding gift from Scott and I have to admit, I feel like a cool kid now. I am up to date with it and although me and BB (Blackerry) had a good run, it was time for a change.

I spent Friday updating contacts, downloading apps and navigating through the phone. Friday night was Wine, Netflix and Pizza Rolls... Yeah I'm about that life.

Saturday Morning Scott and I got up and headed over to Torrance Bakery for Cake tasting.

We walked in and you could smell the sugar in the air. Since I am more of the sweets lover than Scott is, I was truly excited about tasty treats. Here are a few photos I was able to snap:

Torrance Bakery Box... Brittnee was a great help with our selections.

From Left to Right: Marble Cake with Amaretto Custard and Buttercream Icing. White Cake with Fresh Strawberries and Buttercream Icing. Chocolate Cake with Chocolate Moose and Fudge Moose and Buttercream Icing. 

From Left to Right: Red Velvet Cake with Cream Cheese Icing. White Cake with Raspberry Filling and Lemon Custard with Wedding White Icing. Banana Cake with Vanilla Custard and Wedding White Icing.
After much to little debate, we decided on 2 flavors... Marble Cake with Amaretto Custard and Buttercream Icing. and Red Velvet Cake with Cream Cheese Icing. We are doing a 4 tier round cake and if we eat the top or decide not to keep it, it can be recreated for our 1st anniversary for 25.00. We choose the Marble Cake for the top and the rep said that custard does not hold too well so we might have to get it re-done either way it goes. Funny and a coincidence is that the cake flavors are a reflection of our wedding colors (Marble and Red Velvet)... So not purposely done. I am excited that there is another thing off our check list.
After cake tasting, The kids had  their sports weekend (Isaiah with Soccer and Jacelyn with Cheer). Both their teams won and they both did great.
After the game, I went by my parents house to get Jacelyn's Junior Bridesmaids shoes... They came it and they look great:
Its just enough shoe for her that makes her look like a Young Lady.
Also while we were there, my dad showed me a few pictures that he took of the Space Shuttle Endeavor arriving in Los Angeles on Friday.. He got some really great shots:



Saturday night, we decided to have In and Out for dinner. When Scott lived in his old apartment, there were 2 close by so we would eat there more often than not. Since we have moved we have not explored too much with all that has been going on so we found one not too far from the house.
That's whats a Hamburgers all about....


Animal Style Fries... If you have never had them. Try them. Scott had some of mines since he had never had them before and I think he is in love. They are rich but well worth it.
Sunday Jacelyn had Cheer Pictures in the morning so I took her out for Photos:

Jacelyn- Midget Cheer- Los Angeles Southeast Panthers 2012

The Midgets: Da'Khija. Jacelyn, Glenyea, Zanise, Xzyria. Tamoya, Jordan, Nyla, Terriona and LeAmber.
After Pictures and Competition Practice, I headed over to the Apple Store for Scott's wedding gift. Since I got my gift early, I thought it would be only fair that he gets his early:
Product Image
I got him a Apple TV. This system allows him to stream his items from his iTunes to the TV. It is really awesome now that we have the 60. He was so happy to have it, I am just glad it put a smile on his face.
Sunday Night we had friends over to watch the Patriots/Ravens game. We had some snacks, the big screens and some laughs.
Everyone enjoying the game.....

The Wings: Mild, Lemon Pepper, Hot and Honey BBQ.
That's the weekend wrap up! Here is whats on tap for this week:
1. Order Cupcakes
2. Get to the Dress Shop for 2nd fitting (Bustle) and get Jacelyn's dress.
3. Find Cupcake stands (Rent or Own)
4. Working on final RSVP's and start Seating Chart
5. Bachelorette Party this weekend!
Its a lucky day on the countdown 33 days till forever.


Friday, September 21, 2012

Friday Letters

Dear Blackberry,
Its been fun honey but its time that you and I went our separate ways.. Mind you I never thought it would end like this but with a new man in my life, a new phone comes with the package...
Dear Weekend,
I know I say this every Friday but I do really love you. I wish you were longer sometimes so we can get to know each other better.
Dear Cake Tasting,
For a Sweets Girl like me, I am ready for you... Bring on the Tasty Treats tomorrow and gets get some awesomeness for our wedding.
Dear Wedding RSVP Date,
You are vastly approaching and I am hoping to have every ones in so I can get everything ready for the Seating Chart and a great day ahead.
Dear Checklist,
I told you I would rule you... BRING IT ON BABY!
Dear Scott,
You text yesterday saying that you Cant wait to call me your wife totally made this crazy week so much brighter. Thanks for ALWAYS being there especially when I need you the most. 36 days cant get here fast enough.

2012 Fall Wedding Trends

With brides like Blake Lively and Natalie Portman pulling fast ones on us with their surprise nuptials, we’re on pins and needles wondering when the next lineup of megawatt A-listers will grace the aisle. Rumors are swirling that Angelina Jolie could take the plunge any minute, not to mention other to-be-weds like Jennifer Aniston, Anne Hathaway, and Jessica Biel. So what will they wear, eat, and choose should they utter “I Do” this fall? We want you to be prepared, so we got the experts to dish.

The strapless gown is out, proving just how profound an influence Kate Middleton’s Alexander McQueen made on the wedding scene. Drew Barrymore, Natalie Portman and Camila Alves all donned long-sleeved frocks this summer. Now expect to notice more brides covering up.“This fall we’re seeing a heightened interest in sleeves, whether it’s a warm cashmere knit sweater, a fur bolero or a pearl encrusted capelet,” says Lindsey Robers, a buyer for the Anthropologie’s wedding spinoff BHLDN. Brides will also take a cue from the 1920s in anticipation of Carey Mulligan’s next big flick. “In the midst of all the buzz around the upcoming Great Gatsby movie and the jazz era’s affect on the industry as a whole, we’ve seen some great excitement around our Lita gown from Catherine Deane,” Robers remarks.

Look out for retro-inspiration in weddings this fall. “We are definitely seeing the continuation of the ‘vintage’ feel for weddings,” Sandy Chiu, the director of catering at Laguna Cliffs Marriott Resort & Spa, notes. “Romantic lace, furniture that plays on a more classic era with pin tuck buttons and wood edge finishes, and neutral tones remain popular.” For couples who want to make a splash, there’s plenty of room for color. Rich emerald greens mixed with peacock blue are trending hues, according to Erinn Valencich of the new bridal database Bride Bop.
On the Fall 2012 runways at Gucci, Bottega Veneta and more, models sported deep-shaded pouts in the berry and burgundy families. There’s a way to channel the look without going goth. Blushington’s Head of Artistry, Emma Willis, advises “a red berry with pink undertones offset with very softly smoked, plumy mauve eyes or earthy coco browns and you’ll be the belle of the ball – just like Reese Witherspoon!”

When choosing how to be bedazzled, brides this season will strive for understated elegance. Jewels should complement the engagement ring so that it remains the showstopper piece, says Michelle Adorjan, the fashion director at Tacori. “We’re seeing brides invest in classic diamond stud earrings that are elevated with specific designer details, such as a bloom of diamonds – and that are special enough to be worn on the wedding day – but also practical enough to be worn daily when the wedding is over,” Adorjan tells us. Tacori’s Wedding Day Jewelry Collection is exclusive to Bloomingdale’s Century City.
If you’ve had your fill of the seemingly ever-popular dessert and candy bar, you’re in luck. Let us welcome the newest saccharine sensation in town: the mini cake. “Mini cakes usually accompany a sweetheart cake for the bride and groom to cut, while each guest get their own,” says The Butter End’s Kimberly Bailey, who most recently crafted the cake for Drew Barrymore’s Montecito nuptials. “Some couples are also opting for a single small cake for each table, differing in style slightly from table to table.” Bailey dreamt up an ombré style for Barrymore, a reigning trend in the summer that may carry over.

Fall weddings, you had us at “mini cakes.”

- Allison Kornberg Walch

Thursday, September 20, 2012

Obamas Wedding Anniversary - Barack Obama Michelle Obama Wedding | Wedding Planning, Ideas & Etiquette | Bridal Guide Magazine

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11 Things Women Really Want From Wedding Night Sex

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Now, let's be honest here: The majority of married couples don't actually get around to having sex on their wedding night. You might as well scrap what all those rom-coms taught you -- after all the craziness that is surviving your wedding day intact, you're usually drunk, exhausted, or both. That said, who wants to be a statistic? (Especially on their wedding night.) We didn't!

I say, add "getting laid" to your wedding day to-do list -- and make it a priority. Men, here's a handy little guide to what your wife-to-be really wants to get out of the evening.

Undressing is sexy; slipping out of a 20-pound gown is not. It will be funny, and you should laugh long and hard about it. The same goes for all the other "bloopers" you're bound to experience that night.

Naughty Vows
You've already vowed to cherish and protect each other at all costs. Now it's time to make the juicier promises you fully intend to keep. You get where I'm going with this, right? Let's keep this post safe for work and let you fill in the blanks.

Background Music
This is the part where the movies got it right. Nothing sets the mood quite like a naughty playlist. (Insert her favorite slow jams here.)

Every woman wants to be told they're the most beautiful bride in the world on the Big Day. If your betrothed doesn't want the same shameless flattery between the sheets on the big night, she's lying. Case closed.

Liquid Confidence
Nerves and weddings go hand-in-hand -- even when you've known each other forever. Bring your bubbly of choice to the bedroom and pour as you play.

Having All Her Senses Engaged
You've got the touching covered, but what about her other senses? Be sure the room is scented, styled, and soundproofed to perfection. And, don't forget the sweets.

An Orgasm
Memo to all men: Your wedding night is not the time to go all selfish on your fiancée -- save that for marriage. (I kid!)

Slow things down -- what's the rush? The rest of the day will already feel like a blur by the time you enter your suite, so the after party is your chance to take your time and make more lasting memories.

Romance (Obviously!)
If your wife-to-be actually walked across the threshold and there are no lit candles in sight and no flowers to be found, men, you have already failed her -- try not to make it a habit when you get home.

Feeling Comfortable
I have nothing against bathroom sex, floor sex, or even patio sex -- they're a real rush! But no woman wants to wake up the morning after her wedding with weird bruises in unwanted places and zero recollection of how they got there. That's the complete opposite of romantic.

Skip the clichés and tell her what it really feels like to be laying next to the woman of your dreams on the most magical night of your life.

How to Stay Calm at the Altar

How do you stay calm at the altar? I'll tell you the secret: not only how to stay calm at the altar but also how to have a truly joyous wedding day. After counseling thousands of women over the last 14 years through their engagements, I can tell you with a fair amount of certainty what it takes to be a blissful bride. But first I'm going to tell you what most women do that nearly ensures that they'll be a wreck at their wedding.

Most women believe that the engagement is the time to plan their wedding. Sounds logical, right? You get engaged and within hours you set a date, book the location, secure a photographer, set up your wedding website, and begin making the countless lists of details that, when checked, will secure a fabulous wedding day. Most women focus on the externals -- the flowers, the dress, the rings, the colors -- believing the cultural message that has been told to them them since they were little girls that a perfect wedding translates into a perfect marriage and a perfect life. They're not consciously thinking about this equation; they don't have to since every media message has inundated them with this false belief, and as soon as they pick up a bridal magazine, the message is reinforced: If you plan a perfect wedding, you will look beautiful on your wedding day and live happily ever after.
The message is a lie, and I'll tell you why: a beautiful wedding and a calm bride actually have nothing do with perfect centerpieces. Who remembers the centerpieces two weeks after the wedding? When you think of the beautiful weddings you've attended in your life, do you remember the color of the napkins? Do you even recall what the bride's dress looked like? Not likely. A calm bride and a beautiful wedding are about what's happening emotionally, inside the bride and between the couple. When the bride is connected to herself and her partner, everybody feels it. We love weddings not because they're externally beautifully affairs but because they remind us of the highest aspects of ourselves, they fill us with hope, they elevate us to a realm slightly outside our normal, daily existence, and quite simply, they open our hearts to love.

And yet we tell women to spend their engagements obsessively focused on planning a perfect day. We guide them down a path that usually results in disconnecting from themselves and their partners, spending a boatload of money, and showing up on the wedding day looking like a ghost of themselves. The reasons for the perpetuation of this lie extend beyond the scope of this article, but suffice it to say what everyone intuitively knows: when you fall prey to the cultural pitfalls and turn into bridezilla, you create misery for yourself and everyone around you and do nothing to prepare yourself or your partner for a beautiful day and, far more importantly, a healthy foundation on which to begin your marriage.

So what's the antidote? What's the secret to a calm bride and truly beautiful day? The secret is fourfold:

1. Remember that the engagement, while on one level is a time to plan your wedding, is really about doing the emotional work that will allow you to transition healthfully into marriage. This means allowing yourself to feel grief that your single lifestyle and identity is over, fear about the unknown and uncertainty of marriage, vulnerability of opening your heart to the biggest commitment you've ever made, and a host of other uncomfortable feelings. Is it joyous and exciting as well? Absolutely! But for the sensitive soul, for someone who has struggled with transitions in the past and is no stranger to fear, grief, and anxiety, you will have to make room for these culturally undesirable feelings if you're going to experience joy and excitement.

2. Stay connected to your intention about your wedding day choices. Are you planning a wedding to impress others or to prove something to yourself or your community? Or are you planning a wedding as an expression of your and your partner's values and love? Planning a wedding can be a highly creative experience, but only if your intention is to express yourself instead of prove yourselves.

3. Stay connected to your fiancé. If it's not about the two of you, what is it about? Many women become so obsessed by the planning that their groom becomes an accessory in the whole affair. What I like to remind brides-to-be is that the only thing that truly matters on your wedding day is that both of you show up, not only physically but emotionally as well. If you spend your entire engagement obsessing about planning the perfect event, you're going to feel completely disconnected from yourself on your wedding day and you're going to look at your groom like he's a stranger. Is that really how you want to feel? The details are simply the container designed to hold the two of you as you transform from dating partners to husband and wife and celebrate your union. In other words, the details are the accessories, not your groom.

4. On your wedding day, let yourself feel whatever feeling arises. Wear waterproof eye makeup so that you can cry when you need to cry without worrying about your face! When you try to stuff the tears because "happy brides don't cry on their wedding day", you stuff the joy as well and end up looking and feeling like a zombie. It's normal to feel sad that your single life is ending! It's normal to feel sad when you let go of your dad's hand at the end of the aisle or when you dance with him at the reception! It's normal to feel scared, anxious, and numb as well. If you attach onto any of these "negative" feelings as meaning that there's something wrong, then judge them and push them down, you create a wall around your heart which doesn't allow the joy and calm to enter either. The wedding day, like all transitions, in a microcosm of life, so expect to feel every emotion times a hundred, allowing them all to flow through you so that you can be present to experience one of the most joyous days of your life.

If you follow these suggestions, which sound simple when outlined as a four-step process but are actually a 180 degree departure from the mainstream model that seduces you at every turn to externalize your motives and pursue perfection, you will find the true calm and bliss on your wedding day that you're seeking.

Pinterest Fun...

I have not posted some of my Pinterest Favorites in a while so I thought I would do so today. Here are great Wedding Keepsakes that I would LOVE to have........

Its Ok Thursdays....

Its OK to have Wine and a Bubble Bath for dinner sometimes... It makes you feel better, I know first hand.
Its OK to want Junk Food in the middle of Wedding planning, It helps you from causing bodily harm to people.
Its OK to let someone help you... It makes you a better you.
Its OK to Cry... No really, Its OK.
Its OK to want more for yourself in life, You just have to go out and get it.
Its OK to be Happy.. Nothing is bad about that.
Its OK to Love all things about LOVE...
Its OK to have Bridal Brain... Everyone gets it.

Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Photo of the Week

This Photo of the Week is from David and Renee's Wedding. It was a great time and as you can see... It was nothing short of silliness.
Got to love us and our silly ways.....

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Robbins Brothers Loves Team Jascott!!!!!

Me, Myself and I Party.....

So while I am sitting here with not much to do... I went over to my girl Christi's Blog and saw that she was doing Me, Myself and I today so I thought I would join in.....

1. When you are feeling down, what do you do to pick yourself up?

I find myself either with a nice glass of Champagne, Spending great times with friends and family or in the arms of Scott.

2. If you had to live in a different time period, which would you prefer?

I think it would be the 1970's. Even thought I was born at the tail end of it, I think it would be cool to rock bell bottom jeans and a Afro

3. What is the most creative Halloween costume you've ever worn?
I never did too much dressing up for Halloween but I do dress up in Photo booths....LOL
4. Five weird things about you we wouldn't know without being told:
1. I can touch my toes... and apparently that is a big thing for women because when I did it, I had a flock of people coming over to me like, You can do that???
2. I like for all the doors to be closed in the house.. Yes it is a little OCD but it makes me feel like everything and everyone is secure.
3. When I get nervous or overly anxious.. I tend to chew on my tongue... Well, I don't have a nervous twitch so that's my weirdo thing for sure.
4. I don't like scrambled or breakfast eggs but I can eat boiled eggs... It was from pregnancy and it just stuck with me, Don't know if would change if I had another child or not..
5. I don't like the sound of balloons being filled up or popping... it scares the shit out of me, but gun fire and fireworks I'm all over that.... Backwards for sure.
5. What would you tell your 16 year old self?
Dear Sweet 16,
All the heartache and pain of being a teenager finally pays off. You stuck through the tough times and life will get better. yes there will be some bumps in the road but look at you now.. Happy, Getting Married and even Acne Free (Smile). I Love Your Spirit, Drive and Ambition..Keep it up!

A Surprise Wedding Gift From President Obama

One couple received a truly memorable gift from our Commander-in-Chief after he nearly became an unintentional wedding crasher at their September 1 nuptials.

President Obama planned a last-minute rally at the Living History Farms in Urbandale, Iowa on September 1, attracting about 10,000 supporters — but he and his team made sure to wrap it up an hour before the couple's wedding ceremony was scheduled to start so that the two events wouldn't conflict.

"The staff and Secret Service were very gracious about it, and when it was over, they received this gift and note," a friend of the couple posted on Reddit.

wedding gift from obama
Photo Credit: Loren Paul
What a great keepsake from their big day!

14 Creative Ways to Make a Grand Exit

Throw Some Flowers

This classic ceremony exit never goes out of style. You can buy or make simple paper cones and fill them with rose petals, or any other kind of petal you like. Then simply leave them hanging at the end of each aisle or assign someone to quickly hand them out as guests exit the church.

Go For a Ride

This bicycle may not be built for two -- but that didn't stop this couple from riding off into the sunset (the bride sat on the handle bars!) We just love the "Just Married" basket at the front of the bike and the fun tin cans added to the back.

Take Cover

Rain or shine, colorful umbrellas can make for a great photo op. This couple handed them out to the bridal party to form an arch as they left the ceremony.

Pedal Away

If you're not exactly sold on the idea of pedaling yourself (we know -- wedding dresses can be heavy!) try out this unique getaway: a rickshaw. This couple even personalized their ride with their monogram and tied it into the rest of their wedding colors.

Make a Getaway

Nostalgic for the "good 'ole" days? Then why not bid adieu to your guests in a vintage ride, like this one. Just don't forget to deck it out with plenty of tin cans, ribbon, and a homemade "Just Married" sign.

Blow a Bubble

If your venue won't let you throw rice (and we know that plenty of them won't!), consider handing out cute bubble bottles to your guests for a light, whimsical finish to the ceremony. You can even buy bubbles with personalized labels to display your names or new monogram

Take a Ride

When it comes to destination weddings, depending on the location, cars may not be the most popular option. For this seaside affair, it was much easier -- and way cute! -- for the bride and groom to head off into the sunset on these bright red scooters.

Light the Way

If you left the ceremony with your guests throwing rose petals, you simply have to give them something else to do at the end of the reception. Sparklers like these will look great in photos and your guests will have fun holding them for you while you two run under the arch.

Take a Back Seat

Golf carts, like this one, can be a clever --and totally practical -- way to leave your ceremony if you're holding the wedding at a country club or golf resort. The best part about this ride is that you'll be able to face all of your guests as you wave goodbye.

Row Your Boat

While it may not be the speediest getaway, this is definitely one of the most romantic. If you can, why not leave your ceremony or reception by water, either by climbing into a row boat like this one or hopping into a larger boat or yacht.

Go Vintage

An old-fashioned car like this one will not only help you exit your ceremony, but you'll get plenty of attention during your drive to the reception. Old cars are a great way to come and go in style -- just make sure you have an alternative rain plan if the car has an open roof.

Hop a Ride

Think San Francisco is the only place you can hop a trolley? Think again. There are plenty of places around the country where you can rent a trolley, like this one, for the day to cart you and your entire bridal party around. The "Just Married" logo at the back adds an extra cute touch.

Make a Splash

At the end of their afternoon wedding, this bride and groom led the way by taking a quick dip in the ocean before leaving their guests for the day. If you're having a beachside wedding, going for a swim will certainly make for a dramatic exit. Plus, if you're up for it, this is the perfect time to get those "trash the dress" photos.

Get Carried Away

Nothing is quite as romantic as the idea of the bride being carried over the threshold by her groom. While we realize he may not be able to exactly carry you from the reception to your honeymoon suite, posing for a few photos, like this one, will definitely be album worthy.

5 Wedding Catering Options Your Guests Won’t Be Expecting

When it comes to wedding food, boring formal plated dinners are out and casual fun eats are in. Here are some awesome catering options to think about while planning your wedding this year that haven’t been done a million times before. Serving up these mouth watering morsels is sure the make your day a memorable experience for all.

Food Trucks

Give some of your local businesses a huge boost by hiring them to cater your wedding. Not only will the locals appreciate your business, but your guests will be thrilled at your unique personal taste and take on dining. You can hire a food truck instead of a buffet or sit-down dinner, or you could hire a food truck to come to the reception a few hours in to provide a late night snack for guests who have been drinking and dancing. Food trucks are also budget friendly

Bowl food

Bowl food is lighter than a buffet but is more substantial than canapes, and gives your guest a broader selection to choose from. The fair is served in small stylish ceramic pots with cutlery, and meant to be ate standing up, or on the move. I can’t think of a better way to mix and mingle aPict a wedding.


An absolutely perfect idea for an outside wedding reception. Have wicker baskets scattered throughout the reception location stocked with carrots, dips, hard cheeses, flatbreads, grapes, and a bottle of nice wine. Set up a station for guests to grab some of their favorite cocktails, while enjoying a game of croquet on the lawn etc. Have blankets and throws available for people who want them.

BBQ food

Have your favorite BBQ restaurant cater your wedding reception. You don’t have to be out West wearing cowboys at the rodeo to enjoy some authentic BBQ every once in awhile. Think beef brisket, baby back ribs, baked potatoes, sweet potato fries, variations of classic macaroni and cheese, and cornbread. Your guests will love it, and this is also a very kid friendly option if you have a lot of families with kids attending your wedding.

Breakfast for dinner

If you and your fiance are a big fan of brunch, then why not let your guests in on the fun? There’s nothing wrong with serving breakfast for dinner, in fact it’s such a good idea I might do it tonight! If you’re have a country style wedding, serve your guests a country style breakfast. Think sausage and egg casserole, french toast, crispy bacon, cheesy grits, and donut holes with dipping sauces for dessert. Don’t forget to have some mimosas and bloody mary’s to liven things up!

These five ideas are a great way to turn your ordinary every day wedding into something unique and get your guests talking. Not only will guests thank you for your creativity, but your stomach and wallet will as well. Enjoy and bon appetit!

10 Bachelorette Party Dos and Don’ts

Do: Communicate

Whether it's your best friend or your sister who's in charge of planning the festivities, talk to your girls about what you envision for the party. Do you feel like going out, or getting pampered -- or both? This is also your opportunity to lay down a few ground rules. Don't be afraid to set boundaries! Totally against any fake penises making an appearance? You're allowed to say so, and even to ban them -- nicely, of course. On the other hand, if you're not offended by a little phallic paraphernalia, let them know that too.

Don't: Be Bossy

While your thoughts and suggestions are welcome (and even helpful) to whoever is planning the party, that doesn't mean your ideas should include a full, preplanned itinerary you just happened to go ahead and put together.

Do: Give Your Girls Options

If your dream single-girl trip involves plane tickets and hotel rooms for everyone, offer a few budget-friendly alternatives closer to home. Maybe you'd love to head to Napa, but a local winery would be just as fun.

Don't: Get Wasted

Just because the stereotypical bachelorette party is a boozy night on the town with your best friends doesn't mean you have to drink yourself sick. Stay in control so you can remember the night, not spend the second half of it in the bathroom.

Do: Consider Renting a Dress

You'll obviously want to look hot, but instead of agonizing over buying a really expensive dress in the midst of all the money you're dropping on the wedding, rent a dress from a website like Just don't spill any G&T on it.

Do: Have a Theme

Something as simple as a karaoke night, a spa day or an old-school pajama party can count as a theme, but feel free to steal ideas from the college frat party arsenal. That's right, we went there. Toga party, anyone? We also love the idea of a Mad Men- or Boardwalk Empire-themed bash.

Don't: Kiss Another Guy

So this one is obvious but clearly important. If you go around announcing it's your bachelorette party, attractive bachelors will probably offer to buy you a drink. This is fine (and frugal and fun), but don't get too flirty. Remember: The whole point of this shindig is to celebrate your upcoming nuptials, oh right, to that guy. Speaking of guys, please, please skip the sweaty male stripper.

Do: Consider a Coed Party

A joint party won't work for every couple, but if you and your groom-to-be share the same group of friends, it might be kind of fun to get everyone together for one big prewedding party.

Don't: Invite Your Mom (or His)

No matter how cool she is (and we know some pretty cool moms), it's just weird to have your mom at a party like this. Even if you don't feel awkward, your girlfriends will probably feel strange taking shots with your mom. Just saying.

Do: Take Plenty of Photos

Keep your camera handy, or make sure at least one person is the DP (designated photographer), so you can capture lots of candid snapshots and posed glamour shots from the night or weekend. Take videos with your phone or a Flip camera, and maybe even ask your friends to record video messages to you as you say farewell to singlehood.

Monday, September 17, 2012

Music Monday "I Loved Her First"

Renee and her father danced to his for their Father/Daughter dance and I shead a few tears for sure. I have loved this song and it was nice to see them dance to it.

First Goal, Fricks and Fair!!

Hello my Blogger Buddies..... Here is the Weekend Recap!

Friday what I thought would be me getting off of work at normal time turned into 9pm... Yes 9pm on a Friday waiting on the Carpet people to come and do some cleaning on the 2nd floor. While I was waiting on them, I got a chance to FINALLY find Junior Bridesmaids shoes for Jacelyn and Xzyria.

I picked this shoe because it would go great with their dresses (The Shoe is Ivory by the way) and it gives them the sparkle they have been wanting as well.

After getting home, the kids had dinner and were heading off to bed so Scott and I made it a Netflix night and he made my day a little brighter with some Sweet Treats:

Its one of the many reasons I love him, he knows how to make me smile after a long day.

Saturday was jammed packed for us and we got off to an early start. It was Isaiah's First Soccer game and he was all ready and geared up to go!

The Golden Knights not only won their game but Isaiah scored a goal as well!! Great Job Big Guy!

Jace and I didn't get to the game, but we did take my Mom to get her dress altered and her shoes ordered for the big day.... Another check off the list.

We all pulled up at the house at the same time and we had to get ready for our afternoon stuff. Jacelyn and Isaiah were going over to Brandy's house for the day while Scott and I got ready for the Beck/Fricks Wedding!

So some of you might remember me talking about David and Renee before......

I have to say.. People come along in your life for one reason or another and David is one of those people for Scott and I. We all instantly clicked and when we met Renee, we knew that there was something special for him in her. This weekend was there wedding and besides our own wedding, I could have not been more excited to see 2 people be married than them. Here are a few highlights from their special day:

 The Beautiful Bride and Groom....

Guess who's next???

The beauty of Open Bar Photos... LOL

I have to tell you that I sat down in the seat without even looking at the fact that my name was on my Menu Card until Scott said some... So nice.

The Yummy Fillet. Scott's Choice.

The Halibut. My Choice.

And no evening would be complete without a Crazy Photo Booth Photo!

By the way, their wedding favors...Homemade Beer. So Sad that I forgot to take a picture of the beer table but we will be enjoying ours this weekend while we watch football with our friends.

Sunday we got up and headed out for family day at the LA County Fair! We love to go to eat, hang with the kids and sweat off a few pounds as well...LOL. Here are a few photos from the day:

The front gate Family Photo

The Boys cooling down...

Me and Mini Me... Love this one so much.

Walking on Sunshine.....

Somethings just should not be Deep Fried.... Just Sayin'

Boys on the water ride.... out of the 100 tickets Scott got, 72 went to this ride....LOL

The aftermath to the Water Ride.... Priceless.
After the day at the fair, we came home to cool down, have dinner do some laundry.
Here is whats on tap for this week:
1. Hair/Makeup Schedule
2. Cake Tasting this weekend
3. Work on the rest of the RSVP's
4. Gearing up for the Bachelorette Party.
5. Work on Scott's gift.
40 days to go.......