15 Signs You're an Anti-Bride

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Some girls have been dreaming of their wedding day ever since they started playing with Barbies, and others, well, let's just say that throwing the big bash their friends and family expect of them is more like a huge to-do. It's not that they don't want to get married (trust us, they do!), it's just that planning a lavish party for a year plus and having all eyes laser focused on them is sort of their nightmare come true. Sound familiar? If so, here are 15 signs you're totally an anti-bride.

1. The thought of spending thousands upon thousands of dollars on a "dream wedding" you've never even really dreamed of actually makes you sick to your stomach.

2. You've been trying to convince your mom for months that, no, you do not in fact want a bridal shower.

3. You could deal with a bachelorette party, but you've already set the ground rules: No penis straws, wedding games, and absolutely no sashes or tiaras!

4. You've seriously considered not hiring a photographer simply because being in front of the camera is just so awkward.

5. If you even have bridesmaids, there's no way you're putting them in matching dresses.


6. You'll use any and every excuse in the book to get out of wedding planning; after all, making a guest list can wait, right?

7. Bringing a gaggle of girls to go wedding-dress shopping with you is so not your idea of a fun Saturday. Can't you just order a gown on the Internet or something?

8. You're all for writing your own vows, however, you're so not about to recite them in front of everyone you know.

9. Your answer for "How's the wedding planning going?" has become some sort of snarky response that makes your friends and family totally uncomfortable.

10. You're currently in the midst of planning a courthouse wedding and/or an elopement.

11. Bringing a wedding planner on board was quite possibly the best thing that ever happened to you. Now someone else can take the reigns!

12. The thought of walking down the aisle and being the center of attention the entire day makes you want to elope.

13. When someone asks you what your wedding theme is they're met with a blank stare. A wedding "theme"... seriously?

14. You laugh in the face of tradition (until your overbearing mom, dad, fiancé and/or in-laws insist otherwise).

15. If you absolutely must plan a wedding, it will be everything that a traditional wedding is not. Bring on the food trucks!

Let the Wedding Planning Begin: The Most Popular Places to Say 'I Do'

By Caitlin Moscatello



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The peak of engagement season -- that annual rush of proposals between Thanksgiving and New Year's -- is winding down, which means it's time for couples to start planning the big day. Almost a quarter of them will decide on a destination wedding, so we narrowed down the most sought-after spots(using data from Internet search trends, as well as a survey of over 1,000 brides from the wedding network The Knot.


Mexico


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Not only is Mexico relatively easy to get to, it also has reliably good weather outside of hurricane season, and you won't have issues bringing in vendors from the U.S. Los Cabos and Cozumel --both known for their beautiful beaches -- are popular choices for weddings. But the most desired location in Mexico is Riviera Maya. Stay in a private villa at the Viceroy and host your reception right on the beach, by the pool, or in one of three restaurants. The Grand Velas Riviera Maya, an all-inclusive resort, offers eight different wedding venues, including a chapel in the Mayan jungle that fits up to 143 people.

Hawaii
 

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The long-ish flight will be worth it for guests, who can go snorkeling off the Hawaiian Islands or hiking in their down time. Oahu, Maui, and Kauai are all popular islands for destination weddings, and since you can't go wrong with any of them, start by choosing a resort and work from there. The Four Seasons has three wedding-worthy properties, one of which is on Maui. If you want beachfront views for your ceremony without getting sand in your toes, stay at the Halekulani, which has a ceremony spot on a lush lawn overlooking the water.

Jamaica


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The most popular Caribbean wedding destination, Jamaica has been a hot spot among couples for decades. Exchange vows at sunset at the Jamaica Inn on a staircase overlooking the water; if you can get 100 friends and family to attend -- the resort's maximum capacity -- you'll have the whole property to yourself. The Half Moon, Rose Hall Resort in Montego Bay offers five outdoor ceremony locations and the same number of wedding packages for easy planning.

The Bahamas


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With direct flights from at least 12 major U.S. cities and easy transfers from Miami, the Bahamas is far enough away without being a hassle. If you want to be near the beach (but not on it), go to the One&Only Ocean Club on Paradise Island. Couples can tie the knot against the backdrop of French Cloisters, on a beach deck, or poolside -- as well as in the resort's upscale restaurant that looks out onto the water. Do your pre-nuptial relaxing at the resort's spa, which includes private outdoor lounges and deep soaking tubs.

Anguilla


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Known for being equal parts friendly and beautiful, this British territory has become one of the most searched destination wedding spots. You'll have to fly to St. Maarten to get there, and then take a short flight or a ferry ride to the island -- making this destination best for smaller parties. The Viceroy Anguilla, a favorite for luxury weddings, has six different event spaces, as well as two simpler packages for couples without guests. The beachfront resort Cap Juluca is another top choice, offering couples four unique packages--or the services of on-site wedding planner, who can help you build a customized wedding from scratch.

Las Vegas


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Vegas? Yes, Vegas. While Sin City might be better known for quickie weddings, you can bring your family and friends with you and throw an all-out bash. Stay at the Wynn Las Vegas, where you can get married on a terrace overlooking a waterfall, inside a nightclub, or seemingly every whimsical option in between. If you want to be away from the sound of slot machines, head to the smaller, mellower Four Seasons Hotel, which doesn't have a casino but does have just about every other luxury. The hotel also specializes in same-sex weddings.

Italy


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Couples are throwing destination weddings in Europe at twice the rate they were just a few years ago, and Italy is topping their lists. If you're inviting guests, forget Capri and host your wedding in scenic but easier-to-get-to places like Venice, Portofino, or in the Tuscan countryside near Florence, so guests won't have to take four modes of transportation to get there. Should you decide to pull a George Clooney and marry in Venice, book the San Clemente Palace, a St. Regis property on its own little island that's safely guarded from tourist crowds.

Costa Rica


Photo: Courtesy of The Andaz Peninsula Papagayo Resort


Central and South America have yet to attract much attention from wedding seekers, but Costa Rica is an exception. Adventurous couples love it for its surfing, volcano hiking, and ziplining -- activities that their wedding guests will certainly want to test out. Not all areas are easily accessible, so keep that in mind when looking for venues. The Andaz Peninsula Papagayo Resort is only a 20-minute drive from the airport -- but you won't feel that way once you're taking in the tropical forest views. Wedding packages, planning services, and customized ceremonies are all available through the hotel.

Florida Keys


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Florida is the most popular spot for destination weddings in the continental U.S., and even though the Keys aren't all that far away, you and your guests will feel that way without having to deal with passports and customs. Take over some or all of the 18 rooms at Moorings Village in Islamorada, which has a private beach perfect for a marriage ceremony, and is just a 90-minute drive from Miami International Airport. If you prefer to be near the action in Key West, host your wedding at the Pier House Resort and Spa -- it's a short walk to downtown.

Bermuda


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Between its pink-sand beaches, limestone arches (otherwise known as "Moongates"), crystal caves, and UNESCO World Heritage site that just so happens to be the remains of a church, you'll have plenty of ceremony location options to choose from on this gorgeous, accessible island. Stay at Tucker's Point where you can host a small rehearsal dinner in the resort's private wine room, and then throw your reception poolside the next night.

What are the hottest trends in weddings right now?

 

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Here’s the top 3 trends in weddings right now:

Farm to Table.  Farm-to-table isn’t just the biggest trend in restaurants right now but it’s also the hottest thing in weddings.  Nowadays, brides aren’t just asking for organic greens- they are asking for the exact farm that their greens came from.  Caterers are working with local farms to create the best menu and experience for the new-age bride.

Reflective Surfaces. Think: lucite engraved place cards, a mirrored table runner and either mirrored or mercury vases. Reflective surfaces add a big dose of style and glamour to any table. For a luxe for less version, remove the frame from a simple back of door mirror and viola- you have your mirrored runner.

Music Mash-Up.  Forget the classic band vs. DJ debate… why not have both? Go for a band in the beginning of the night, for first dances and while dinner is being served, then turn it over to a DJ to keep the party going late into the night. If you have a talented group get your band to d

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How to Save Money on Alcohol for Your Wedding Bar

Cutting back on cocktail costs can be a sobering task. Raise a glass to scoring big-day drinks on a budget with these money-saving tips.

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Play Sommelier 

If you work it out with the venue to supply vino yourself, you’ll get better wine for the same price (or less), even with a corkage fee. “Choose lesser-known wines like Orvieto, Soave, or grüner veltliner for whites, and Rioja or barbera for reds,” says NYC wine consultant Lyle Kula.

Lower the Bar 

We’re not talking about setting up a cash bar—guests shouldn’t pay for anything at a wedding—but rather editing the selection of beverages. One or two kinds of beer, a red and a white wine, and a signature sipper or simply a good vodka, gin, and whiskey is plenty.
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Hold the Trays 

If you do offer a signature wedding drink, don’t have servers pass it around, says planner Calder Clark, owner of Calder Clark in Charleston, South Carolina. “Most people will take one but not always drink it—and that’s wasted money.” Instead, keep the cocktails at the bar, where guests can request it if they want one.

Do the Math

Considering serving wine and beer instead of an open bar to cut costs? Calculate the difference before you make that decision. “A bottle of wine contains five drinks, whereas a liter of vodka has 25,” says Richard Nix Jr. of Butler’s Pantry in Saint Louis.

Buy Bubbly on a Budget

Though Champagne technically only hails from the Champagne region of France, the sparkling wine you serve at your reception could come from Spain (Cava) or Italy (Prosecco). These worldly competitors pack a smaller price tag.
Get Creative Ideas for Celebrating with Champagne

Skip the Champagne Toast

It turns out, most people don’t touch their glass, literally resulting in money down the drain. Keep the bubbly at the bar for guests who want it.

Go for Quality Stemware

Remember these words: Riedel Bordeaux glasses. “Your caterer can rent them for about $1.50 a stem,” says Rebecca Feeney of Custom Event Group in St. Helena, California. “They make everything taste better, which frees you up to spend less on wine. Plus, they feel fancy.”

9 Proposals That Went Terribly Wrong

Everyone likes an oh-so-romantic engagement story. You know, where the guy sets up a hidden camera or sneaks a series of gift boxes in a Christmas tree? We just can't get enough! But then there are the epic fails, the total disasters, and the just plain awkward proposal stories out there. If you thought that man who proposed with 99 iPhones had it bad, here are a few more painful proposal stories we found on Reddit...

 

 

somethingwickednc: "My dad stuck the ring in a stick of deodorant, then told my mom she needed to use it. Small argument ensues when mom tells dad she does not need it."

anonymous: "I proposed to my wife in Times Square at New Year's Eve (I was going for maximum cheezy!) She was pretty emotional and took a while to believe I was serious (even though I had a ring). This being New York, strangers started shouting at her to 'HURRY UP LADY, WHAT'S IT GONNA BE? WE DON'T HAVE ALL NIGHT!'"

aquariums: "I was on the ferry to the Statue of Liberty a few months back, and suddenly we see a plane writing something in the sky... Extremely slowly. Like, ridiculously slow. I know it must take a while to write something out in the sky, but it seriously took like 25 minutes for this dude to write "MARRY ME SUE" in the sky. By the time he had written Sue's name, the "MARRY ME" had faded from the sky."

ABlackThaiAffair: "I saw a guy propose to his girlfriend in a Subway at around 9 at night. It was so unbelievably awkward because it was just the three of us in the shop. She said no, the guy cried and I still had to order my sub while they sat there."

apiratenamedbob: "Pilot here. Guy ask me to fly him and his SO over a field, where 150 people had formed a heart and two rings. Huge show, I was really impressed. When she saw it, her response was: "Look at all those idiots! How ridiculous is that??" He did not ask his question that day."

aladyredditor: "I knew a guy who was at McDonalds with his girlfriend one time, and as a joke he wrapped a fry around her finger and said, "Will you McMarry me?" She started crying and called her mom and like started planning the wedding the next day. He hadn't meant to propose but he didn't have the heart to tell her so, so he just married her."

s**ttycats: "I was a restaurant in NYC once with my whole family and there was a couple at a table across from ours. The man had the restaurant bake a ring into a cake which was to be presented to his girlfriend so he could pop the question. The wait staff made this known to likely the entire restaurant so when the cake was brought out all eyes were on them. The woman proceeds to cut into the slice of cake finding the ring. She looked mortified. You could see the "are you f**ing kidding me face" on her a mile away. She said no. Promptly placed the ring on the table and left the restaurant, leaving the man behind with his head in his hands. He sat there for 20 minutes or so before paying his bill and leaving."

weaselmeat: "I proposed to my wife in Dublin, which is more difficult than it sounds because it's not a romantic city. After dinner, I decided that the Halfpenny Bridge was about the best place to get the job done. Right in the middle of my proposal, I hear the unmistakable sound of a drunk guy pissing off the bridge not 10 feet behind me. Ireland has never let me down."

Toast_n_Gravy: "I unfortunately didn't witness it but my best friend just got engaged and when her SO proposed they were in a little french deli. She had just put a massive mouthful of pie in her face when she saw he had got down on one knee. She was so shocked she spat the pie out all over herself, all over him, all over everything. She just sort of nodded ... it was very like her to do something like that so it's all fine but still ... I don't think he was expecting pie in his face."

Gown Shopping Tips For Curvy Brides — Read Expert Tips Here!

By: Shelley Brown

 

 

Whether you’re an apple, a pear (or any fruit in between!) an experienced bridal consultant can help you find the silhouette that works best for your shape. Worried that your curves will be a hindrance on your quest for the perfect dress? Don’t be! Check out these helpful tips from stylist Sara Viola and co-owner Lisa Litt of Della Curva, a bridal salon in California specifically for curvy brides, below!

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Know Your Body Type
Curvy bride or not, it’s important to know your body type before you try on gowns. Ask your consultant what styles will flatter your measurements the most—you might be surprised at the amount of options out there. “Most curvy girls think they need a dress with an empire waist, but that’s actually not true,” Viola says. “A lot of styles will look good on them. They just need to know what silhouettes will complement them the most.”

For instance, pear shapes  should avoid clingy mermaids that accentuate and the hips, while apple shapes should steer clear of clingy sheaths. “Fit-n-flare is generally a solid silhouette,” Viola advises. “I think everyone can find their signature style.”

Find A Boutique With Larger Sample Sizes
Save yourself a frustrating experience and find a salon that carries larger sample sizes, or caters to curvier body types. “You need to try on a dress that will zip up, so you can feel the most confident,” Viola says. “You shouldn’t start off feeling discouraged about your size!”

Shop For Your Body Now 
Even if you’re planning to shed some pounds before your wedding, your body type isn’t going to completely change. “If you lose inches in your bust, that doesn’t mean that you’re going to lose inches in your hips,” Viola says. “Order the gown that looks good today.”

Avoid Shiny Fabrics 
“Shiny fabrics like high-shine satins or fabrics with metallic threads reflect the light and makes you look larger,” Litt says.

Structure Is Your Friend 
Consider more structured materials like satin, lace and organza for a smoother silhouette. “Some chiffons might be okay, but for the most part, clingy fabrics are not forgiving,” Viola says. Ruching or gathering on the bodice and a lace-up corset are also safe bets, especially if you want to disguise your tummy. “A lace-up bodice has more flexibility, so if you lose weight, you can still cinch in your waistline,” Viola says.

Wear Spanx To Your Appointment
Before you hit the stores, make sure you’re armed with some body shaping undies.  “Whether you’re a size 4 or a size 24, Spanx will smooth out your tummy and hips,” Litt says. “You’ll stand straighter and feel better.”

Invest In Serious Undergarments
What goes underneath your dress is just as important as the dress itself. Set yourself up for success by investing in a good under-the-dress essentials.  “No matter your size, Spanx and a supportive bra are always a must,” Viola says. “A long line strapless  bra with extra boning in the bodice will help create a seamless look for bustier brides.”

Keep An Open Mind
Trust your bridal consultant. “We know what looks good, we know what works.” Litt says. “Even if you think something won’t look good on you, at least try it on. We’re trained to know what will flatter your body type.”

Flower Girl And Ring Bearer Get Married 20 Years After They First Met

After their first wedding together in 1995, Briggs and Brittney Fussy couldn’t wait to do it again.

The St. Paul, Minnesota, couple first met as children: He was the ring bearer, while she handled flower girl duties.

The day was so special that the mothers of both Briggs and Brittney kept photos of the wedding on their walls for years.

Brittney and Briggs took center stage as flower girl and ring bearer.

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That’s a fact Brittney mentioned when Briggs sat down in front of her during a college class.

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Briggs told FOX 9 it was their childhood duties that brought them together.

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He said, “It’s funny how God’s plan came into place.”

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“I didn’t even know her before she turned around in class and told me that.”

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Twenty years later, after five years of dating, the pair headed down the aisle once more.

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The Fussys are together again.

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It seems wedding magic might be real, after all.

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Congratulations to the newlyweds. This love was a long time coming.

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Their own flower girl and ring bearer are related, so there’s no repeat love story in the future.

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But, it’s one their own family is sure to appreciate one day.

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This wedding was worth the wait.

This Gorgeous Proposal Photo Almost Didn't Happen

Photographer Michael Justin was hired to shoot a proposal Monday night along the Long Island City waterfront in Queens. No big deal, he thought.

He set up his cameras and flashes -- using his camera bag as a weight to keep the light stand from falling over on the windy night -- and texted the groom to ask about timing. Then, his phone died.
"Time to stress the F out," Justin wrote on Imgur. "I went to do another test shot to make sure I had the correct composition ... nothing. My camera batteries were dead."

After running to and from his camera bag -- which was directly in the proposal area -- to retrieve new batteries, he returned to his spot in time to snap the pics. But thanks to a gust of wind that knocked down the light stand, he was forced to run back to the proposal area and reset it. That's when he noticed the guy and girl in the distance.

Luckily, he was able to run back to his secluded spot in time to take the photos -- and it's a good thing he did:


Photo Credit: Michael Justin Films

The bride-to-be told The Huffington Post that the waterfront is the couple's favorite place in Long Island City, and they walk there often. After dinner that night, her boyfriend suggested that they walk along the water in order to see if it had started to freeze. There, he got down on one knee.

"All I remember saying was 'are you kidding me!? Are you kidding me?!' I was in complete shock," the bride told HuffPost Weddings. "I said 'yes' and we embraced. It was the happiest moment of my life!"

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11 Fun Rehearsal Dinner Themes

You don’t have to have stuffy sit-down rehearsal dinner. Rethink the typical setting and go for something a little more inventive. From a backyard to the bowling alley or on the beach – just about anyplace will work. Steal one of these ideas and your rehearsal dinner might be just as memorable as the wedding itself.

A BBQ Rehearsal Dinner

Host a relaxed outdoor dinner with all of your cookout favorites on the menu, like burgers, dogs, and mac and cheese. Upgrade traditional BBQ dishes and serve a gourmet version. Think: pulled-pork sliders and caprese salad kabobs. Have it in a backyard, at a local BBQ joint or even a nearby public park. Decorate the tables with wildflowers in galvanized tin pails and tie in classic details, like a checkered-print tablecloth and homemade citronella candles.
What to Watch for: Like any outdoor event, you’ll need to prepare for the elements with anti-mosquito spray, fans (or heat lamps if it’s chilly) and an indoor plan in case of rain.

A Fondue Rehearsal Dinner

Instead of a traditional sit-down meal, guests can mingle over a buffet-style feast from fondue pots or even fountains. Start with toast points and various cheese pots: Blue cheese and Gruyere are good starters. Move on to meats, potatoes and veggies, which can each be dipped in sauces, like teriyaki and red wine, and cooked right on the table. For dessert, have fresh fruit, squares of pound cake or brownies, bananas and marshmallows, and pots of melted chocolate, caramel, marshmallow, honey and yogurt.
What to Watch for: Fondue can be messy. You’ll want to have plenty of napkins on hand, as well as tables and chairs for guests to sit down and eat. If you’re hosting at home, you may want to hire a cleaning crew to wipe up tables and chairs to keep the fondue neat and tidy.

A Bowling Rehearsal Dinner

There’s no rule that says a rehearsal dinner has to be, well, just dinner. Bowling and arcade games are just the kinds of activities that will help break the ice between your families and friends. You could even make it a competition and give awards at the end of the night (don’t for-get to honor “Most Gutter Balls!”). Serve up beer and pizza right there at the alley or move to a nearby restaurant after the games are over.
What to Watch for: Aim to rent out private lanes or even a separate room for dining. And steer away from any decor that’s too whimsical, like pennants and balloons, and decorate with a few fresh flowers to add a touch of elegance.

A Casino Night Rehearsal Dinner

Host a Monte Carlo–inspired affair, complete with classic casino games, like blackjack and rou-lette. Send out wedding rehearsal dinner invitations on customized playing cards for your casino night, and decorate surfaces with chocolate poker chips. Let your bridal party take turns dealing blackjack, poker and other card games (or hire a real dealer), and consider having bingo and raffle prizes. No casino is complete without lots of chic sips, so keep the champagne flowing as gambling guests spend the evening toasting the bride and groom.
What to Watch for: Because guests will be moving around the room and having fun with the games, it may feel less intimate than if everyone is sitting at tables. You can solve this by having a seated dinner or cocktail hour first, so guests don’t miss out on mingling.

A Clam or Lobster Bake Rehearsal Dinner

If you’re near a beach, go the most traditional route and hire a crew to dig a two- or three-foot-deep pit lined with rocks and build a wood-fire top (there are catering companies that can take care of this for you). The alternative landlocked version works too: Order steamed clams and provisions and then set them up on big picnic tables for everyone to nosh on. Top your tables with checkered tablecloths and a few fresh flower arrangements. If you have the means and the space, end the night with a bonfire and s’mores.
What to Watch for: It’s messy, so make sure your guests who aren’t as familiar with this style of party know they should wear super-casual attire.

A Sports Game Rehearsal Dinner

Get the wedding festivities underway with a rehearsal dinner excursion to a local football or baseball stadium for some tailgating followed by a game. Look into group packages —many ballparks have them, and some even offer options like a congratulatory message on the score-board. Have all the guests sign a “game ball” for you to keep.
What to Watch for: You’re a superfan, but all of your guests probably aren’t. So instead, con-sider having the game-going portion of the night follow a more formal dinner. If you actually want to host evening at the ballpark, choose a game or team that’s fun to watch, but that you won’t be glued to, like a minor league game.

A Wine or Beer Pairing Rehearsal Dinner

It’s your typical dinner, but with a twist. Bring in a wine, beer or even whiskey specialist to help craft the menu to teach your guests how to pair the perfect sip for every course (even dessert!). So you might choose six to eight different wines of the same grape varietal (do all Shiraz or all chardonnay), so guests can really taste the difference. And make sure to pair each course with a great cheese. Décor-wise, let your theme be the guide. Use grapes and cheese boards as your centerpieces. If it’s a beer tasting, fill cute vintage beer bottles with a few fresh flowers.
What to Watch for: You’ll want to get in on the fun, but don’t drink so much that you start off your wedding day with a hangover. Plan for plenty of food, so no one’s staggering into the cer-emony the next day -- and drink lots of water in between courses!

A Tee Time Rehearsal Dinner

Go one step further than the traditional country club or golf course rehearsal dinner and let eve-ryone spend cocktail hour perfecting their swing at the driving range. At dinnertime, name the tables after scores (birdy, par, bogie and eagle) and decorate with miniature hole flags anchored with colorful tees.
What to Watch for: Golf courses and country club venues can be pricey, but don’t let that stop you. This idea also works in your backyard with a homemade, obstacle-laden, mini-golf course.

A Picnic Rehearsal Dinner

Spread out in a park with your guests for a low-key, fun outdoor affair during the day or early evening. Set up an old-fashioned spread (think: salads, sandwiches and lots of fresh-squeezed lemonade). You’ll want a mix of tables and blankets for seating, but use picnic baskets with a pretty decorated handle filled with food instead of traditional centerpieces.
What to Watch for: Even though it’s picnic style, you still need enough food for your guests to make a meal, or you should let everyone know it will not be a full meal with some careful word-ing on the invitations. If you don’t want to be responsible for an entire meal, move the time to sometime in between lunch and dinner.

A Dessert Buffet Rehearsal Dinner

Here’s a sweet alternative to the traditional sit-down dinner hosted at a later hour (around 9 or 10 in the evening). It’s great if a lot of guests will be traveling in and won’t be able to attend until later in the day anyway. Host the dessert buffet at a local coffee shop, dessert bar or even at your home with a variety of pastries, chocolates, tarts and candy. Offer a few non-sweets too, like fruit or even bite-size sandwiches.
What to Watch for: If your ceremony rehearsal has to happen early, but the party doesn’t start until late, you may have some time to kill in between. That’s okay -- just spread the news. Guests will most likely end up finding dinner on their own before the dessert party. You can do your part by suggesting a few restaurants in the area.

A Beach-Inspired Rehearsal Dinner

Going somewhere tropical for your honeymoon? Give guests a little sneak peek and transform your rehearsal dinner into your honeymoon destination. Hang hammocks from trees in your backyard, serve dinner buffet-style on long surfboards, and blend up some pina coladas and daiquiris. For fun favor ideas, try personalized messages in glass bottles or flip-flops. As an ac-tivity, have guests write in ideas for things to do on your honeymoon.
What To Watch For: Transforming a ballroom or restaurant into a tropical paradise might re-quire quite a bit of decor, so it’s best suited for a spot that’s outdoors (when it’s warm of course!) or that already comes with a built-in beachy vibe.

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10 Wedding Questions You Didn't Know To Ask

When should I take off my veil after the ceremony?

Everyone loves to talk about the veil, but nobody tells you exactly when to ditch it. While it's perfectly okay to wear the veil for the entire reception, there are two optimal times to take it off. The first is after the ceremony (have your hairstylist show a bridesmaid how to do this without messing up your 'do), and the second is after the first dance while your guests are eating. Once the veil's off, stick it in your bridal suite or have it "decorate" your chair.

How should our wedding party travel to the reception?

We bet you and your groom planned a perfect ceremony exit where you hop into a vintage Rolls-Royce and ride off to the reception. That sounds great, but yes, you're responsible for getting your wedding party there too. If you're going casual and want them to simply drive over, let everyone know this beforehand so they can carpool. Otherwise, rent a stretch limo, go vintage with a trolley or let them be kids again by cruising in a budget-friendly school bus -- of course, feel free to tag along for the ride!

Do I really need someone to hold my dress while I pee?

This depends on the dress. If you're wearing a full-length ball gown, you'll probably need an extra set of hands to help hold up the skirt while you do your thing. Trust us -- the cost versus the benefit on this is a no-brainer. But if you're sporting a silk sheath and a posse pee makes you cringe, go ahead and handle your own business. Another tip: There's a pee-ready Spanx designed with a hole in, well, just the right place. We'll stay classy and resist the oh-so-obvious dirty joke opportunity here.

Is there an appropriate way to kiss at the ceremony?

Remember the day he proposed, and you saw the ring and the tears in his eyes, and then you two started making out like maniacs? Yeah, don't do that. But your first kiss as a married couple doesn't have to be just a peck either. Do what comes naturally, as long as it doesn't involve visible tongue and last more than 10 seconds. Oh, and don't do the dip thing either -- unless of course you want to look like you belong in a Hugh Grant movie.

What exactly do the bride and groom do during the cake cutting?

The cake cutting typically takes place after dinner when your bandleader or DJ makes an announcement (you can also do this). If you have older guests who might be leaving early, do your cake cutting at the beginning of the reception just before the first dance. For the first cut, your groom's hands are placed over yours as you cut into the bottom layer of the cake. The groom makes the second cut solo and feeds the bride, and then it's your turn.

Where do I put my engagement ring during the ceremony?

Wear the ring on your right hand or have your aunt or grandma hold it. If you want to wear your engagement ring for the reception, put it on during the ride to your venue or just before being announced. For Jewish weddings, it's fine to wear your engagement ring, and then exchange stone-free wedding bands if you want to keep with tradition. Also remember: The band is usually worn closest to your heart on your left hand.

Who lifts my veil?

While more and more brides are wearing a veil flipped back for the entire ceremony or not wearing one at all, the most traditional bride still wears a veil over her face. If you like to keep things classic, there are two options. One is your dad lifts the veil when he gives you away, "revealing" you to the groom (like you really need help with that one). The other is for the groom to lift the veil just before the kiss.

What side are we supposed to stand on during the ceremony?

If you're in a church facing the altar, the bride stands on the left side and the groom on the right. Guests of the bride and groom should follow suit, sitting on the side of whoever they know best or are related to (hint: tell mutual friends to sit on the side that has less people). For Jewish ceremonies, it's the opposite.

What's the best way to greet guests if I don't want a receiving line?

Yeah, we get it -- you don't want to stand around after the ceremony in an assembly line. Instead, greet your guests during the reception by going from table to table during the first course. Just make sure you have time to eat too! Also, make a short speech thanking guests for coming and give a shout-out to vendors and parents (or anyone else who helped pay for your wedding!). While this moment with the mic shouldn't take the place of personal interaction with guests, it can be a great forum to let them know how much their support means to you.

Can I take my shoes off at any time during the reception?

We've all been to the wedding where guests cut loose on the dance floor and ditch the heels. But it's a little different when you're the bride -- especially if you're wearing a formal dress. Instead of going barefoot, bring a pair of flats for dancing. If you're getting married in the summer, have baskets of flip-flops in your wedding colors for your guests to slip into before they get down. There's one exception to the shoes-or-lose rule: beach weddings!

8 Things Married Couples Get Wrong When It Comes To Sex

By Jillian Kramer, BRIDES


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"A healthy sex life is a key ingredient to a happy, loving, and lasting marriage," says sex expert Nikki Ransom-Alfred. Yet, "after the excitement of the wedding day and settling into marriage, couples will often find that the quantity and quality of sex will take a downturn." So what's a married couple to do? Check out these eight things you're likely doing wrong without even knowing it, and have fun correcting the problems beginning tonight!

You're not doing the deed often enough.
"Sex is how you express love and desire for each other, and connects the two of you on a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level," Ransom-Alfred says. What's more, when you orgasm, your brain releases dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin -- the love hormone -- that keeps you crazy about your guy. "Discuss with your partner how often he would like to have sex and then see how you two can compromise so that all parties are satisfied," Ransom-Alfred suggests. Hint: The more often, the merrier you both will be.

You're not openly discussing what you want.
"Couples are often embarrassed to discuss sex with each other, even though they have it with each other," explains Ransom-Alfred. "Some are nervous to talk about their wants and desires for fear of being judged or turned down by the other." Start by telling your significant other that discussion about sex and sexual desires are a safe zone. Then, "talk with each other about sex acts that you've always wanted to try, new sex positions, what turns you on, what turns you off, and more," Ransom-Alfred says. "This will only enhance your sex life together and enhance your marriage overall."

You're playing it safe -- and repetitive -- when it comes to sex.
"It's common to become so comfortable in our relationship that we neglect we need to keep our sex lives new, fresh and exciting," says Ransom-Alfred. "Marriage is forever, and you can't expect to have the same kind of sex for the rest of your lives. You will indeed get bored in the bedroom and that spells trouble for the marriage." Ransom-Alfred suggests cracking open the Kama Sutra for inspiration and new positions you could try.

You're wearing your sweats to bed.
"We definitely need to keep it sexy in the bedroom, whether we've been married for two months or two decades," insists Ransom-Alfred. "Taking the time to be appealing for your partner shows them that you really care about them, about looking good for them and about your marriage." Make it a habit to slip into something silky when you get under the sheets. "Or wear one of his T-shirts to bed if that's what he finds sexy," she says. Of course, you can also go naked, too, and we doubt your husband will complain!


You're not taking your time with foreplay.
"Discuss foreplay with your partner and ask what they like, what really gets them hot and also how long he wants foreplay," suggests Ransom-Alfred. "Sexiness starts in the mind, so foreplay should begin well before taking your clothes off."

You're not spontaneous enough.
"Sex does not always have to happen at night, nor does it always have to be in the bedroom," Ransom-Alfred says. "Keep things spontaneous by surprising your partner with a sex session in the morning, in the shower while you two are getting ready, or the middle of the day." Another tip to keep things extra-hot? "Call your spouse right before lunch and have them meet you at home for a quickie!" she suggests.

You're not making your bedroom a pleasant place to make love.
"Many couples do not realize it, but the décor in your room will have either a positive or negative effect on your mood," explains Ransom-Alfred. "If your bedroom looks bland and boring, you will feel the same when you enter it. Your bedroom is your sensual space, so you want to feel sensual when you walk inside of it." Up the sex factor in your personal space by investing in fresh flowers, scented candles and plush pillows that beckon for romance.

You're not showing enough non-sexual affection.
"While a slap on the bottom or a sexual grope is hot, be sure to still show your partner affection and love in non-sexual ways such as hugging, massaging and holding them," advises Ransom-Alfred. That kind of physical love and affection translates outside the bedroom, and last until your next sex session. "The more loved a spouse feels, the more open he or she will be sexually."

Who You Should Invite to Your Wedding

Time to start your wedding guest list! But where do you even begin? Follow our simple guidelines to create a wedding guest list that you’re comfortable with.
Come up with a target guest count
First, decide if you’d like your wedding to be small (under 150 people) or bigger (over 150 guests). Then, start jotting down names of all of the people you think should be invited to your wedding. Write down the names in this order, and then count to come up with a preliminary number.

• - Immediate family members (parents, siblings and families, grandparents)
• - Closest friends
• - Close family members
• - Friends
• - Friends of your families
• - Old friends
• - Distant relatives
• - Co-workers (both yours and your parents’)
• - Others

If the number is too high, you can start to cut guests from the bottom category and work your way upward.
Split the list
If your parents are paying for part or all of the wedding, then you’ll have to get their input into who you’re inviting. Ask each set of parents to write down their “dream guest list” and give them a target number. Be prepared to discuss the list with your parents – especially if they invite more people than you requested.
Make rules – and stick to them!
You don’t have to invite children, dates for single guests or co-workers. But once you make a rule, stick with it – and don’t make any exceptions or risk offending people.
Don’t forget
Remember that about 20 percent of those you invite will be unable to attend your wedding. If you’re having a wedding in your and your future spouse’s hometown, that percentage will be smaller, but if you’re having a destination wedding in a faraway place, it will be higher.

15 Stages Every Bride Goes Through

By: Niky Sampedro

Ask anyone who’s planned their wedding, and they’ll agree that the process evokes a wide range of emotions. You laugh, you cry, and you go through everything else in between. Instead of trying to explain them, we’ve illustrated the very common only-when-you’re-a-bride emotions and experiences that we’re talking about…

When He Proposed

When You Told Your Friends You Were Engaged

When You Said Yes To The Dress

When You Found Out Your Dream Venue Was Already Booked


When You Tried To Talk To Your Fiancé About Invitation Motifs


When You Started Your Wedding Workouts


When Your Bridesmaid Told You She Didn’t Like The Dress You Picked For Her


When You Were Trying To Stay Within Budget


When You Were Getting Ready For Your Bachelorette Party


When You Had A Meltdown Over Entree Options


When Your Dad Saw You In Your Gown


When An Uninvited Guest Showed Up


What You Thought Your Wedding Night Would Be Like…


What It Was Actually Like…

When It Finally Hit You — You’re Married!


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