One Bride's Guide to Getting the Most Out of Your Honeymoon

From budget insight to scoring awesome "honeymooner" treatment, this brand-new bride has the details on maximizing your trip.

Amena, Orlando, Florida

After planning a wedding in less than a year with her now-husband, Dev, Amena couldn't wait to relax on her honeymoon. Married on March 21, 2015, the couple took off to Jamaica for six days following their big day. (Read his take on their honeymoon here.)

I wish I knew…to call ahead about the crowd.

We got married at the end of March, so we wanted to avoid spring-breakers at all costs. But it never occurred to us to find out ahead of time what the typical crowd was like at the resort. While we avoided the party scene, most of the other people at our resort were older, which was kind of a buzzkill. We were hoping to meet and hang out with other honeymooners, but because the clientele was older, there wasn't lively evening entertainment. I would definitely recommend asking what the hotel scene is like before you book.

I wish I knew…how far our budget could go.

Friends had recommended that we honeymoon at an all-inclusive from the get-go; that way we wouldn't have to worry about blowing our budget or stressing out about money while we were traveling. Once we came up with a budget (about $3,500), we both agreed to contribute about half and soon began researching options. Our goal was to get the most bang for our buck. Since we live in Florida, flying to the Caribbean wouldn't cost us too much, so the bulk of our budget could be spent on the hotel, food, and activities. After looking at reviews and prices of several all-inclusive resorts in the Caribbean, we decided on our Jamaican resort because it included the most: In addition to the room and food, excursions (like a hike to a nearby waterfall) and water sports (like scuba diving and snorkeling) were also part of the package. We loved not having to pay for anything while we were there; not thinking about money and how much everything was costing us helped us feel carefree.

I wish I knew…how well honeymooners are treated!

When you let people know you're on your honeymoon—whether it's your taxicab driver, your waiter or your hotel's reception desk—they go out of their way to treat you special. Our travel agency, HoneymoonsInc.com, told the resort that we would be on our honeymoon. When we checked in, a complimentary cheese-and-fruit tray was sent up to our room, and we got free 30-minute massages in the resort spa! No one told us to announce that we'd just got married, but once we mentioned it, it was so lovely to get extra attention and recognition. (Too bad we didn't say anything on our plane ride; maybe we could've gotten upgraded!) For us, this was our first trip alone together, and we really wanted it to be special—and by telling people that we were just married, we felt like everyone wanted to celebrate us.

I wish I knew…what a smart move it is to go right after the wedding.

Some couples want to wait a few weeks or months after their wedding to save up for the ultimate honeymoon. But I'm so glad that we got married and then went to Jamaica the very next day. After all the excitement and stress of wedding planning, being together away from everyone else and experiencing a little adventure was amazing. We had the chance to celebrate the experience of becoming husband and wife away from all the wedding excitement.

Budget Friendly Tips For Planning Your Honeymoon

Escape from wedding day stress and dip into honeymoon bliss with these budget-friendly tips.

After months of party-planning meetings, wedding related events and constant to-do lists leading up to your wedding, you deserve a fabulous honeymoon with your newlywed! Here are nine budget-friendly secrets for planning the most romantic trip of your life.

1. Find Travel PackagesThere are incredible honeymoon packages for newlyweds on any budget and craving any kind of destination. An all-inclusive package appeals because transportation, food and lodging are all included in one fixed price. You can find quotes fast at reputable sites such as Butterfield and Robinson, Jetsetter or Mr. and Mrs. Smith.

2. Get A Travel AgentSkip the time-consuming task of searching out destinations yourself and get to a pro. Let a travel agent who specializes in honeymoon travel work with your wish list and your budget requirements. If you’re on a tight budget, request hotels that have a ton of amenities and fabulous pools or beachfronts so you don’t feel the need to book additional excursions or trips off the resort property.

3. Choose An Exotic LocaleEver dreamt of taking that 10-day safari in South Africa? Diana Smullen of Hospitality Afrika says it’s a wise option for honeymooners on a budget. “Your dollar will go a long way in most developing nations allowing you to maximize your spend in these locations. Look for resorts like game lodges, where you are offered full board and two game viewing activities per day, all-inclusive.

4. Prioritize Your Wants
“Decide where you want to have the best experience and put your money towards that chosen location,” Diana suggests. Start off at a luxury safari lodge, Victoria Falls or on an island off of Mozambique, whatever your dream-stay may be, then opt for modest lodging and shift your focus to the outdoors. “Be prepared to compromise in lesser accommodations for the balance of your trip, particularly when you will be out all day at the beach or sightseeing.”

5. Charge ItConsider charging all of your big-ticket wedding-related expenses on an airline-affiliated credit card. Those charges can add up to frequent flyer miles, which may be enough to get you free upgrades or even free tickets!

6. Seek Frequent Flyer DealsJoin a frequent-flyer program now! There are so many deals and upgrades offered from partner car rental companies, hotels or cruise ships you can take advantage of.

7. Upgrade It... For FreeThe art of a fabulous honeymoon experience comes down to planning and making it absolutely clear to everyone that you'll be a newlywed. It's code for getting special treatment. When making reservations, state that you're arranging your honeymoon before requesting that ocean view. Then get all the details confirmed in writing.

8. Call The ConciergeSpeak to the concierge to plan any of those romantic extras you want. Whether it's an intimate dinner on the beach or passes to a major museum show, the hotelier will bend over backwards to make sure your stay is fabulous. And be sure to ask about discounts and packages for whatever excursion you’re interested in! Most concierges will do their best to help you with these discounts, but those who don’t ask, don’t get!

9. Pre-Departure PaperworkTake care of any paperwork needed for traveling well in advance of your wedding. Is a passport or visa needed? Does your destination honeymoon require inoculations? Print and organize your itinerary so you have all the addresses, reservations and confirmation numbers ahead of time to minimize stress and unnecessary costs down the road.

10. Escape Right AwayDepart for your honeymoon immediately after the wedding. Scheduling may make it more practical to delay your trip for a week, but the momentum may be lost if you wait. Besides, you deserve to escape after planning a major party for months!

11. Amp Up The RomanceIt’s so easy to create romance on a budget! Consider running a steamy hot bath (free) with bubbles (ask the concierge), tea lights ($5) and music (create a playlist before your departure). Hotels will usually place a bottle of champagne or wine in your room as a gift, but don’t be afraid to ask if they haven't! 

5 Digital Detox Honeymoons

Photo: Courtesy of: Puntacana Resort & Club
 

It's hard to imagine life without fast Internet access, cable, and phones, but — a week? With just your new hubbie and nothing else to interrupt? Now, that could be perfect. Here, five places to escape to together for an unplugged honeymoon.

1. Jade Mountain, St. Lucia
This cliff-side Caribbean resort offers 600 jungly acres, set high above the beaches. Rooms not only don't have TVs, phones, or radios, they also don't have air conditioning: the fourth wall is open, letting in the breezes and the sound of nature; jademountain.com

2. Little Palm Island, Florida Keys
Coconut palms, white sand, clear blue water ... you can actually have all of these things without leaving the country. Hop a sea plane or boat to this private island, just off the coast of Florida, and you'll find an unplugged resort; littlepalmisland.com


3. Rockhouse, Jamaica
For true lovers of getting off the grid, Rockhouse may just be the place: There's no wifi, no TVs, and no phones at this Jamaica property. Expect the two of you, a couple of Red Stripes, a pool, and jerk for dinner, all set to a reggae soundtrack; rockhousehotel.com

4. Petit St. Vincent
This private island in St. Vincent and the Grenadines is so off-the-grid, you raise a flag to signal to the staff that you want service in your bungalow, and the cozy lounge chairs by the surf are actually hammocks; petitstvincent.com

5. Red Mountain Resort, Utah
This fitness-focused resort hidden among the red rocks offers a hiking-and-biking-filled itinerary, along with spa cuisine and a nature-focused experience; ; redmountainresort.com

5 Honeymoon Details Not to Worry About

So clearly, you should not worry about anything while on your honeymoon—the focus should be on having fun and enjoying time with your new spouse. However, there may be a few nagging things that may stress you out just a bit before you leave on your big trip—but shouldn’t. Here’s our list of things not to worry about before you head off on the trip of a lifetime.

The Weather
There’s no need to obsessively check the weather for your honeymoon destination—because you can’t control it. Even if the weather isn’t ideal, have a positive attitude and talk to folks at your hotel to find out fun activities you can participate in. And there’s the always-wonderful activity of snuggling up with your sweetie in your hotel room. Remember, it’s all about spending time with your new spouse, not being outside in the sun 24/7.

Your Wardrobe
You do not, and we repeat, do not, have to buy a completely new wardrobe for your honeymoon. Sure, it’s nice to pick out a few new outfits for the trip, but this is vacation, not a fashion runway. As long as you’re comfortable and relaxed, you’ll look fabulous no matter what!



Planning Every Minute
While it’s nice to have a few planned activities during your honeymoon, do not feel that you have to have every second scheduled out. It’s to have downtime to relax, explore, snuggle, have a leisurely lunch, and generally do whatever you want! Also, you may hear about exciting attractions, or restaurants in your destination after you arrive, so be sure to leave flexibility in your schedule so you can fit in these last-minute activities.

Anything at Home
Remember, you are on your honeymoon. We repeat: You. Are. On. Your. Honeymoon. That means, no emails, no phones, try to go off the grid as much as possible. Assign a friend or family member to check in on your house and be an emergency contact if you’ll be away for a long period of time, but otherwise, try to avoid worrying about any potential issues at home.

Taking a Ton of Photos
Of course, it’s nice to have photos of your honeymoon, but there’s no need to go overboard. If you forget to shoot photos at an attraction, don’t worry too much about it—you were probably having too much fun to think about photos, anyway! And your friends don’t want to scroll through thousands of images on Facebook anyway!

18 Honest Photos That Show What The Wedding Night Is Actually Like

People often have a romanticized notion of what the wedding night is like. Newsflash: It isn't all rose petals, orgasms and fancy champagne.

Recently, we asked our readers to send us a photo that more accurately represents what the night after the wedding was like for them. Some couples chose In-N-Out over pricey room service. Others opted for a peaceful night in their own bed instead of a night at a swanky hotel. And guess what? They still said it was perfect.

 

Courtesy of Gina Toth

 

"On the way back to our hotel, we were starving since we didn't have ANYTHING at our wedding except some cake. Californian tradition, and it was perfect."

 

 

Courtesy of Ashley Dowdy 

 

"My husband took this picture at 3 in the morning when we finally left the after-party at our hotel. This pretty much sums up the last 24 hours." 

 

Courtesy of Julia Greenstein

 

"After partying with friends and family until about 3:30 a.m., we finally made it back up to our room and found this on our mirror from the best man and maid of honor!" 

 

 

Courtesy of Kristen M. Dennis 

 

"Playing around at the Surf and Sand Hotel." 

 

Courtesy of Dr. DeAndrea Matthews 

 

"The only photo from the wedding night. My husband running my bath water." 

 

 

Courtesy of Veronica Rios-Campos and Richie Campos 

 

"We were still so wound up from the evening, but I did not have enough energy to even get out of my wedding dress or take my hair stuff out. We sat and read all the well wishes and sipped on hot cocoa in our new 'Mr. and Mrs.' mugs." 

 

 

 

 Courtesy of Micah and Karen Kronjaeger

 

"After a monsoon washed out roads and a bridge, two-thirds of our friends were not able to make it because it was so flooded. These were the first things out of our pockets: his wallet, phone, pocket knife and my veil with ALL bobby pins and bouquet. And hello mother-in-law on hubby's phone. It's the epitome of our married life."

 

 

Courtesy of Heather McKenzie 

 

"My husband ordering at the drive-thru at Hardee's the night of our wedding. We were starving."

Courtesy of Mercedes Mondragon

 

"We didn't have a fancy wedding, it was in my parents' backyard so we had no bridal suite. After the wedding we slept for the first time in our freshly rented apartment, so there was a lot to do. This collage is a picture of us dancing and later him arranging the living room, me sleeping and our first not-so-fancy breakfast as a married couple. It's not the normal wedding night but we loved it!"

 

 

Courtesy of Dave Cummings

 

"Me rapping LL Cool J's 'Mama Said Knock You Out' after the reception was over. I rapped and her parents still like me." 

 

 

Courtesy of Tara and Al Belmondo

 

"After our wedding reception was over, my feet were killing me! My hubby carried me upstairs to our suite!"

 

 

Christina Iafrate 

 

"We decided to cancel our hotel room next to the hall so we could go home and sleep in our own bed. My husband had a few drinks so I drove home in my giant wedding dress!" 

 

 

Courtesy of Carissa Jensen

 

"My husband and I were married while on safari in Tanzania. Afterwards our guide arranged a campfire beneath the full moon." 

 

 

Courtesy of Karen and David 

 

"After the wedding when we came back to our house. He carried me across the threshold." 

 

 

Courtesy of Kaelyn Row

 

"My husband took a bubble bath in our hotel room solo! I didn't want to mess up my hair for brunch the next day." 

 

 

Courtesy of Sara Stanford 

 

"We never dress up and I think we were pretty smitten with not only each other, but ourselves! After we finally put our phones down, we got into jammies and watched 'Seinfeld' in Spanish and fell asleep by midnight. It was perfect." 

 

 

Courtesy of Elizabeth Colvin

 

"My husband and I spent the rest of the day and night celebrating our daughter's first birthday after we surprised everyone and got married at the backyard party!" 

 

 

Nicole Ruffo 

 

"Tired after a long day."

 

 

 

Courtesy of Colleen Temple

 

"Right when we got back to our room. Partied out!"

6 Sexy Ways to Amp Up Your Wedding Night

Photo: Getty Images
 
Wedding-night sex certainly has the potential to be hot. But after a night on the dance floor, flitting from guest to guest and indulging in a couple — OK, four — signature cocktails, your libido can take backseat to your desire to get your snooze on.

With these expert tips, however, we'll have you racing back to your hotel room to rip each other's clothes off and up-the-ante on your wedding-night lovemaking.

Take a moment for just the two of you pre-hotel time.
"I am a huge advocate of the bride and groom sneaking off to an empty room or in their limousine to get a little naughty," says sex expert Nikki Ransom-Alfred. "The wedding day is not the day to be withholding passion — it's the day to show it to each other."

Indulge in a couple cocktails — but cut yourself off when you've hit your limit.
"Having a glass or two of wine, will also help to loosen you up, increase the blood flow in the body, which will help put you in the mood," Ransom-Alfred points out.


Keep the meaning behind the day in mind.
"Always remember what this day is about and that's how much you love each other," Ransom-Alfred says. "The more connected you are feeling — and not worrying about the wedding too much itself — the more passionate the sex will be."

Think ahead with a sex to-do list.
"Try a new sex act and try new sex positions on your wedding night," suggests Ransom-Alfred. "Perhaps even create a 'Top 10' list together of everything you'd like to try that night. Get wild, adventurous and creative."

Take a trip to an adult store.
"Visit an adult toy store, either in person or online, and pick out a toy or game to play with each other that night," Ransom-Alfred says.

Consider starting with a rub-down.
"Bring massage oils, flavored if you like. That way you can rub each other down after your big day, release those 'feel good' endorphins to relax and arouse you both," suggests Ransom-Alfred.

7 Honeymoon Destinations That Will Be Huge in 2015

Wedding planning can be stressful, but the honeymoon is a sweet, sweet reward. If you're planning a trip for 2015, you may want to consider one of these trending honeymoon destinations. Whatever season you choose to travel in, a world of incredible locales awaits.

 

 

 

Photo by: R See Photography on Munaluchi Bridal via Lover.ly

 

 

1. Turkey. For the couple who loves history, Istanbul is perfect, especially in the spring. The days are long and the weather is calm throughout the country. Because of its welcoming culture, incredible landscapes, and luxurious resorts, Turkey  is becoming increasingly popular for tourists all over the world.

 

2. Italy. A longtime favorite of many couples, Italy is a feast for all of the senses. Consider Rome, Florence, or the Amalfi coast. (Lauren Conrad headed to Italy on her recent honeymoon!) Shack up with your sweetie on Lake Cuomo, and keep your eyes peeled for George and Amal.

 

3. Indonesia. A long (but worthwhile!) flight for those of us in the US, Indonesia boasts ancient cities, unbeatable beaches, and French-inspired cuisine. This exotic locale will leave you and your love feeling oh-so-inspired.

 

4. Japan. There's something for everyone on this island. The white sand beaches of Okinawa, the hustle and bustle of Tokyo, or the hot springs of Northern Japan. This country is particularly beautiful in the fall, when the maple leaves turn lavish shades of red and gold.

 

5. New England. After late-summer or fall nuptials, honeymooning in New England can be the perfect continuation of the festivities. World-renown for its autumn foliage, places like New Hampshire, Vermont, and Maine offer cabin or inn rentals for a crisp and colorful getaway.

 

6. Northern California. For the fall bride, this is perhaps the best time of year to visit cities like San Francisco, Sacramento, or Sonoma. The leaves turn to match the hue of the "Golden State," tourists crowds thin, and couples have a wider range of places to stay and enjoy.

 

7. Belize. The well-traveled bride and groom will love Belize; it offers the warmth and sun of many Central American countries, without a language barrier for English-speaking couples. Explore the white sand Caribbean beaches, learn to make chocolate in Toledo, or just cuddle up as newlyweds in one of Belize's charming hotels.

The Top 10 Honeymoon Destinations Of 2014, According To Facebook

A recent study by Facebook has some surprising revelations about the post-wedding travel tendencies of 2014's newlyweds.


Facebook gathered data from couples who "checked in" at destinations more than twenty miles from their homes within two weeks after posting a marriage life event. While the study is far from scientific, it does provide some interesting data about Facebook users.


Namely, although relaxing beach towns predictably claimed nine of the top 10 spots, Las Vegas was the most popular destination among both international and American newlyweds. Sin City was significantly more popular for international couples than those from the U.S., or as Facebook put it, "Newlyweds from the US were much less likely to check into Las Vegas on Facebook than couples from outside the US."


The graph below shows the median distance traveled by honeymooners based on country of origin. Couples from South Korea ventured the farthest, traveling more than 4,000 miles from home, while Americans' median distance was just over 500 miles. (Click on the image to view a larger version).



Here are the top 10 destinations among couples worldwide:

1. Las Vegas, U.S.A.



2. Lahaina, U.S.A.



3. Honolulu, U.S.A.



4. Playa del Carmen, Mexico



5. Cancún, Mexico



6. Punta Cana, Dominican Republic



7. Montego Bay, Jamaica



8. Antalya, Turkey



9. Castries, St. Lucia



10. Gramado, Brazil

What to Know About All-Inclusive Honeymoons

photo credit: Honua Kai Resort and Spa

 

 

If you look in the back of just about any bridal magazine, you’ll see an abundance of advertisements for all-inclusive honeymoon packages. For many couples, this can prove enticing. Imagine not having to spend all that time coordinating flights, picking hotels, worrying about land transportation, or trying to budget for food and excursions. Sure sounds nice, doesn’t it?
While there are many benefits to choosing an all-inclusive honeymoon package, it’s important to note that not every “all-inclusive” is the same. Here are four of the key things you’ll want to consider before booking:


1. Just what is included? All-inclusive packages have a broad interpretation of the term “inclusive.” Be sure to read the fine print so you know if things like all meals, alcoholic beverages, gratuities and taxes, and off-site excursions are included in your rate. There can also be up-charges for travel at certain times of the day or year, so don’t get caught off-guard there.


2. Is it really a good deal for us? Do you and your spouse drink alcoholic beverages? Do you actually take excursions? Are you foodies who plan to experience cuisine outside of what’s included in the resort’s buffet? If you don’t actually need or intend to make use of the items included in an inclusive honeymoon package, you might not be saving yourself any money. Make sure the package is right for your needs.


3. Will the resort environment suit us? Some all-inclusive resorts cater to families, some to retirees, and others to honeymooners and romantics. Some are targeted towards adventurous and active couples who love off-site activities, while others encourage relaxation and indulgence. Be sure you book somewhere that will make your honeymoon as special as you’ve always dreamed.


4. Am I going to get what I expect? Keep in mind that all companies put their best foot forward in their marketing and sales efforts. You’ll find the best pictures and testimonials on a resort’s collateral. Before you book, read reviews from other couples who have already experienced the package you’re considering. This is the best way to help you make a decision on what’s right for you.
The bottom line is that you should do your homework before booking an all-inclusive honeymoon. Only you and your future spouse know what will fit your vision and budget. Don’t get caught by surprise by any fine print, and trust real reviews as you make your decisions. If you do, you’ll both be able to kick back and relax as you celebrate your new life together!

Budget Honeymoons: 15 Budget Honeymoon Ideas

No one wants to skimp on their honeymoon. Posh accommodations, intimate meals, and soothing massages rank high on the wish list of virtually every newlywed, but most people don't have an unlimited expense account. No need to take the backpack-and-hostel route -- just focus on these five areas to cut down your honeymoon costs.

The Planning

A little legwork early in your engagement goes a long way toward balancing your honeymoon budget.

1. Consider a travel agent
It's easy to find a flight and book a hotel over the Internet, so the idea of working with a travel agent might seem antiquated. While it's not for everyone, Tim Leffel, author of Make Your Travel Dollars Worth a Fortune, observes that a travel agent can save money for those who don't have a specific destination in mind. "If you just want to go to a nice Caribbean island and stay in a hotel on the beach, agents can often find deals that you might not run across yourself." So if your heart's set on the Four Seasons in Nevis, use the Web. If you're open to any number of islands and resorts, see what a travel agent has to offer.

2. Use frequent flier miles
If you've charged wedding expenses, your honeymoon is the perfect time to cash in all the bonus points you racked up on your credit card. Free airfare is great, of course, and even if you don't have enough miles for that, you can still go for an upgrade from coach to first class, allowing you to begin and end your honeymoon in style.

3. Start a honeymoon registry
As a traditional part of attending your wedding, guests will give you gifts, and the majority of them will shop straight from your wedding registry. If you have ample linens and china's just not your style, set up a honeymoon registry and have guests pay for part (or even all) of your trip in lieu of traditional gifts. Sites like thebigday.com or honeymoonwishes.com offer registries for a small percentage of the total gift. You can also register at resorts like Marriott or Disney.

The Destination

An open mind while picking a honeymoon spot gives you a better chance to find a good deal.

4. Take advantage of shoulder seasons
Every destination has a high and low season -- during the high season there are crowds and high prices, while the low season is cheaper (usually because the weather is lousy). Shoulder seasons, however, are right on the cusp of high and low, so the prices are more reasonable because there's far less demand and the weather is still appealing. Shoulder season for the Caribbean starts right after spring break. "Mid-April to mid-June is a fantastic time to hit the Caribbean," Leffel says. (Should you prefer a European honeymoon, look into the late spring and early fall.)

5. Go where the dollar hasn't deflated
The poor currency exchange can sabotage your budget. The dollar has become increasingly puny compared to the euro, so seek a destination where your money still has some worth. Leffel recommends heading anywhere in Spanish-speaking Latin America -- from Mexico down to Chile -- or check out our sidebar for the best budget honeymoons.

6. Consider an all-inclusive
One of the best reasons to honeymoon at an all-inclusive resort is that you have a clear estimate of how much your trip will cost and budget accordingly. Find out exactly what you're paying for and factor in a couple of meals at restaurants outside the resort, day trips, or other excursions that might not be included. Then you'll have a solid idea of how much you'll spend.

The Transportation

Getting from point A to point B can be the bulk of your bill, but there are easy ways to save.

7. Fly off-peak
Flights are less expensive on certain days of the week. If you're traveling domestic, fly on a Sunday to avoid business travelers. If you're going abroad, find a better deal by leaving on a Monday or Tuesday.

8. Ask if airport pickup is included
When you book a hotel, try to score a ride from the airport (some hotels offer complimentary transportation). If a taxi is your only option, hail a cab in an area of the airport designated for transportation rather than riding with some guy who sidles up at baggage claim and offers a lift.

9. Use mass transit
Unless you're renting a car, use mass transit as much as possible. Cab rides, while convenient, inevitably wreak havoc on your budget. Before you travel, familiarize yourself with your honeymoon spot's main modes of transportation, be it metro, tram, or bus. Saving money isn't the only benefit of mass transit -- in congested cities, the metro is very often the quickest way across town.

The Hotel

A dismal room can ruin a trip, but saving money doesn't have to mean staying in a dump.

10. Get a room with no view
Check any hotel's website and you'll find a range of room rates. A room's size and view are two factors that hike up the price. Cut your accommodation's cost by booking a room looking upon a slightly less attractive landscape. When you spend most of your time on the beach, you'll hardly notice whether your room has a view of the ocean or a garden, and the savings can be significant.

11. Investigate packages
If a hotel offers a "honeymoon package," Leffel advises taking a close look to see if it's really a money-saving deal. If the offer is six nights for the price of five, that's worthwhile. If the package brings an evening rose petal turndown service plus champagne for an added $200, it's cheaper to forgo the extras and book at the normal room rate.

12. Mention you're newlyweds
You can often leverage the fact you're on your honeymoon for special (and free) treatment. While there are no hard rules for the practice -- or guarantees the hotel will do anything -- it's worth telling the receptionist you'll be spending your first days of married life with them. We've heard of couples getting complimentary room upgrades. It's also worth dropping the h-word when you're at airport check-in, and any bartender's bound to offer a round on the house.

The Food

An extraordinary honeymoon requires great food and drink, but the costs of eating out add up. Learn how to maximize your meal money.

13. Stray from the hotel
A hotel's restaurant is definitely hassle-free dining, but that convenience often comes with a marked-up price. Consult a guide book for some other options.

14. Talk to locals
With some insider info, you'll find an unassuming fish stand in a Caribbean market or a hole-in-the-wall bistro on a European side street that serves the best meal of your entire trip. Ask the local baker, butcher, or fishmonger for their pick for the best bite in town -- chances are that it will be reasonably priced and utterly delicious.
15. Prepare a few meals
Making your own lunch doesn't have to lack romance. Go to the grocery store and stock up on sandwich ingredients, fruit, and other picnic goods. Trek to a secluded spot and enjoy a private lunch. You'll save money without missing out on the fond memories every honeymooner deserves.

-- Miles Stiverson

The Ultimate Sex Advice for Newlyweds

Finally, alone at last! Top experts offer their best tips for keeping your relationship hot and exciting long after the honeymoon.

By: Michele Bender

 

One of the fabulous things about marrying your soul mate is experiencing a unique connection and level of familiarity. But when things are too comfortable in the bedroom, it can cause problems. “Before you’re married, your sex life has little competition in your relationship,” explains Debra Macleod, coauthor of Lube Jobs: A Woman’s Guide to Great Maintenance Sex. “But after you’re married, sex has to compete with conflicting schedules, money concerns, in-laws and eventually children. It takes a toll on your sex life, especially when compounded by the increase in sexual familiarity and the decrease in honeymoon hormones flowing through your veins!”
Though it’s important to recognize that your love life will change over time, there’s a lot you can do to maintain that spark. Here, tips for keeping things hot long past the honeymoon.

1. Reach Out & Touch Someone

Several studies show that the simple act of hugging for between 30 and 60 seconds increases levels of oxytocin, a hormone that acts as a neurotransmitter in the brain and contributes to a sense of attachment, notes Ian Kerner, Ph.D., a sex therapist and author of Passionista: The Empowered Woman’s Guide to Pleasuring a Man. Kissing and holding hands reap those same unique benefits.

2. Let's Talk About Sex

Though you’d think a sex expert as famous as Dr. Ruth would give advice that was, well, sexier, she says communication is the key to bedroom bliss throughout your marriage. “If you keep your needs and desires inside your heads, then the likelihood is that your sex life will slowly diminish in strength and intensity,” says Dr. Ruth. “But if you explain your likes and dislikes, then together you can create a very good, long-lasting sex life.” No one’s saying this is a topic that’s easy to discuss– even with someone as close to you as your mate—but doing so today is like an insurance policy for the future. “With a solid foundation, even if there are valleys in your sex life, such as during the years when small babies are around, you can climb back toward those peaks,” says Dr. Ruth.

3. Hold on Tight

Sex therapist Ian Kerner emphasizes the importance of having as much physical contact as possible on a daily basis. “It may sound obvious, but once you’re married you tend to become less lovey-dovey and more complacent as you sit side by side, tapping away on your laptops, rather than holding hands or hugging.”

4. Prioritize It

After that walk down the aisle, life gets busy with daily routines and your To Do list gets more crowded, sending sex tumbling to the bottom. Worse, once you’re living together it’s easy to assume that you can have sex whenever you want, and thus you don’t make time for it. But if you don’t prioritize your love life at the beginning of your marriage, it’ll be harder to do so in the future. Kerner advises consciously making sex part of your daily schedule. For example, take a shower together each morning or go to bed half an hour earlier. If the thought of scheduling sex makes you cringe, you still should leave enough room for sparks to fly. “After all, sex can’t happen if you’re on Facebook for hours and finally collapse into bed at midnight,” says Kerner.

5. Do Some Self Discovery

"Sometimes getting married takes away the thrill of feeling desperately sought after,” says sex therapist Aline Zoldbrod, Ph.D., author of Sex Smart. “And it’s not uncommon for women to find that their desire goes down at this point.” To keep your libido going strong, learn about your sexuality. Figure out how and where you like to be touched and how to communicate that to your partner. “Now that the ‘chase’ is over, you need to learn your own recipe for desire and arousal,” says Zoldbrod. “Because the more pleasurable sex is for you, the more you’ll want it.”

6. Shake Things Up

“Add excitement by introducing new elements,” says Macleod, who suggests sex toys, erotica, role-playing and new positions. “If you keep sex new and interesting, it will naturally rise to the top of your priority list.”

7. Go for the Novelty

Keeping mental tabs on when, where and how you have sex can help keep the passion alive. “Ask yourself: Is it too predictable? Do you always do the same things in bed?” says Macleod. If the answer is yes, spice things up. Surprise your mate with sexy lingerie or get romantic somewhere other than the bedroom.”

8. Hang Your "Do Not Disturb Sign"

Day-to-day life can get so hectic that it’s easy to live as if you’re ships passing in the night. Romantic weekend getaways can remedy this. “Before you’re married, every weekend is romantic,” notes Macleod. “Tag on a few years of marriage, however, and intimate couple time becomes harder to find than a pair of perfectly fitting jeans.” If an out-of-town adventure is too pricey, transform your bedroom into a romantic love nest with candelight and flowers. Or else, book a night at a local hotel, B&B or campground, or make it a “stay-cation” and pitch a cozy tent in your backyard. P.S. Be sure to leave those BlackBerrys and cell phones behind!

9. Stay Healthy and Fit

“Exhaustion is the number-one reason long-term couples become less sexually active. In fact, many couples claim that it’s fatigue, more than familiarity, that most often extinguishes their libido,” says Macleod. It becomes easier just to switch off the lights and drop off to sleep. Before you know it, you’re wondering what happened to your formerly hot sex life. Ward off this all-too-common situation and give your energy level a big boost by eating a healthy diet that limits sugar and fat and contains fresh produce, lean protein and good-for-you carbs and fats. Also, make sure to exercise regularly. “As mundane as it sounds, being active during the day will give you the stamina to stay up late at night,” says Macleod. “And what’s great about being in the early years of marriage is that the healthy habits you make now will set the pace for the rest of your life together.” Many couples find that trying to schedule exercise time together helps with motivation—you can keep each other going even during those inevitable times when you both feel too tired. It’s worth it!

10. Go Beyond the Bedroom

Pump up the passion under the covers by doing other fun things together. “Part of what bonds people and creates sexual energy is that sense of play and newness,” says Zoldbrod. In fact, research shows that novelty stimulates the transmission of a brain chemical called dopamine, which is important for arousal and excitement, adds Kerner. Sure, you can get that feeling of novelty by trying out new positions in the bedroom, but you can also get it from watching an athletic event together, going to a play, traveling to a destination that you both decide on, spending time with friends or anything else in which the two of you share a new experience.

11. Be High Maintenance

“It’s far easier—and more enjoyable—to keep a love life working than it is to try and fix it after it’s broken,” says Macleod, who stresses the importance and effectiveness of “maintenance sex” in long-term marriages. This is a tried-and-true way to deal with disparate sex drives and differing levels of sexual interest that occur naturally at different times, say, if one of you is feeling preoccupied by problems at work. “The less interested partner may simply agree to have sex, just to keep things going,” says Macleod. If performed with affection and received with respect and love, this kind of sex can help maintain your sexual and emotional bonds, which strengthens your marriage as a whole. Adds Macleod: “Sexual intimacy is one of the primary things that distinguishes your married relationship from all your other relationships and it deserves the attention of both partners to be sure that it stays well maintained.”

9 Ways To Have A Non-Cliche Hawaii Wedding

Love Hawaii, but hate the cliched, resort-style weddings it's famous for? Get adventurous and try one of these ridiculously awesome alternatives. Your guests will thank you.

1. Normally, nothing scares you, but saying your vows in front of everyone seems terrifying. Make it a more private experience by saying "I do" while falling from 12,000 feet. Sky dive into your reception from the breathtakingly scenic North Shore of Oahu and you'll have the ultimate glow from the adrenaline rush.





2. We've all seen dogs incorporated into weddings, but what about sea turtles or dolphins? Get hitched with Nemo as your witness with a scuba wedding. You won't be able to actually say your vows, but you'll exchange rings and use hand signals underwater to communicate your undying love. Nonverbal communication, after all, is the bedrock of a healthy marriage.





3. Not that into the whole white dress thing? Embrace the great nature in Hawaii and go au naturel for your wedding day. It may sound crazy at first, but there's something appealing about stripping away all the material aspects of the wedding industry...





4. Perhaps you've visited Hawaii and been turned off by the plethora of brides in Waikiki. You want something more intimate, something that captures all of Hawaii's beauty, but none of its tourists. Well, take a hike. Romantic destinations like dramatic cliffs and sweeping canyons are just a hike away.





5. You're starting a new life together; why not start the day together with a sunrise wedding. It's quiet, poetic, and beautiful. Haleakala crater on Maui is 10,000 feet above sea level and early risers who brave the chilly temperatures up there are typically above the cloud banks, giving you a heavenly view.





6. If you would move mountains for your loved one, why not climb one. For rock climbing enthusiasts, Hawaii offers a ton of boulders as well as some awesome crags, often with rainbow backdrops.





7. Want to make a statement about the passion in your relationship? For only money, you and your betrothed can be whisked away in a private helicopter and taken lava-side for your nuptials. Warning: it can get pretty hot.





8. Want to be surrounded by nature, but not necessarily in it? Enjoy the life aquatic from the comfort of an air-conditioned, private submarine and start your life together 130 feet underwater.





9. Surfing may be typically Hawaiian, but there's nothing commonplace about sitting in the middle of the serene blue water in your wedding dress. Plus, nothing says compatibility like being on the same wave, literally.

Where NOT to Honeymoon

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What a honeymoon should include: romance, relaxation, new bikinis, and the "do not disturb" sign displayed 24/7. What it shouldn't include: daylong layovers, machetes, subzero temperatures, and male "sponsors" to escort female travelers (?). So before booking that post-nuptial vacay, read on. Unless you're Anthony Bourdain or Lisa Ling, these places may not be worth the stress.

by Shawn Bean

Cuba
Yes, we saw the pics of Jay-Z puffing a gordo and Beyonce rocking tropical prints and a beehive. But the embargo still makes travel to the island nearly impossible for U.S. citizens. The celeb couple visited Cuba on a people-to-people license: travel authorized by the U.S. Treasury Department under the guise of "cultural engagement... and supporting the development of peaceful, independent activity and civil society." Translation: It helps to have several multi-platinum albums.



Bhutan
For years, the Himalayan kingdom of Bhutan abided by a strict "high value low impact" tourism policy: visitors must be part of an official Bhutanese tour group, apply for an approved visa from the tourism council, and pay a $200-per-day visitor's fee. A couple years ago, the rules started to loosen up. The result: In 2012, Bhutan tripled its annual visitor total to 100,000. Great news, except when you consider that Florida welcomes that many people every 10 hours.



Saudi Arabia
Leisure travel to this monarchy, bookended by the Red Sea and Persian Gulf, is anything but easy. Visas are issued only for work, visits with relatives, and religious pilgrimages by Muslims. Female visitors must be accompanied by a "sponsor" (husband, brother or other male family member).



Kiribati
Leave on Monday, arrive on Thursday. That's the reality of traveling to this atoll in the middle of the Pacific. Here's a sample itinerary: After departing LAX, you're facing 63 hours in transit, including daylong layovers in Sydney and Fiji. (International flights only serve this destination twice a week). And that one-way ticket just cost you $6,200.



Angola
A subtropical locale with more than 1,000 miles of Atlantic coastline, the African nation of Angola makes for quality postcard fodder, but the tourism industry remains in its infancy. A nearly 30-year civil war ended in 2002, leaving Angola with a crippled infrastructure: crumbling roads, nominal oversight for air travel, and little security. The U.S. Department of State recommends that visitors "avoid travel after dark... and no travel should be undertaken on roads outside of cities after nightfall." So maybe avoid the "bars filled and local music and dancing" that the Angolan Embassy promotes on its website.



Greenland
Front row seats to the Northern Lights sound enticing? Here are a few things to consider before booking. There are no roads between the towns in Greenland. Let us repeat that: no roads. Because of the extreme conditions, all transportation is conducted via airplane, boat, snowmobile, and dog sled. And you can't get picky with accommodations: According to Visit Greenland's official site, this 720,000-square-mile expanse of land has 23 hotels. If you're open to hostels and campgrounds (pack layers!), the options increase.



Papua New Guinea
The mountainous landscape comprising 800 islands is a bucket list fave, but Paupa New Guinea is a developing nation, so proceed with caution. (It was named one of Forbes' "Most Dangerous Destinations" in 2006.) Recently, the U.S. Department of State alerted travelers that "tensions between clan groups may lead to localized conflicts involving machetes or firearms." Is mace available in three-ounce containers?

7 Reasons Your Honeymoon May Not Be As Romantic As You'd Think

Meredith Bodgas

Blogger, MeritalBliss.com

 

 

 

 

 

Original article appeared on MeritalBliss.com

Don't get me wrong; I loved my honeymoon. There was plenty of romance to be had as we did nothing but lay on the beach, eat so much that my cute honeymoon clothes were snug by day three, sleep 10 or 11 hours a night, and repeatedly engage in that other thing all honeymooners do as if they won't be sharing a bed when they resume living in reality. Still, we and some of our friends have encountered some less-than-romantic surprises for which it's worth mentally preparing.


1. Outdoor showers are a logistical nightmare.
So your honeymoon resort boasts luxurious showers that make you one with nature. What could go wrong? Well, when I bathed in our outdoor stall, the curtains around it blew wide open with every minuscule gust of wind. This wouldn't be a problem if we were completely secluded, but the next bungalow over had a full view of naked me if they bothered to look. Also, outdoor showers are like magnets for the creepiest, crawliest bugs known to man.



2. Deserted islands aren't known for food safety.
Our resort was fairly top-notch. In fact, it was so pricey, we stayed only six nights because it was all we could afford at age 25! Despite that, the fresh tree melon juice at breakfast or the still-squirming catch of the day at dinner just may make you sick. I had a 24-hour case of food poisoning that left me stationed for hours beside the posh porcelain bowl. And no matter how much you love each other, there is nothing romantic about the runs or vomiting.


3. You're at the mercy of the airplane gods.
Unless you're driving or training to your destination (which have their own share of issues), you'll have to fly to and from your honeymoon. This means you're subject to flight delays, claustrophobia-inducing seats, terror-inducing bathrooms, and, if you're as lucky as Paul and I were on our five-year anniversary trip to Costa Rica, lost baggage. And if you don't book far enough in advance, you may not get to sit next to each other. Fun!


4. You may want to try separate activities.
One spouse's idea of heaven, say, a samurai museum during your Japanese honeymoon, might be the other's hell. To get the most out of your trip, especially if you're in a country you're not likely to visit again, you'll want to check out these regional offerings, even if it means parting ways with your partner for a day. Of course, your eventual reunion would be xoxo-filled, and learning the history of samurais, if that's your thing, would be wonderful, but romantic? Nah.



5. You may get sunburned.
Put pale people in sunny destinations, and no amount of SPF can stop skin from turning red. And you know what's painfully unromantic? Sleeping in a bizarre position so that the bed doesn't irritate your sunburned back or arm or leg. Been there. Burned that.


6. You WILL check social media to see your friends' wedding pictures.
And you WILL get an IM from your mom wanting to know about the flight, the food, and pretty much everything else to ensure her that you're safe and happy. No matter how much you love your mother, nothing kills the mood faster than speaking to a blood relative.


7. Jetlag sucks.
If you're flying out of your timezone, you may experience that uncomfortable, almost inhuman too-tired-to-function-but-don't-want-to-waste-a-minute-of-the-trip feeling. Getting ready to go out for the evening when you're usually sleeping. Steak when you'd normally eat breakfast. It makes you feel so off-kilter that sex and snuggling aren't on your mind. With any luck, you'll feel jetlagged only on the way back...when you have to return to work where sex and snuggling aren't options anyway.

11 True Wedding-Night Confessions

Real brides share what actually happened when they and their grooms stole away for the wedding night.

The Big Day is over, and you and your new husband head up to your hotel suite for a romantic champagne toast, followed by an amazing romp in bed. Well, anyway, that’s what happens in Hollywood films. Since real life is often not so picture perfect, we asked some recent newlyweds to share what really happened.

“Before the wedding, my husband and I had separate hotel rooms, but we were planning to stay in my room on our wedding night. So after everything was over, I went upstairs, changed into my lingerie, filled two glasses with champagne and waited for my new husband. But he never came! It turns out I’d forgotten to give him a room key. And I was so tired after the long night that I fell completely asleep and didn’t hear either my cellphone or room phone. He waited for 30 minutes in his room and spent another 30 minutes begging the hotel staff to let him into mine. To verify that he was who he said he was, a hotel employee had to come in with him. And there I was, asleep in a chair, wearing my lingerie and still holding onto a full glass of champagne.”
—Bobbi, Richmond VA

“Right after the wedding we went up to our hotel room with a whole bunch of friends and relatives. My sister had gotten us a karaoke machine, so we sang with everyone until 4 a.m.—with me still in my wedding dress, eating chips and drinking wine. It was the best night of my life.”
—Nancy, New York City

“We got married in the morning on a beach in St. John in the U.S.V.I. After the wedding brunch, we all went for a sailboat ride. We had lots more planned, but I was so exhausted that when we returned from the ride, I passed out in a beach chair for the rest of the afternoon. That night, we went out to dinner and I could barely keep my eyes open. Needless to say, I went straight to sleep!”
—Mollie, San Francisco

“By the time we checked into the Ritz-Carlton hotel after the reception, it was very late. We stopped on the concierge level, which had a lounge that offers evening treats. I wanted chocolate-covered strawberries, but since it was sooooo late, the lounge was closed. Despite this, John begged the hotel staff to put together a huge platter of sweets. It was awesome!”
—Vicki, Atlanta, GA

“On our wedding night, we were back at our hotel room by 10 p.m. We hung out with friends in our suite until no one could keep their eyes open anymore—except me! I was far too excited to sleep, but my new husband had no problem at all passing out while I just stared at the ceiling for hours, going over the day. I bet most people have pretty low-key wedding nights and save the wild stuff for the honeymoon.”
—Dori, New York City

“My wife and I were so engrossed with the wedding that we never had a chance to eat. Our caterer gave us doggie bags. When we got back to our hotel room around midnight, all we could think about was food. But when we opened our bags, everything was cold and there were no utensils. We didn’t care; we sat on our bed shoveling handfuls of rice, asparagus, fish and fowl into our mouths. When we finally got between the sheets, there was rice pilaf everywhere.”
—Neil, Lexington, KY

“I drank a little too much at my wedding. When I was getting undressed, I broke the baby pearl bracelet that a friend had lent me. I was so upset at myself that there was no ‘consummation of the marriage.’ Worse, I woke up the next day, very hung over.”
—Vikki, Mill Valley, CA

“I was so tired after our wedding that I went to our room, took off my wedding dress and fell asleep. We both woke up starving in the middle of the night, so we drove to a 24-hour convenience store and loaded up on snacks.”
—Theresa, Reading, PA

“I woke up, went to the bathroom and when I looked in the mirror, I was totally surprised to see that a small pillow was attached to my head as if it was glued there. I realized I’d forgotten to take out the hundred or so bobby pins in my hair, and some of them had gotten hooked on the pillow.”
—Jessica, Oakland, CA

“We planned to spend our wedding night at a hotel and to fly to Hawaii the next day. We’d barely eaten at our wedding, so we ordered pasta from room service. My husband got so ill he had to go to a hospital emergency room with what turned out to be an allergic reaction to the shellfish in the pasta. It goes without saying, we missed our flight to Hawaii.”
—Susan, Madison, WI

“I wanted to make sure our room would look completely different from the one in which I’d had my hair and makeup done earlier in the day (when I was still single!). So I asked my wedding planner to add vases of flowers and scented candles, dim the lights, put on music and put some small snacks on a tray on the bed. My husband loved it!”
—Patricia, Boston, MA

Experts Weigh In

From Janet Dunnington, owner of CEO Weddings & Events in Vermont:
“Cover your wedding bed in petals that are the same color as your bridal flowers. If you’re having a winter wedding, plan to have a fire crackling in the fireplace when you get up to your room. Then place throw pillows on the floor and sip champagne together. It’s great to surprise your partner by arranging to have food and drinks waiting in your room. One bride loved chocolate-chip cookies, so I made sure a homemade batch was there on a platter for her.”

From Xochitl Gonzalez of Always a Bridesmaid Wedding Consulting & Event Design, New York City: 
“Be sure to spring for a hotel suite. I know it sounds obvious, but since so many couples live together today, they may decide just to head home and save some money. Don’t! You should go someplace special, if only to remind yourselves that this is your first night together MARRIED! Also, don’t forget the lingerie. Your moms and grandmas wore bridal peignoirs—the nightgowns that girls received for their wedding nights and honeymoons. It’s an old tradition, but it’s nice to have something new and sexy (not necessarily a nightgown!) to sleep in.”

Offbeat Honeymoon: 6 Unique Alternatives for Your Trip

When it comes to ultimate honeymoon agendas, luxury trips to tropical destinations like Hawaii and St. Lucia typically lead the pack. But for those couples looking for alternatives to the ordinary resort getaway, consider these six unique ideas still bound to provide the getaway of a lifetime.

Mini-Moon
Mini-moons are quickly becoming a popular honeymoon alternative for newlyweds. Ideal for honeymooners with budget limitations, timing constraints, or little vacation time set aside, a mini-moon still enables couples to experience an unforgettable destination for a few days, even if it's not Paris or Hawaii. Typically, a mini-moon consists of a destination within driving distance or a short flight.

Mini-moon hotspots: New York City, Las Vegas, Miami, and San Francisco.



Volunteer Honeymoon
Whether clearing trails in a scenic national park or building homes in a developing nation, a volunteer honeymoon allows newlyweds to travel the world while giving back to individuals, communities, and organizations in need. This is truly a memorable travel experience, one that will certainly make an impact on you, but also the people and projects that you decide to help out. What a remarkable way to start your new life together.

Volunteer Ideas: Build a home through Habitat for Humanity, preserve hiking trails with the Sierra Club, or help endangered animals with Biosphere Expeditions.


Eco-Honeymoon
Looking to explore and learn about some of the world's most diverse ecosystems? If the answer is a definite yes, then consider an eco-honeymoon for your upcoming trip.
Ecotourism is an increasingly popular form of travel that focuses on visiting natural or protected areas of a destination while minimizing overall impact. In fact, it has quickly become one of the fastest growing areas in the travel industry. From wildlife viewing in the heart of the African savannah to whitewater rafting down glacier-fed rivers, the options are practically endless for eco-adventurers.


Eco-Ideas: Drop your bags at Tortuga Lodge & Gardens in beautiful Costa Rica. Located in the lush northeastern section of the country, this remote property offers luxury accommodations and a variety of unforgettable eco-activities, including boat tours through stunning Tortuguero National Park and private turtle nesting expeditions.


Camping or National Parks Getaway
Outdoorsy couples may want to consider a national park honeymoon to experience America's greatest natural wonders. Whether you explore just one destination or decide to mix and match, your honeymoon is guaranteed to feature scenic drives, soaring mountain vistas, gorgeous backcountry hikes, and other incredible once-in-a-lifetime experiences.

Meanwhile, with properties such as Ahwahnee Hotel to choose from, couples don't have to sacrifice comfort to get up close and personal with some of the country's most extraordinary parks.
Honeymoon-worthy picks: Olympic (WA), Acadia (ME), Yosemite (CA), and Yellowstone (WY) national parks.

European River Cruise
A cruise along one of Europe's famous rivers can provide newlyweds with an intimate, relaxing, and overall exceptional experience. Demand for European river cruises is now at an all-time high -- especially among American travelers -- and it's easy to see why. Travelers can sail past picturesque countryside, discover historic cities, view gorgeous hilltop castles, and easily embark on new experiences and activities along the way.

Popular European routes include the Danube, Rhine, Po, Seine, Rhone, and Moselle rivers. Memorable city stops feature Vienna, Berlin, Prague, Budapest, Paris, and Amsterdam, among countless others.



Ride the Rails
Leave behind the hassles of airplanes and car rentals on your upcoming honeymoon. With the ability to experience luxurious accommodations, top-notch cuisine, and breathtaking scenery, plus the chance to hop on and off at some of the world's most iconic destinations, train travel can be immensely rewarding, romantic, and eye-opening. Arguably, it can transport you to places -- and even eras -- better than any other mode of transportation.
The Venice Simplon-Orient-Express remains one of the world's most luxurious and spectacular train experiences. Meanwhile, the Napa Valley Wine Train is also a great option, especially for mini-mooners.

Photo of the Week

This Photo of the week actually is one of our Honeymoon Pictures. We went to Domaine Carneros Winery in Napa Valley and as you can see... IT WAS BEAUTIFUL. The photo looks like a post card and that is how it was all day. Great time with my Husband.

And we're off !!!

We are off to Napa/Sonoma for our Mini Moon! Hope everyone is good... See ya soon!

Jasmine Cameron

11 Things Women Really Want From Wedding Night Sex

This post originally appeared on ManWifeandDog.com

Now, let's be honest here: The majority of married couples don't actually get around to having sex on their wedding night. You might as well scrap what all those rom-coms taught you -- after all the craziness that is surviving your wedding day intact, you're usually drunk, exhausted, or both. That said, who wants to be a statistic? (Especially on their wedding night.) We didn't!

I say, add "getting laid" to your wedding day to-do list -- and make it a priority. Men, here's a handy little guide to what your wife-to-be really wants to get out of the evening.

Laughter
Undressing is sexy; slipping out of a 20-pound gown is not. It will be funny, and you should laugh long and hard about it. The same goes for all the other "bloopers" you're bound to experience that night.

Naughty Vows
You've already vowed to cherish and protect each other at all costs. Now it's time to make the juicier promises you fully intend to keep. You get where I'm going with this, right? Let's keep this post safe for work and let you fill in the blanks.

Background Music
This is the part where the movies got it right. Nothing sets the mood quite like a naughty playlist. (Insert her favorite slow jams here.)

Compliments
Every woman wants to be told they're the most beautiful bride in the world on the Big Day. If your betrothed doesn't want the same shameless flattery between the sheets on the big night, she's lying. Case closed.

Liquid Confidence
Nerves and weddings go hand-in-hand -- even when you've known each other forever. Bring your bubbly of choice to the bedroom and pour as you play.

Having All Her Senses Engaged
You've got the touching covered, but what about her other senses? Be sure the room is scented, styled, and soundproofed to perfection. And, don't forget the sweets.

An Orgasm
Memo to all men: Your wedding night is not the time to go all selfish on your fiancée -- save that for marriage. (I kid!)

Foreplay
Slow things down -- what's the rush? The rest of the day will already feel like a blur by the time you enter your suite, so the after party is your chance to take your time and make more lasting memories.

Romance (Obviously!)
If your wife-to-be actually walked across the threshold and there are no lit candles in sight and no flowers to be found, men, you have already failed her -- try not to make it a habit when you get home.

Feeling Comfortable
I have nothing against bathroom sex, floor sex, or even patio sex -- they're a real rush! But no woman wants to wake up the morning after her wedding with weird bruises in unwanted places and zero recollection of how they got there. That's the complete opposite of romantic.

Passion
Skip the clichés and tell her what it really feels like to be laying next to the woman of your dreams on the most magical night of your life.

Shower, Sunhats and Smiles

Hey my Bridal Buddies... Here is the Weekend recap.

Friday we got some great news from my parents... They are sending Scott and I on a Mini Moon to Sonoma!!!

My Aunt has a time share and graciously have us her points and my parents paid for the rest! Relaxation and Wine for a couple of days.... SO AWESOME! So if anyone has any suggestions of Wineries, Food stops or all things Sonoma/Napa, let me know.

Friday Night my Sissy came by to see my place and hang with Scott and the girls.

Saturday was BRIDAL SHOWER DAY!!

I got up at 5:00 am partly from excitement and I had a 6:00 am hair appointment. I was in the car on the way to the hair shop and Trains "Marry Me" came on my iPod and it made me tear up a little bit.. everything is actually happening and it is not a dream. It brought a smile to my face and I sang along a little too.

Here is a few shots at the hair shop

Before

After

 

After the Hair Shop and Family Breakfast, I took Jacelyn and Xzyria to their first game of the season. They are Midget Cheerleaders this year and got to rock their new uniforms.

 

 

Love these 2..

 

Got them dropped off and it was off to Cameron Bridal Shower!!!

 

My photographer for the day Kris, came out and took over 800 photos!! She was great at it too... Here are a few highlights from the day...

 

 

Beautiful Card from Clarise... Made just like my invitations!!

Set Up

Balloons are a must at a party.. We used them after to make wishes....

 

Gift Basket from Ingrid.

One of my favorite Bible Versus on a gift bag... So sweet.

Tacos!!!

 

The Taco Guys.. So nice and so good!

 

Love the Cards!

 

Centerpieces!

He came out to help, went to be Cheer Dad and made the day go so much smoother... Love you SC!

My BFF!! Love you!

 

Me Thanking the ladies for such a beautiful day and laughing it up with my Sissy....

 

Me and Sissy. This could not have been any better and I am glad she was here to share in it!

The games that got a little bit rowdy...LOL

Team Jascott Divas!

 

Daddy and his girls...

 

Love my Siblings...

 

 

A special moment with my Grandmother.. Brought me to tears...

My 776 Sistas!!

Me and Sheauen. Love her!

Jacelyn came in time for the group picture from her game.. Her team won 31-0! GO PANTHERS!

 

The Cabo Crew + Janet and - TNT... Missed you being there girl!

Brit and Janet!! Hey now!

 

Dad ALWAYS comes and lends a helping hand.

 

Mom and I at the shower.

 

3 the hard way.....

 

My family!

 

The group shot..

 

 

The day was more than I imagined it to be and I was so THANKFUL for each and every person there. It was great to share my day with them and all the laughs as well.

 

I went home Saturday night on a high from a great day! After unpacking all the gifts and finding a place for them.. off to dream land I went.

 

Sunday was family brunch at my Parents house. We all got together to spend time with Tai and laugh as usual.

 

Sunday night Scott was to have a Guys Night but it got cancelled so instead we went to the McClains house for Burrito night and watch one of my Favorite Movies... The Bird Cage.

 

 

If you have never seen this movie, Do it! Its so awesome!

 

 

Here is what is on tap for this week:

 

1. Pick Up my Wedding Dress!!!

2. Check in with the Florist.

3. Hopefully get Cake tasting done soon.

4. Send out Bridal Shower Thank You Cards.

5. Look forward to a 3 day weekend... to get more wedding stuff finalized.

 

61 days to go!!