Monday, April 30, 2012
3 Wedding Planning Rules You Can Break
Old School Rule: The first time you see your groom on your wedding day should be at your ceremony.
New Rule: You can spend every minute with your groom before the ceremony. We promise that it's not bad luck if your fiancé catches a glimpse of you in your gown on the wedding day (or even before it, but why not surprise him if you both can hold out?). In fact, many couples who decided to wait until the ceremony to see each other would've preferred to have the inevitably emotional experience in private rather than in front of all of their guests. Photographers are happy to capture the moment you first see each other before the ceremony, so take photos then. That way, you don't have to miss your cocktail hour.
Old School Rule: You must wear a long, white gown.
New Rule: Wear whatever you want! Sure, most brides go the long white or ivory route, but for your wedding day attire, anything goes: from a retro short dress to a silver, slinky sheath to a (gasp!) black pantsuit. As long as you feel fabulous in your outfit, it can be any color or style. You can even skip the veil! Warning: Your fashion choices may wind up shocking your older guests, especially the ones who equate wearing white with "purity." If you'd prefer that your look pleases the crowd but aren't willing to go totally traditional, try working in a hint of color via a dress sash, your shoes, jewelry or a hair accessory or opting for a tea-length dress.
Old School Rule: You must invite everyone with a guest.
New Rule: If they'll know others, skip the plus-one. It's still polite (and very appreciated!) to invite guests' significant others, but if you're inviting a group of coworkers, for instance, and two or more of them are single, they should have no problem attending solo. Only when guests won't know anyone aside from the couple is it mandatory to let them bring a date. It's kind to invite attendants with guests too (they are shelling out big bucks for their attire!).
New Rule: You can spend every minute with your groom before the ceremony. We promise that it's not bad luck if your fiancé catches a glimpse of you in your gown on the wedding day (or even before it, but why not surprise him if you both can hold out?). In fact, many couples who decided to wait until the ceremony to see each other would've preferred to have the inevitably emotional experience in private rather than in front of all of their guests. Photographers are happy to capture the moment you first see each other before the ceremony, so take photos then. That way, you don't have to miss your cocktail hour.
Old School Rule: You must wear a long, white gown.
New Rule: Wear whatever you want! Sure, most brides go the long white or ivory route, but for your wedding day attire, anything goes: from a retro short dress to a silver, slinky sheath to a (gasp!) black pantsuit. As long as you feel fabulous in your outfit, it can be any color or style. You can even skip the veil! Warning: Your fashion choices may wind up shocking your older guests, especially the ones who equate wearing white with "purity." If you'd prefer that your look pleases the crowd but aren't willing to go totally traditional, try working in a hint of color via a dress sash, your shoes, jewelry or a hair accessory or opting for a tea-length dress.
Old School Rule: You must invite everyone with a guest.
New Rule: If they'll know others, skip the plus-one. It's still polite (and very appreciated!) to invite guests' significant others, but if you're inviting a group of coworkers, for instance, and two or more of them are single, they should have no problem attending solo. Only when guests won't know anyone aside from the couple is it mandatory to let them bring a date. It's kind to invite attendants with guests too (they are shelling out big bucks for their attire!).
I survived my Birthday
The weekend is over and my birthday was great. It started with dinner at Olive Garden and Pinkberry for dessert Friday night with my Mini Me... She paid the bill for dinner and I was so proud of her that she offered to do it that I left the tip and paid for Pinkberry. Saturday (My actual birthday) started with Birthday Cupcakes, Flowers and a song from Scott and Isaiah....
And lets not forget about breakfast as well...
I spent Saturday night with my Familia for Dinner and Drinks...Great Times as always
And now, I am back in Wedding mode.
And lets not forget about breakfast as well...
I spent Saturday night with my Familia for Dinner and Drinks...Great Times as always
And now, I am back in Wedding mode.
Friday, April 27, 2012
Fill in the blanks... Soemthing Fun for a Friday
Brides, Here are a few Fill in the Blank Questions for you... My Answers are below :
Fill in the Blank: I think he chose to marry me because ________.
Because he knows that I will love him forever and beyond
Fill in the Blank: When we’re (finally!) husband and wife, I can’t wait to ________.
Start our lives together as a family
Fill in the blank: If you’re spying on us on a Friday night, you’ll probably catch us ________.
Watching Food Network or Netflix while eating Oreos...LOL
Second to his heart, what’s the other sexiest part of his body?
His smile
Fill in the Blank: I think he chose to marry me because ________.
Because he knows that I will love him forever and beyond
Fill in the Blank: When we’re (finally!) husband and wife, I can’t wait to ________.
Start our lives together as a family
Fill in the blank: If you’re spying on us on a Friday night, you’ll probably catch us ________.
Watching Food Network or Netflix while eating Oreos...LOL
Second to his heart, what’s the other sexiest part of his body?
His smile
6 Month Mark
I have to admit, when Scott and I got engaged in 2010, October 2012 seemed so far away. When I woke up this morning, I realized that we are 6 months away from being Husband and Wife.. How crazy is that??
We still have some major things to do leading up to the day but so far we are on track for what needs to be done. I am pleased with our progress and with how much we are getting done together as a team. I feel like we are making it happen and we will look up soon and say we are days away...
If forever feels like this.. I'm ready for it.
183 (6 months) until we are Official!!
We still have some major things to do leading up to the day but so far we are on track for what needs to be done. I am pleased with our progress and with how much we are getting done together as a team. I feel like we are making it happen and we will look up soon and say we are days away...
If forever feels like this.. I'm ready for it.
183 (6 months) until we are Official!!
Friday Letters
Dear 32,
Its been fun and you have done me proud... BRING IT ON 33!
Dear Wedding Guest,
Thanks for all the lovely complements about the Save the Dates. I am glad that you all like them and I am looking forward to seeing you on our special day.
Dear Wedding Countdown,
Today is the 6 month mark.. We are closer and closer to Forever.
Dear Gym.
I will be seeing you next week so I can get on the treadmill and be ready for Revlon Walk.
Dear Scott,
No one else will ever know the strength of my LOVE for you, After all you're the only one who knows what my heart sounds like from the inside... I Love You.
Thursday, April 26, 2012
A Way To A Woman's Heart is also throught her Stomach
Scott got some steaks from Fresh N Easy this past weekend and decided to grill them last night for dinner and they were GREAT.
People use to say that Women did all the cooking in relationships but now Men have stepped in and made us happy with great meals. Here is a photo of his dinner:
I know everyone says it, but MY FIANCEE IS THE BEST!! Love you SC
184 till Cameron Dinners.
People use to say that Women did all the cooking in relationships but now Men have stepped in and made us happy with great meals. Here is a photo of his dinner:
I know everyone says it, but MY FIANCEE IS THE BEST!! Love you SC
184 till Cameron Dinners.
Wednesday, April 25, 2012
DUDE....THATS US.
Scott got my Engagement Ring from Robbins Brothers and we went and got our bands from there too. They had a link on their Facebook page for real customers to send photos of themselves with their Robbins Brothers rings that were funny/silly pictures so I sent one of us and guess what happened......
http://www.robbinsbrothers.com/Testimonials-Reviews.ring
WE ARE ON THEIR TESTIMONIALS PAGE...........HOW COOL IS THAT????????
http://www.robbinsbrothers.com/Testimonials-Reviews.ring
Music makes you loose control
So we book our DJ last month and now comes the task of picking out the music. I recently posted about the First Dance Song but now comes the task of other music. Here is what we have to decide on:
This list is a little crazy but there is more... We now have to think about the music to be played in general. I put on our wedding website a page for people to make request but I still need more songs. there is so much time to fill seems like so I want to make sure its right....
Anyone got must play songs or request??
- Precession Music
- Processional Music
- Wedding March
- Recessional Music
- Cocktail Music
- Dinner Music
- Introduction Music for Bridal Party
- Introduction Music for Bride and Groom
- First Dance Music
- Father/Daughter Dance
- Mother/ Son Dance
- Bouquet Toss
- Garter Toss
- Cake Cutting Music
- Last Song of the Night
This list is a little crazy but there is more... We now have to think about the music to be played in general. I put on our wedding website a page for people to make request but I still need more songs. there is so much time to fill seems like so I want to make sure its right....
Anyone got must play songs or request??
Photo of the Week
This Photo of the Week comes from Scott and I's date night this past weekend. I didn't post it in my recap to make sure I posted it today. The smiles tell you that we were all ready for a great night and it truly was that... A Great Night!
I am looking forward to more date nights with my Husband (It sounds so nice to say)
185 till Date Nights as Husband and Wife.
Tuesday, April 24, 2012
Top 20 Wedding Photography Mistakes
1. Not Finalizing the Wedding Day Schedule
"Talk to your photographer before finalizing the schedule for your wedding day. There is a lot to consider in terms of photographing and natural light. Certain times of day are more photogenic than others (midday sun casts harsh, unflattering shadows on the face while late day sun casts a beautifying warm glow on everyone)."--Hillary Harvey, Hillary Harvey Photography
2. Not Sticking to the Finalized Schedule
"Pay attention and respect the schedule you and your photographer discuss prior to your wedding. Being an hour late can make or break your images. Don't just assume it only takes 10 minutes!"--Alison Clinton, Horizon Photo
3. Letting Relatives Get in the Way
"We have a name in the industry for a guest who shows up with pro photo equipment and takes 'unofficial wedding photos' -- we call him Uncle Bob. Uncle Bob may think he's doing you a favor by taking more shots for the couple, but usually he just gets in the way and makes us miss our shots. Tell Bob to leave the camera at home and just enjoy his time at the wedding without working."-- Sandra O'Claire, Eau Claire Photographics
4. Not Explaining How You Like to Look in Photos
"Beauty is really very subjective. I ask my clients to send a photo of themselves before the wedding that they like and one that they don't."-- Dorie Hagler, Dorie Hagler Photography
5. Focusing Too Much on Taking Photos
"A good photojournalist can capture the story of their day and capture some artistic portraits while keeping the time away from loved ones to a minimum."--Alex Fagundo, Candidly Elegant Photography
6. Not Getting a Second Shooter
"Sometimes brides want to save a little money or feel that it is too obtrusive for more than one photographer to be present on the wedding day. But consider this: The second photographer offers another unique point of view throughout the entire day that you would not have had photographed."--Chris Leary, Chris Leary Weddings
7. Not Getting Help Organizing Your Guests
"Designate someone that you trust and who knows your family and friends to be in charge of organizing people for portraits. That person can gather the people needed, direct them on what shots they will be in, and then release them when they are done. It keeps things moving quickly, smoothly, and enjoyably."--Erica Natali, Natali Photography
8. Trying to Make Things "Perfect"
"Just have fun -- whether it's getting a little cake on your face or some little detail that didn't turn out 100 percent like you had hoped, go with it, have fun, and keep smiling. The photos will be so different if the bride is scowling at her new hubby, don't you think?"--Jennyfer Huff, Florida Weddings Photography
9. Skipping the "First Look"
"A 'first look' [aka taking your couple photos before the ceremony] is so much better than trying to rush bride and groom portraits after the ceremony -- especially if your ceremony ran a little late (which most do). You end up trying to hurry up and get to the party."--Ashley Nardello, Cleopatra Photography
10. Trying to Pose
"A good photographer gives direction for a reason: to get the best moments and shots from the day. The best thing to do is relax and act naturally. Be in the moment. Be hopelessly in love with each other -- the pictures will turn out smashingly!"--Brook S. Hollis, Lucent Photography
11. Waiting Too Long to Book Your Photographer
"If you find a great photographer, book them! Good photographers book a year or more out and won't be available forever. Nothing is more frustrating than choosing a wedding photographer and then finding out that they booked out your date a week prior."--Jeff Livengood, Digital Dreammakers
12. Looking at the Camera All the Time
"Some couples want candid photographs, but they always feel like they need to look up at the camera and stop what they are doing. It could be an instinct, but remember -- unless the photographer asks you, try to act natural for the best journalistic shots."--Dina Konovalov, A Dream Picture
13. Not Providing a List of "Don't Takes"
"Let the photographer know before the wedding if there are certain photos you don't like. It can be anything such as 'I don't like the photos you took of us not smiling' or 'I don't like wide-angle close-ups; they make us look weird and fat.' It totally throws off a photographer's creative approach when a bride spills her feelings while you are in the zone."--Tony & Natasha, Artistique Photography Productions
14. Asking for Too Many Shots
"If clients have done their homework and have chosen an experienced and reputable wedding photographer, then chances are that photographer does not need to be provided with a two-page spreadsheet of every combination for family portraits."--Millie B., The Studio Weddings
15. Not Choosing a Photographer You Connect With
"Make sure that we get along. I work with clients for sometimes two years or more. If we don't get along, it's going to be a very long and very bumpy ride."--Gillian Reinhardt, Carolina Studios
16. Skipping the Engagement Session
"Engagement sessions increase the confidence and comfort level of the bride and groom in front of the camera and allow the bride and groom to practice having their photo taken in a fun, no-stakes atmosphere. Ultimately, an engagement session will let the bride and groom see why the photographer might tell them to do something funny, and this leads to wedding day comfort and trust in the photographer."--Heather Cook Elliott, Heather Cook Elliott Photography
17. Not Hiring a Professional Photographer
"Choose someone who is a professional and not just anyone with a digital camera and a website. Make sure the photographer you choose has an education as a photographer, has apprenticed or interned with other photographers and paid their dues, and has the experience and ability to consistently capture the moments of your wedding no matter what situations may arise. You should expect to spend between $2,000 and $6,000 for any decent wedding photography."--Chris & Dawndy, Bendet Photography
18. Falling for Photography Trends
"Too many times, brides fall for something trendy in photography. It is critical that these images stand the test of time and are valued for each following generation. Trends are fun but rarely last! Look for a photographer with a classic shooting style, and be wary of too much Photoshop and digital 'tricks' and manipulations."--Brie Castell, Castell Photography
19. Forgetting the Details
"Think about spending a few minutes to decide what other elements are important to photograph -- did your sister make special wedding favors? Are you carrying important heirlooms with you? Bring an extra invitation, and try to keep those special elements easily accessible for photos."-- Nick Coleman, Dave Cross Photography
20. Not smiling -- All the Time
"Tell all of the individuals walking down the aisle to look up and smile. If they are too nervous to smile, they should at least keep their head up and stare down the aisle. This helps keep the face from forming the 'evil double chin' look that happens when you stare at the floor while walking!"--Christin Berry, Blue Martini Photography
Ely to the RESCUE
Most bridal parties experience a shake up every now and again..... We are no exception to the rule. One of our Groomsmen, Jonathan Almeah, can no longer be a groomsmen so we had to replace him... with his Dad Ely Almeah.
Ely is one of the coolest guys that I have yet the pleasure of meeting. Ely and Scott met through Jonathan of course and they have become Golf Buddies. He will be a great addition to the wedding and I am excited to finally get to meet him soon.
Thank You Ely for being a good friend to Scott and for being a groomsmen on our special day!!
Ely is one of the coolest guys that I have yet the pleasure of meeting. Ely and Scott met through Jonathan of course and they have become Golf Buddies. He will be a great addition to the wedding and I am excited to finally get to meet him soon.
Thank You Ely for being a good friend to Scott and for being a groomsmen on our special day!!
Killer Good Times...
Last Night, Scott and I went out on a Double Date of sorts with our friends David and Renee...
David and Renee are getting married in September and it was nice to see them and catch up. David and Scott talked Poker while Renee and I discussed all things wedding. It was great to talk to someone who understands all the things that come with planning a wedding and go through the process with. I am excited for their wedding just as much as I am excited for ours.
It great to see Happy people, especially when there are our friends...
David and Renee are getting married in September and it was nice to see them and catch up. David and Scott talked Poker while Renee and I discussed all things wedding. It was great to talk to someone who understands all the things that come with planning a wedding and go through the process with. I am excited for their wedding just as much as I am excited for ours.
It great to see Happy people, especially when there are our friends...
Monday, April 23, 2012
Its my Birthday and I will smile if I want to.....
So as I posted last week, Scott and I had a eventful weekend of Apartment Hunting and Date Night!!!
Saturday we looked at 3 apartments and 2 out of 3 we liked (the one we didn't like was a Fly Trap...LOL). It was nice to be able to go out and look for Our Home to be together and we were in good agreement with just about everything (which I was nervous about) but it was good.
Saturday Night..... DATE NIGHT!!
I have always felt it was important to have date nights in a relationship. I think some people get too caught up in having a relationship that they sometimes don't keep it up by doing something as simple as date nights.
For our date night, we went to Dinner at Smitty's in Pasadena. We arrived for our reservation and at our table was a personalized card and flowers from the Restaurant...
LOVED the personal touch in that and it definitely made me want to come back for more.
Here is a shot of each of us from our phones with our date night smiles....
The dinner was great (Sorry I forgot to snap pics of it) and the dessert was EXCELLENT in the words of my Fiancee..... LOL
From there, we went to Pop and Champagne for Dessert and Drinks. We have Chocolate Covered Strawberries with Hazelnuts (Not something we have had before but it was sooo good)
and instead of a bottle of Champagne to share... We did Champagne Flights from around the world and they were good as well... We love Bubbles.
All in all, it was one of the best nights we have had in a while and I was happy to share it with him. Date Night was a success and if I do nothing else for my birthday, I am OK with that.
This week will be about getting some more Apartment viewings nailed down, Tackling more items on the wedding list and saying good bye to 32 and bringing on 33.
187 till SJC
Saturday we looked at 3 apartments and 2 out of 3 we liked (the one we didn't like was a Fly Trap...LOL). It was nice to be able to go out and look for Our Home to be together and we were in good agreement with just about everything (which I was nervous about) but it was good.
Saturday Night..... DATE NIGHT!!
I have always felt it was important to have date nights in a relationship. I think some people get too caught up in having a relationship that they sometimes don't keep it up by doing something as simple as date nights.
For our date night, we went to Dinner at Smitty's in Pasadena. We arrived for our reservation and at our table was a personalized card and flowers from the Restaurant...
LOVED the personal touch in that and it definitely made me want to come back for more.
Here is a shot of each of us from our phones with our date night smiles....
The dinner was great (Sorry I forgot to snap pics of it) and the dessert was EXCELLENT in the words of my Fiancee..... LOL
From there, we went to Pop and Champagne for Dessert and Drinks. We have Chocolate Covered Strawberries with Hazelnuts (Not something we have had before but it was sooo good)
and instead of a bottle of Champagne to share... We did Champagne Flights from around the world and they were good as well... We love Bubbles.
All in all, it was one of the best nights we have had in a while and I was happy to share it with him. Date Night was a success and if I do nothing else for my birthday, I am OK with that.
This week will be about getting some more Apartment viewings nailed down, Tackling more items on the wedding list and saying good bye to 32 and bringing on 33.
187 till SJC
Friday, April 20, 2012
The Hunt is on
Scott and I have a busy weekend ahead and one of the biggest parts is Apartment Hunting. Right now we are in separate homes but soon we will be combining homes and becoming one. I admit that I am nervous about finding a place because I want it to be the right place and I know it may not be easy to find. We have agreed on so many things so far that I don't want it to go left when its time to find a place.
Pray for us that we find the perfect 1st Cameron Crib.
I am also excited about the other part of our weekend... Date Night!! We will be going to Smitty's Grill for dinner and then Pop and Champagne for Dessert and Drinks. If you live or ever visit Los Angeles, Go to Pasadena and check out both of these places. Scott has never been to Pop and Champagne before so I am hoping he likes it as much as I do and will want to go back. The desserts there are TO DIE FOR!!
I hope that everyone enjoys their weekend and I will be sure to take some pictures to post for you all.
190 till The Cameron's!!!
Pray for us that we find the perfect 1st Cameron Crib.
I am also excited about the other part of our weekend... Date Night!! We will be going to Smitty's Grill for dinner and then Pop and Champagne for Dessert and Drinks. If you live or ever visit Los Angeles, Go to Pasadena and check out both of these places. Scott has never been to Pop and Champagne before so I am hoping he likes it as much as I do and will want to go back. The desserts there are TO DIE FOR!!
I hope that everyone enjoys their weekend and I will be sure to take some pictures to post for you all.
190 till The Cameron's!!!
Friday Letters
Dear Wedding Guest,
I am so happy that everyone is getting their Save the Dates and love them. Before you know it, it will be time for invites to go out....YAY!!
Dear Weekend,
I am excited to see you and being the Birthday Celebrations... Its going to be great.
Dear Apartment Hunt,
Please go easy on me and Scott, We want to find a home for us as Husband and Wife.
Dear God,
Thank You for being a friend...
Dear Scott,
I vow to live within the warmth of your heart and always call it home.
Thursday, April 19, 2012
Gift for the Groom
I am all about making sure that when it comes down to getting gifts, that there is meaning and love behind them. So in t he pursuit for the perfect wedding gift for Scott... I am at a bit of a loss.
I bought him Cufflinks as an Anniversary gift to symbolize his Grandmother that day and I bought him Adidas for the Reception in our wedding colors:
But now the question is..... What can I get him as a AWESOME gift to symbolize this special day in our lives. The ring of course is the best gift ever, but there is a tradition of the Bride and Groom giving each other gifts. Here is a few ideas I found on Pinterest:
Im sure there are a few other things that will catch my eye so we will see what comes up. What are you getting your Groom on your special day??
I Feel Pretty
So my birthday is coming up next weekend and Scott has Isaiah for my birthday so this Saturday he and I are going to go out for a early birthday celebration just the 2 of us. In preparation for the night out, one thing Scott said he wanted for me to do was get my hair done.
I am a girl who usually gets my hair done every 2 weeks to keep it fresh and healthy but I had not had it done in the last month because I have been busy and saving money for the wedding so Scott says, make a hair appointment and its on me.....YAY!!
With that statement, I called my hair dresser Lisa and headed into the shop yesterday after work to go from Drab to FAB!!
I don't know about anyone else, but I always feel like a new woman after getting my hair done and it made me great that he wanted to make me happy for my birthday. We have been so focused on Wedding stuff and getting stuff together that we made sacrifices to get it together and I tell you, that smile on my face is because he put it there with something as simple as a hair appointment... So excited for the weekend and even more excited to be Mrs. Cameron in 191 days....
I Feel Pretty.....
Wednesday, April 18, 2012
The OFFICIAL ROMANTIC Wedding Highlights
I swear if I had the budget... I would TOTALLY have a Videographer and have a video just like this.....
Bridal Shower Games and Gifts
Team Jascott are in full swing on Bridal Shower planning and they are looking for Bridal Shower games and ideas to keep the party going and here are a few cute ones I found online:
Get a light colored shower curtain and some waterproof markers. As each guest arrives ask her to write a piece of advice for the bride on the outside of the shower curtain. Make sure to use waterproof fabric markers if you get a fabric curtain, or a waterproof sharpie if you use a plastic one. You can give your guests an assortment of colors to use and have them really dress it up and be creative with their well wishes.Gift this to the bride to use after she is married and she will be reminded of the lovely bridal shower every morning!
Along with the invitations to the bridal shower, send in blank recipe cards as well. Ask each guest to write her favorite recipe and bring it to the shower. Collect the recipe cards from your guests as each guest arrives, tie them with a beautiful ribbon and put them in a keepsake box. When the gifts are being opened, present the bride with the box of recipes. She will be thrilled with your thoughtfulness and have a great selection of recipes to make for her new husband! To make it a little competetive, after receiving the cards, have the bride read aloud the names of the recipes she received and have her pick her favorite just from the name. Have that person win a prize.This does take a little planning, as you want to give your guests enough time to get their recipe and write it out, but the end result is worth the effort and the cost is minimal.
We have a free printable “Know the Bride” game available, as well as a free printable Naughty “Know the Bride” game in our printable bridal shower games section, too. It is but natural that the bride should be the center of attention at her bridal shower. To make the bride feel special and shower her…
Select a word that is considered “Taboo” for the duration of the bridal shower. “Bride”, “Marriage”, “Love” are all possible taboo words. As soon as a guest arrives at the bridal shower, tell her what the taboo word(s) are and give her a “token”. Safety pins, plastic bracelets, even a small ribbon, anything that can be passed around easily makes a perfect “token”. If a guest hears another guest using the taboo word, she can take a token from her. The guest with the maximum number of tokens at the end of the bridal shower wins the game. For a themed shower you can use a “token” that is related to it. So if you are having a Hawaiian bridal shower theme, get leis to use as tokens. For a garden theme bridal shower you can use flowers as tokens and so on.This is a great ice breaker game as it gets guests who do not even know each other talking and trying to get token from people they have never met.
Make a set of bingo cards with 25 empty spaces. Fill in the spaces with wedding related words instead of numbers (veil, gown, groom, diamond ring, flower girl, etc). You will need to make one bingo card for each guest playing, and make sure the gifts are randomly shuffled on each card. Make sure to hand out markers or pens to your guests to mark the cards. Many places have software you can use that will randomly create an unlimited number of bingo cards for you, so if you are not up to doing each one by hand, or you have more than a few guests, you many want to try that instead (check out the fee based, online Bingo Card Generator). Write the words on sheets of paper and put them in a bowl. The bride will be the bingo caller and remove the sheets from the bowl one by one and calls out the words. Guests can tick off the words on their bingo cards. The guest who ticks off all the words first, wins. For a themed shower: Choose words that are related to your theme to put on the bingo cards instead. If it’s a beach themed wedding you can use words like “ocean” or “shells”, for a garden party “daisy” or “roses”. You can adapt this to pretty much any theme with a little bit of creative thinking so that your bridal shower is a hit!
Get a large bag of candy and a big see-through jar or container. You can use a jar filled with jelly beans, Hershey kisses, gumballs, or even funny shaped sweet tarts. Fill the container with as much candy as you possibly can. Make sure you count the number of pieces of candy as you put them in. As guests arrive ask them to look at the container and write on a slip of paper their name and how many items they think are inside. The guest who comes closest to the actually number wins!If you place a mix of candy in the jar, not only does it give a nice assortment as a prize, it can also make it much more difficult to guess how many are actually inside the jar. Try mixing miniature candy bars with M&M or red hots and it will really be a challenge!
Put on the invitations, or contact your guests before the event, and ask that they each bring to the shower a picture of herself with the bride. Get an empty scrapbook and decorate the cover so that it reads something like “BRIDE’S NAME & Friends Forever”, or “With Love To BRIDE’S NAME”. When each guest comes, ask her to stick the photo in the scrapbook and write some fond memories that she has of times shared with the bride on that page. It makes a beautiful keepsake scrapbook for the bride.If possible, you can also try to arrange for a Polaroid camera so that guests who show up without a photo, or don’t have one with the bride can have one taken instantly. That way no one will feel left out.
Photo of the Week
This Photo of the Week comes from our Engagement Sessions. This is one of the 165 photos that we took and LOVED so much. It was our first photo shoot together and I must admit, Tyra Banks ain't got nothing on The Camerons.Tuesday, April 17, 2012
Invited or Undecided
Does anyone else not discuss there wedding too much with too many people??
Since Scott and I got engaged, I have made it a point not to discuss too much wedding items with Friends so that I wont drive them crazy and so I wont have the question that most Brides loathe... "Am I invited to your wedding??"
So when we got engaged, everyone was happy and asking not an hour later, When is the wedding?? Give us a chance to soak it all in and enjoy being engaged peeps....LOL. Then I devised a plan for my Facebook friends to be discrete with wedding plans. We got engaged Christmas 2010 and had decided that we would not get married until 2012 to save money and not be in debt. So when people would ask I would say 2012, now were are in 2012 I am saying Fall and soon Fall will be here and I will have to say soon.
We love all of our Friends but we know that this wedding is about us, our family and very close friends.. So we have to be the ones to say no sometimes and I dread it. Have you experienced having to tell someone they are not invited to your wedding?? How did you handle it?
Since Scott and I got engaged, I have made it a point not to discuss too much wedding items with Friends so that I wont drive them crazy and so I wont have the question that most Brides loathe... "Am I invited to your wedding??"
So when we got engaged, everyone was happy and asking not an hour later, When is the wedding?? Give us a chance to soak it all in and enjoy being engaged peeps....LOL. Then I devised a plan for my Facebook friends to be discrete with wedding plans. We got engaged Christmas 2010 and had decided that we would not get married until 2012 to save money and not be in debt. So when people would ask I would say 2012, now were are in 2012 I am saying Fall and soon Fall will be here and I will have to say soon.
We love all of our Friends but we know that this wedding is about us, our family and very close friends.. So we have to be the ones to say no sometimes and I dread it. Have you experienced having to tell someone they are not invited to your wedding?? How did you handle it?
Monday, April 16, 2012
Desperate brides try feeding tube diet
I hope that no Bride would do this.... Love yourself just the way you are.
Desperate brides try feeding tube diet
Desperate brides try feeding tube diet
Is Pre-Wedding Counseling for You?
Think counseling is just for people with problems? Think again. As far as we're concerned, you've got nothing to lose, everything to gain. This is especially relevant in today's climate; with divorce so prevalent, many couples don't have role models to follow. Counselors can step in and become your relationship expert.
Timing is Everything
Pre-wedding counseling has one distinct advantage: Learning how to communicate and work through problems is a lot easier before rather than after the wedding. Once you're married, you both already have unspoken expectations for each other, never mind the often misguided ideas you got growing up about what married life should be like. Before marriage, you're still in a building stage — the expectations are there, but it's easier to be open about the issues that threaten difficulty. And by learning how to talk through differences, you will form good habits that will carry you through the years.
Find an Ear
There are several ways to tackle this sticky subject. You might decide to visit a psychologist or marriage and family therapist to thrash out issues that plague you. But you may not even have to go that far: Many houses of worship require to-be-weds to participate in counseling sessions before they'll let you march down their aisles.
Out the Issues
Counseling can help you recognize where your partner stands on a variety of topics, and where his or her priorities lie, which will confirm your sense of yourselves as a couple — or, in some cases, open your eyes to the fact that you might be making a mistake. What's there to talk about? Religion, children, finances, habits, and family issues, among other things. And even if you generally communicate well, there may be specific issues you'd like some help working through.
Face the Facts
So how do you know if premarital counseling is for you? It depends on your existing ability to communicate with each other. Every marriage presents difficulties and obstacles, and communication will be what helps you overcome them. If you have trouble talking through the issues in your lives — and we mean really talking — it's smart to learn how to do it now, when you're engaged.
Where to Go
If your house of worship doesn't provide premarital counseling — or you're having a civil ceremony — call the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy at (703) 838-9808 to find a certified therapist near you. If you're uncomfortable about professional therapy or unable to afford it, contact local community centers, colleges, or universities to inquire whether they offer marriage-building workshops.
Timing is Everything
Pre-wedding counseling has one distinct advantage: Learning how to communicate and work through problems is a lot easier before rather than after the wedding. Once you're married, you both already have unspoken expectations for each other, never mind the often misguided ideas you got growing up about what married life should be like. Before marriage, you're still in a building stage — the expectations are there, but it's easier to be open about the issues that threaten difficulty. And by learning how to talk through differences, you will form good habits that will carry you through the years.
Find an Ear
There are several ways to tackle this sticky subject. You might decide to visit a psychologist or marriage and family therapist to thrash out issues that plague you. But you may not even have to go that far: Many houses of worship require to-be-weds to participate in counseling sessions before they'll let you march down their aisles.
Out the Issues
Counseling can help you recognize where your partner stands on a variety of topics, and where his or her priorities lie, which will confirm your sense of yourselves as a couple — or, in some cases, open your eyes to the fact that you might be making a mistake. What's there to talk about? Religion, children, finances, habits, and family issues, among other things. And even if you generally communicate well, there may be specific issues you'd like some help working through.
Face the Facts
So how do you know if premarital counseling is for you? It depends on your existing ability to communicate with each other. Every marriage presents difficulties and obstacles, and communication will be what helps you overcome them. If you have trouble talking through the issues in your lives — and we mean really talking — it's smart to learn how to do it now, when you're engaged.
Where to Go
If your house of worship doesn't provide premarital counseling — or you're having a civil ceremony — call the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy at (703) 838-9808 to find a certified therapist near you. If you're uncomfortable about professional therapy or unable to afford it, contact local community centers, colleges, or universities to inquire whether they offer marriage-building workshops.
And there off...
This weekend was all about Save the Dates. Friday night was me labeling and stamping envelopes to get them ready for Saturday morning shipping :
Then after a Game Day with Auntie Bunnie, Ms. Lenora and the family, I came home and check my mail and Scott and I got the Save the Date for Renee and David!!
They are great friends of ours and this is one of the best Save the Dates I have ever seen. They are getting married a month before us and we are so excited for them.
On tap for things this week:
Gearing up for Revlon Walk
Contact the Florist for an update
Add music to Wedding Play list
Work on a Wedding Gift for Scott
Get ready for my Birthday......33
194 till the Date is here........
Friday, April 13, 2012
Friday Letters
Dear Save The Dates,
As much as I love you, I have to send you away to our Wedding Guest... Excited!!!
Dear Body,
Life gave me curves, So I am going to flaunt them... Thick is It and I am ready to accept it.
Dear Wedding Check List,
Your getting smaller and smaller... 197 to go.
Dear Snacks,
I need you not to be so tempting... Even if I am feeling like a Woman today
Dear Scott,
When I met you, I found me.....Thank You and I Love You!
Revlon Walk for Women 2012
I just registered with my Aunt for the Revlon Walk for Women Los Angeles on May 12th. I will be a member of the USPS team. The fee is $35.00 but if you register by 10am, you get a $5.00 discount using the code FRIEND. This is a great cause and a great way to meet in fellowship and sisterhood. Join up today! http://do.eifoundation.org/site/TR?fr_id=1080&pg=entry
Thursday, April 12, 2012
Let the Celebrations Being....
So for those that don't know... My birthday is coming up(4/28) and with your birthday comes lots of free email giveaways from companies wanting to wish you a happy day. Last night we kicked off the celebrations with dinner at Benihana. I had a coupon for $30.00 (which paid for my meal) and gave Scott and I a chance to have a rare night out. We were able to talk about things coming up and enjoy each others company. Sometimes it is nice to be able to spend time as a couple especially in the middle of wedding planning.
Since it was my birthday, apart of the coupon was a photo of our evening out and here it is:
I love spending quality time with Scott and the proof is in our smiles.... 198 to go.
Since it was my birthday, apart of the coupon was a photo of our evening out and here it is:
I love spending quality time with Scott and the proof is in our smiles.... 198 to go.
Wednesday, April 11, 2012
Charity and Love
Here is a story of a couple who are raising money for charity and finding love in each other......
William and Tori won’t get engaged until they raise $5,000 for a well. People have done some crazy things to raise money for charity: water, but we’ve never met anyone courageous enough to leave such an important milestone up to a bunch of strangers.
Well as of Easter Sunday:
William and Tori are getting married! Their campaign to get engaged reached $5,000 and he popped the question. The couple had made a decision to do things a little differently: instead of a romantic dinner and walk on the beach, William and Tori challenged themselves to raise 5K for a well before they could get engaged. On Easter Sunday they reached their goal and Tori said yes!
SO COOL!!!!
William and Tori won’t get engaged until they raise $5,000 for a well. People have done some crazy things to raise money for charity: water, but we’ve never met anyone courageous enough to leave such an important milestone up to a bunch of strangers.
Well as of Easter Sunday:
William and Tori are getting married! Their campaign to get engaged reached $5,000 and he popped the question. The couple had made a decision to do things a little differently: instead of a romantic dinner and walk on the beach, William and Tori challenged themselves to raise 5K for a well before they could get engaged. On Easter Sunday they reached their goal and Tori said yes!
SO COOL!!!!
Photo of the Week
This Photo of the Week is from our Engagement Shoot and our Save the Dates...yay!! They are ready today and I am excited to go and pick them up. We are under 200 days and everything is coming together as planned.
199... OMG under 200...YAY!!
Tuesday, April 10, 2012
May I Have This Dance???
I have always been a BIG fan of Music and one of the things I think about for our wedding dance is what song we will dance to as our first dance as husband and wife... Here are a few of my favorites:
Maxwell: Maybe You (Matrimony)
Kem: Share My Life
Usher: Something Special
Amel Larrieux: Makes Me Whole
Charlie Wilson and Boyz II Men: More Thank You Ever Know
Brides, What was/will be your First Dance Song?? Which song does everyone like?
Maxwell: Maybe You (Matrimony)
Kem: Share My Life
Usher: Something Special
Amel Larrieux: Makes Me Whole
Charlie Wilson and Boyz II Men: More Thank You Ever Know
Brides, What was/will be your First Dance Song?? Which song does everyone like?
200
I woke up this morning and realized that Scott and I will be getting married in 200 days... The time has gone so quickly for us and I am so excited (Hope you are too honey).
With all the different things that have gone on in the last 4 months alone, it amazes me how the day is approaching as fast as it is. We have been on task as a team (Yay Team Jascott) and I am feeling good about having my fiancee help throughout this process.
What more can I say... The road is closer to the finish line and happiness is still in the.... Just that simple.
200 days until Mr. and Mrs.
With all the different things that have gone on in the last 4 months alone, it amazes me how the day is approaching as fast as it is. We have been on task as a team (Yay Team Jascott) and I am feeling good about having my fiancee help throughout this process.
What more can I say... The road is closer to the finish line and happiness is still in the.... Just that simple.
200 days until Mr. and Mrs.
Monday, April 9, 2012
Oreos, Purple Pumps and Easter Sunday
This weekend was one of those that I didn't have much planned so it was a good one.
Scott went over to Isaiah's birthday party so that gave me and Jacelyn a chance to do some Pre-Easter dinner preparations at the house. After that, Scott and I got an invite from Brandon and Brandi to come over for some BBQ.
Scott went over to Isaiah's birthday party so that gave me and Jacelyn a chance to do some Pre-Easter dinner preparations at the house. After that, Scott and I got an invite from Brandon and Brandi to come over for some BBQ.
I will say, that I LOVE THESE 2 and I am happy that they have always been so welcoming and so nice to me. Some people will tell you that when you meet your mates friends and family, it might be difficult at first but it has never been this way with the 2 of them and I so THANKFUL for that.
We all sat around while the boys played Domino's, the girls had Oreos, Stretchy Shoes and talked about Bobcats (You had to be there). It was a great way to spend our Saturday evening.
Sunday was Easter and 4 generations of Ladies went to our church to Praise the lord:
Rev. Scott came up with a good analogy that I had not thought of before.... In John Chapter 20 Verse 7, it talks about how when Peter and Mary went to the tomb, they found Jesus handkerchief that was over his eyes neatly folded there in the tomb and the analogy was likened to Dinner Manners.
When you go to dinner and placed your balled up napkin on the table, it means your
finished but if you fold it and put it on your chair, it means your not done yet..... Jesus was not done yet and neither am I. I must admit I have a renewed sense of Church now with Rev. Scott leading the way. I missed Rev. Mason and wished he didn't have to go away but we will see how things go with this leader.
After church and a late breakfast, We went home to prepare for Easter Dinner and it was great to spend time with the family. They are all excited about the wedding and it makes me feel good to know that they are just as excited to have Scott be apart of the family.
This week we reach 200 days, Save the Dates should be ready to go out and we will move further down our list....
Life is good right now.
Friday, April 6, 2012
10 Mistakes Brides Make When Dress Shopping
Bringing an Entourage
We know it’s the most important dress you’ll ever wear, and you want to make sure it’s absolutely perfect. But having 10 different opinions makes it much harder to come to a consensus—and it can bring you farther away from what you actually want. “I have always been a believer that the most a bride should bring when dress shopping is two people,” said Cristina DeMarco, of Bridal Reflections in New York, NY.
Most brides do best with just their mom and maybe a sister or best friend, said Debra Lash, of The Wedding Tree in La Crosse, WI. “They generally have the bride’s best interest at heart, not what they want her to wear.” One of our real bride bloggers, Theresa Misso, recently wrote about her dress shopping experiences and said, “When you're standing there in a big dress, and random people in the store are ohh-ing and ahh-ing and all you want to do is take it off, you’ll need an honest, reliable companion to say, ‘I love it. But it’s just not you.’”
Shopping Too Early
Many couples are opting for longer engagements these days, but don’t start shopping more than 12 months in advance. “The moment a bride starts trying on gowns, she’ll inevitably fall in love with one,” said Lash. “If she’s not ready to buy, it quickly becomes difficult for her. In other words: Do not visit bridal salons until you’re ready to make a purchase.”
It’s important to have the rest of your wedding details in place before you can truly shop for a gown, since many factors can influence the style of the dress. Consider your venue: “An ornate gown with tons of embellishments and a sizeable train might look stunning in a ballroom but completely out of place at a beachfront ceremony,” said Tolu Ogbechie, one of our real bride bloggers. Also, the colors you choose for your bridesmaids and décor can influence whether you choose white or an off-white shade.
But, at the same time, don’t procrastinate. Most dresses take anywhere from five to eight months to come in, according to DeMarco. You can sometimes place a rush order if you need it in under five months, but it’ll cost you.
Trying On Too Many Dresses
If you’re a fan of Say Yes to the Dress, you’ve undoubtedly seen a bride who’s tried on 100+ dresses without finding the right one. Most brides try on between four and seven gowns, said DeMarco, and shouldn’t try on more than 10, because it can lead to confusion.
Often, a bride is trying on dress after dress because she’s just not ready to end the shopping experience and make a real commitment. “The most common mistake that a bride makes is not purchasing her gown when she finds it,” said Lash. “The danger that befalls her is she becomes overwhelmed and forgets what she originally set out to find. She begins to doubt herself and starts to lose faith in the experience.”
Not every bride has “that moment” when the tears start rolling and you know you’ve absolutely found “The One.” Real bride blogger Crista kept searching until the tears started rolling. While trying on a Priscilla of Boston gown (pictured right), Crista noted, "As I gazed upon my reflection, I noticed my family standing around me, teary-eyed. Although I was touched by their reaction, I wondered, ‘Why aren’t I crying?’” said Crista. “I decided not to purchase that dress and left the salon contemplating my shopping experience.”
Being Swayed by Steep Discounts
Try not to be too tempted by the lure of your dream designer gown for 70% off. “The biggest mistake I have seen brides make is purchasing a gown online or from a shop for a deep discount ‘only today,’” said Lash. “You get what you pay for.”
Sample sales are popular among brides, but you must keep in mind that you are typically truly purchasing just that — a sample: The dress has been tried on by hundreds of brides and could have been torn, stained, or otherwise damaged during the process. Before making a purchase, check the gown very carefully for any damage—and if there's anything that can’t easily be fixed, put it back. Some brides end up spending hundreds in alterations to fix what’s wrong with the sample when they could’ve found a similar brand new dress for not much more money.
But don’t be totally discouraged: Sometimes you truly can find an amazing gown at a bargain price. Kimberly Sanicki, of Wanaque, NJ, found her perfect wedding gown (left) at a “Running of the Brides” event thrown by Filene’s Basement. She found a stunning Essense of Australia gown for just $500, marked down from $3,000. Before handing over the cash, Kimberly and her mom thoroughly examined the gown to check for any flaws. “My mom made sure it had every crystal, and it did not need to be cleaned or even hemmed,” said Sanicki.
If ordering online, check the return policy carefully. If it says the dress is sold strictly as is and can’t be returned if damaged, close that browser and back away from the computer. One of our real bride bloggers, Tolu, successfully purchased her gown online at a nice discount. She warns other brides, “There are a lot of websites that offer dresses made overseas. This could be a cost savings, but I do not recommend it. There is a very small chance that the dress you receive will actually be the one shown in the picture.”
Demanding the Wrong Size
Wedding gown sizes typically run one or two sizes smaller than street clothes, so try not to get hung up on the number. “Do not fixate on the actual size but instead on how your measurements compare to the particular line on the specific designer’s size chart,” said Gesinee of Gesinee’s Bridal in Concord, CA.
Planning on losing weight before the big day? “If I had a nickel for every person I have measured who said they were going to lose weight, I would be rich!” said Lash. Play it safe and order a size that fits your current body. Any dress can be taken in, typically up to four sizes without affecting the look of the dress, but most can only be let out one full size—if that. “You need to be realistic, in case you don’t lose your targeted weight,” says DeMarco. What happens if your dress doesn’t fit when it comes in?
First, don’t freak out and go on a crash diet. “There’s always something you can do,” said DeMarco. “You can order fabric from the designer, add beading, or even put in a new back to accommodate the measurements needed.”
Sticking With One Style
“Ninety percent of our brides leave with something completely different than what they had in mind when they walked in,” said DeMarco. Bringing in pictures of dresses you like is a good start, but if your consultant recommends something different, give it a try. It’s impossible to tell what a dress will look like on your body just from seeing it on a hanger. “If a bride is fuller in the hip area, she might have a mind set that she can’t wear a fitted dress,” says DeMarco. “However, what she may not know is that a more fitted dress would show off her curves, fit beautifully, and make her appear more slender as opposed to covering up.
”Need advice on which shape is most flattering? Get some recommendations here.
Buying a Dress You Don’t Love
“The biggest mistake I’ve seen brides make is settling on a dress because someone influenced them to purchase it instead of going with her heart,” said DeMarco.
This is why it’s so important to choose your shopping companions wisely. “Many people that may accompany the bride will look at each gown and decide if it’s best for them—not for the bride whom they should be helping,” said Lash.
If you find yourself liking a dress but also having doubts, or if you're feeling pressured from a part of your entourage or a salesperson to make a purchase, it's okay to go home empty-handed, sleep on it, and return at a later point if you're still dreaming about the dress.
Trying On Dresses You Can’t Afford
You see a stunning gown a mannequin that’s way out of your price range, but you want to try it on just for fun. What’s the harm? “It can lead to heartbreak and disappointment,” said Lash. “You need to be able to afford anything you try on.”
Make sure you are completely clear on your budget before you hit the salon—and make sure that the salon you choose respects your budget. One of the top complaints Lash hears from her brides is that other salons showed them dresses that were out of their respective budgets. “We have a strict policy in place to keep the customer within budget, which makes her happier with the entire process,” said Lash. “Happy bride equals happy life for bridal shop employees!”
Not Accounting for Extra Costs
Let’s say you have $2,000 set aside for your attire. That doesn’t mean you can buy a dress with a list price of $2,000. Alterations typically cost extra, and you may also be charged tax and delivery, so don’t max out your fashion budget on just the dress. “Almost every gown will need some alterations,” said Gesinee. Whether it’s something, small like a hem, or something major, like taking in (or letting out) the bodice, it can add up. You'll also need to account for undergarments, shoes, a veil and/or hair accessories, jewelry, and any other accessories you'll want to complete your bridal look.
Not Choosing Your Store Wisely
If you’re a plus-size bride, call ahead to see if your desired store carries a sizeable amount of plus-size samples—not all do. Otherwise, your only option is to play “paper dolls” to get an idea of what a style would look like on you, said Gesinee.
“It is very hard to determine fit by holding up a gown to your body,” said Lash. “If a bride loves one of our gowns in a size 12, we will find one with an exact or similar fit in her size to try on.”
Also, make sure that your store is an authorized retailer for the designer you’ve selected, said Gesinee. This is especially problematic when buying online. If the retailer isn’t authorized to sell that particular designer, there’s a good chance that you won’t receive an authentic gown. That means that the designer won’t stand behind it if anything is wrong. To find out which stores are authorized in your area, check the individual designers’ websites or call the number listed.
We know it’s the most important dress you’ll ever wear, and you want to make sure it’s absolutely perfect. But having 10 different opinions makes it much harder to come to a consensus—and it can bring you farther away from what you actually want. “I have always been a believer that the most a bride should bring when dress shopping is two people,” said Cristina DeMarco, of Bridal Reflections in New York, NY.
Most brides do best with just their mom and maybe a sister or best friend, said Debra Lash, of The Wedding Tree in La Crosse, WI. “They generally have the bride’s best interest at heart, not what they want her to wear.” One of our real bride bloggers, Theresa Misso, recently wrote about her dress shopping experiences and said, “When you're standing there in a big dress, and random people in the store are ohh-ing and ahh-ing and all you want to do is take it off, you’ll need an honest, reliable companion to say, ‘I love it. But it’s just not you.’”
Shopping Too Early
Many couples are opting for longer engagements these days, but don’t start shopping more than 12 months in advance. “The moment a bride starts trying on gowns, she’ll inevitably fall in love with one,” said Lash. “If she’s not ready to buy, it quickly becomes difficult for her. In other words: Do not visit bridal salons until you’re ready to make a purchase.”
It’s important to have the rest of your wedding details in place before you can truly shop for a gown, since many factors can influence the style of the dress. Consider your venue: “An ornate gown with tons of embellishments and a sizeable train might look stunning in a ballroom but completely out of place at a beachfront ceremony,” said Tolu Ogbechie, one of our real bride bloggers. Also, the colors you choose for your bridesmaids and décor can influence whether you choose white or an off-white shade.
But, at the same time, don’t procrastinate. Most dresses take anywhere from five to eight months to come in, according to DeMarco. You can sometimes place a rush order if you need it in under five months, but it’ll cost you.
Trying On Too Many Dresses
If you’re a fan of Say Yes to the Dress, you’ve undoubtedly seen a bride who’s tried on 100+ dresses without finding the right one. Most brides try on between four and seven gowns, said DeMarco, and shouldn’t try on more than 10, because it can lead to confusion.
Often, a bride is trying on dress after dress because she’s just not ready to end the shopping experience and make a real commitment. “The most common mistake that a bride makes is not purchasing her gown when she finds it,” said Lash. “The danger that befalls her is she becomes overwhelmed and forgets what she originally set out to find. She begins to doubt herself and starts to lose faith in the experience.”
Not every bride has “that moment” when the tears start rolling and you know you’ve absolutely found “The One.” Real bride blogger Crista kept searching until the tears started rolling. While trying on a Priscilla of Boston gown (pictured right), Crista noted, "As I gazed upon my reflection, I noticed my family standing around me, teary-eyed. Although I was touched by their reaction, I wondered, ‘Why aren’t I crying?’” said Crista. “I decided not to purchase that dress and left the salon contemplating my shopping experience.”
Being Swayed by Steep Discounts
Try not to be too tempted by the lure of your dream designer gown for 70% off. “The biggest mistake I have seen brides make is purchasing a gown online or from a shop for a deep discount ‘only today,’” said Lash. “You get what you pay for.”
Sample sales are popular among brides, but you must keep in mind that you are typically truly purchasing just that — a sample: The dress has been tried on by hundreds of brides and could have been torn, stained, or otherwise damaged during the process. Before making a purchase, check the gown very carefully for any damage—and if there's anything that can’t easily be fixed, put it back. Some brides end up spending hundreds in alterations to fix what’s wrong with the sample when they could’ve found a similar brand new dress for not much more money.
But don’t be totally discouraged: Sometimes you truly can find an amazing gown at a bargain price. Kimberly Sanicki, of Wanaque, NJ, found her perfect wedding gown (left) at a “Running of the Brides” event thrown by Filene’s Basement. She found a stunning Essense of Australia gown for just $500, marked down from $3,000. Before handing over the cash, Kimberly and her mom thoroughly examined the gown to check for any flaws. “My mom made sure it had every crystal, and it did not need to be cleaned or even hemmed,” said Sanicki.
If ordering online, check the return policy carefully. If it says the dress is sold strictly as is and can’t be returned if damaged, close that browser and back away from the computer. One of our real bride bloggers, Tolu, successfully purchased her gown online at a nice discount. She warns other brides, “There are a lot of websites that offer dresses made overseas. This could be a cost savings, but I do not recommend it. There is a very small chance that the dress you receive will actually be the one shown in the picture.”
Demanding the Wrong Size
Wedding gown sizes typically run one or two sizes smaller than street clothes, so try not to get hung up on the number. “Do not fixate on the actual size but instead on how your measurements compare to the particular line on the specific designer’s size chart,” said Gesinee of Gesinee’s Bridal in Concord, CA.
Planning on losing weight before the big day? “If I had a nickel for every person I have measured who said they were going to lose weight, I would be rich!” said Lash. Play it safe and order a size that fits your current body. Any dress can be taken in, typically up to four sizes without affecting the look of the dress, but most can only be let out one full size—if that. “You need to be realistic, in case you don’t lose your targeted weight,” says DeMarco. What happens if your dress doesn’t fit when it comes in?
First, don’t freak out and go on a crash diet. “There’s always something you can do,” said DeMarco. “You can order fabric from the designer, add beading, or even put in a new back to accommodate the measurements needed.”
Sticking With One Style
“Ninety percent of our brides leave with something completely different than what they had in mind when they walked in,” said DeMarco. Bringing in pictures of dresses you like is a good start, but if your consultant recommends something different, give it a try. It’s impossible to tell what a dress will look like on your body just from seeing it on a hanger. “If a bride is fuller in the hip area, she might have a mind set that she can’t wear a fitted dress,” says DeMarco. “However, what she may not know is that a more fitted dress would show off her curves, fit beautifully, and make her appear more slender as opposed to covering up.
”Need advice on which shape is most flattering? Get some recommendations here.
Buying a Dress You Don’t Love
“The biggest mistake I’ve seen brides make is settling on a dress because someone influenced them to purchase it instead of going with her heart,” said DeMarco.
This is why it’s so important to choose your shopping companions wisely. “Many people that may accompany the bride will look at each gown and decide if it’s best for them—not for the bride whom they should be helping,” said Lash.
If you find yourself liking a dress but also having doubts, or if you're feeling pressured from a part of your entourage or a salesperson to make a purchase, it's okay to go home empty-handed, sleep on it, and return at a later point if you're still dreaming about the dress.
Trying On Dresses You Can’t Afford
You see a stunning gown a mannequin that’s way out of your price range, but you want to try it on just for fun. What’s the harm? “It can lead to heartbreak and disappointment,” said Lash. “You need to be able to afford anything you try on.”
Make sure you are completely clear on your budget before you hit the salon—and make sure that the salon you choose respects your budget. One of the top complaints Lash hears from her brides is that other salons showed them dresses that were out of their respective budgets. “We have a strict policy in place to keep the customer within budget, which makes her happier with the entire process,” said Lash. “Happy bride equals happy life for bridal shop employees!”
Not Accounting for Extra Costs
Let’s say you have $2,000 set aside for your attire. That doesn’t mean you can buy a dress with a list price of $2,000. Alterations typically cost extra, and you may also be charged tax and delivery, so don’t max out your fashion budget on just the dress. “Almost every gown will need some alterations,” said Gesinee. Whether it’s something, small like a hem, or something major, like taking in (or letting out) the bodice, it can add up. You'll also need to account for undergarments, shoes, a veil and/or hair accessories, jewelry, and any other accessories you'll want to complete your bridal look.
Not Choosing Your Store Wisely
If you’re a plus-size bride, call ahead to see if your desired store carries a sizeable amount of plus-size samples—not all do. Otherwise, your only option is to play “paper dolls” to get an idea of what a style would look like on you, said Gesinee.
“It is very hard to determine fit by holding up a gown to your body,” said Lash. “If a bride loves one of our gowns in a size 12, we will find one with an exact or similar fit in her size to try on.”
Also, make sure that your store is an authorized retailer for the designer you’ve selected, said Gesinee. This is especially problematic when buying online. If the retailer isn’t authorized to sell that particular designer, there’s a good chance that you won’t receive an authentic gown. That means that the designer won’t stand behind it if anything is wrong. To find out which stores are authorized in your area, check the individual designers’ websites or call the number listed.
Do you speak Wedding???
I had a conversation with my Cousin this morning and said to her, My STD's should be ready on Monday and I will get them out to everyone on Monday. Now Brides to be know that STD means Save The Dates.. My Cousin thought otherwise....LOL.
If you don't speak wedding, Here are a few acronyms for you to remember:
B2B - bride to be
BIL - brother-in-law
BM - bridesmaid
BS - bridal shower
DFH - dear future husband
DH - dear husband
E-ring - engagement ring
FFIL - future father-in-law
FG - flower girl
FH - future husband
FMIL- future mother-in-law
FOB - father of the bride
FW - future wife
G2B - groom to be
GM - groomsmen
HM - honeymoon
MOB - mother of the bride
MOG- mother of the groom
MOH - maid of honor
SIL - sister-in-law
SO - significant other
STD - save the date
If you don't speak wedding, Here are a few acronyms for you to remember:
B2B - bride to be
BIL - brother-in-law
BM - bridesmaid
BS - bridal shower
DFH - dear future husband
DH - dear husband
E-ring - engagement ring
FFIL - future father-in-law
FG - flower girl
FH - future husband
FMIL- future mother-in-law
FOB - father of the bride
FW - future wife
G2B - groom to be
GM - groomsmen
HM - honeymoon
MOB - mother of the bride
MOG- mother of the groom
MOH - maid of honor
SIL - sister-in-law
SO - significant other
STD - save the date
8 Bad Relationship Habits to Kick This Year
Here's the thing about bad or annoying relationship habits: You don't usually realize you have them until someone else points them out. And who's really going to have the heart to do that, anyway? Okay, twist my arm. Do any of these sound familiar?
The PDA Habit
You stick your tongue down your partner's throat in a cab, in a movie theater, in the back pew at church. You call each other sickeningly syrupy names (you know what I'm talking about, Schmoopy). The thing is, you make your friends nauseous. You make parents cover their children's eyes.
The fix: The next time you're in public, imagine your mother is seated next to you. I really hope this stops you.
The (Other) PDA Habit
We're not talking sloppy kisses; we mean your smartphone. Your manners fly out the door when you're glued to your iPhone. You send emails at the dinner table. You tweet at the movies. You talk to your partner ("Mm hmm, mm hmm, yep...") while simultaneously playing Angry Birds.
The fix: Try to get through an entire evening without your PDA -- and focus on present company instead.
The TV Habit
Every night's a threesome that includes you, your partner and that trusty old pal: the DVR. True, there's a lot to be said for the comfort of getting into your pj's and catching up on your shows together, but you can't always act like the Old Married Couple. Until, well, you actually are. And even then....
The fix: One week without TV. (Yes, Hulu counts as TV.)
The Smothering Habit
9:05 a.m. text: "Morning! Get to work okay?" 10:10 a.m.: "Soooo bored at work. You?" 10:11 a.m.: "Is it 5 o'clock yet?" 10:45 a.m. phone call: "Hey, what are you up to?" And it's not even lunchtime yet.
The fix: One hour without contact. If that's too aggressive, try 10 minutes and work your way up. It's fine to want to be in constant contact, but give yourselves some time to miss each other.
The Teasing Habit
It's all meant in good fun, right? You tease him about his haircut, his clothes, his eating habits, his job, the barren walls in his apartment, the way he cleans his car, his toothbrushing, his sunglasses, his [fill in the blank]. After a while, it's not funny; it's actually pretty annoying and demoralizing.
The fix: Don't try to go cold turkey and stop the teasing -- it's not realistic. But try to trim it by 20 percent.
The MIA Friend Habit
Tell me if this sounds familiar: You interact with your best friend about once a month -- to "like" one of her posts on Facebook. When you finally do hang out with the group, you bring your significant other and you both keep looking at your watches, whispering to each other and wondering how early you can bolt.
The fix: A weekend with your friends -- without your partner. Remember: Your other relationships need nurturing too.
The Overanalyzing Habit
You spend more time talking about the relationship than you do actually experiencing the relationship. Open communication is one thing, but when you take it to the lunatic fringe -- Where will we be in five years? What did it mean when you said... -- what you actually could be doing is sabotaging things.
The fix: Shock therapy. (Kidding.) But on your next date night -- or any day -- try to live in the present instead of thinking about the future.
The Non-Dating Habit
You've found someone you love, so you don't need to go on stupid dates anymore; the courtship is over! Taking your partner out to dinner and a movie sounds about as logical as taking a surprise vacation to Guam.
The fix: 8 p.m. Reservations. Wine. Candlelight. Romance. (Don't let it die.)
The PDA Habit
You stick your tongue down your partner's throat in a cab, in a movie theater, in the back pew at church. You call each other sickeningly syrupy names (you know what I'm talking about, Schmoopy). The thing is, you make your friends nauseous. You make parents cover their children's eyes.
The fix: The next time you're in public, imagine your mother is seated next to you. I really hope this stops you.
The (Other) PDA Habit
We're not talking sloppy kisses; we mean your smartphone. Your manners fly out the door when you're glued to your iPhone. You send emails at the dinner table. You tweet at the movies. You talk to your partner ("Mm hmm, mm hmm, yep...") while simultaneously playing Angry Birds.
The fix: Try to get through an entire evening without your PDA -- and focus on present company instead.
The TV Habit
Every night's a threesome that includes you, your partner and that trusty old pal: the DVR. True, there's a lot to be said for the comfort of getting into your pj's and catching up on your shows together, but you can't always act like the Old Married Couple. Until, well, you actually are. And even then....
The fix: One week without TV. (Yes, Hulu counts as TV.)
The Smothering Habit
9:05 a.m. text: "Morning! Get to work okay?" 10:10 a.m.: "Soooo bored at work. You?" 10:11 a.m.: "Is it 5 o'clock yet?" 10:45 a.m. phone call: "Hey, what are you up to?" And it's not even lunchtime yet.
The fix: One hour without contact. If that's too aggressive, try 10 minutes and work your way up. It's fine to want to be in constant contact, but give yourselves some time to miss each other.
The Teasing Habit
It's all meant in good fun, right? You tease him about his haircut, his clothes, his eating habits, his job, the barren walls in his apartment, the way he cleans his car, his toothbrushing, his sunglasses, his [fill in the blank]. After a while, it's not funny; it's actually pretty annoying and demoralizing.
The fix: Don't try to go cold turkey and stop the teasing -- it's not realistic. But try to trim it by 20 percent.
The MIA Friend Habit
Tell me if this sounds familiar: You interact with your best friend about once a month -- to "like" one of her posts on Facebook. When you finally do hang out with the group, you bring your significant other and you both keep looking at your watches, whispering to each other and wondering how early you can bolt.
The fix: A weekend with your friends -- without your partner. Remember: Your other relationships need nurturing too.
The Overanalyzing Habit
You spend more time talking about the relationship than you do actually experiencing the relationship. Open communication is one thing, but when you take it to the lunatic fringe -- Where will we be in five years? What did it mean when you said... -- what you actually could be doing is sabotaging things.
The fix: Shock therapy. (Kidding.) But on your next date night -- or any day -- try to live in the present instead of thinking about the future.
The Non-Dating Habit
You've found someone you love, so you don't need to go on stupid dates anymore; the courtship is over! Taking your partner out to dinner and a movie sounds about as logical as taking a surprise vacation to Guam.
The fix: 8 p.m. Reservations. Wine. Candlelight. Romance. (Don't let it die.)
Friday Letters
Dear Jesus,
Thank You....Amen
Dear 776,
We been through it all and we will always be sisters. Love you girls!
Dear Easter,
I am happy to celebrate you and ready to have Red Meat again....
Dear Sleep,
I miss you, lets get together soon and re-connect
Dear Save the Dates,
Next week we will be together.....YAY
Dear Scott,
I vow to fiercely love you in all your forms, now and forever. I promise to never forget that this is a once in a lifetime love.
Thursday, April 5, 2012
Bridal Shower Gifts: 22 Saucy Ideas
Looking for a shower gift that the bride (and her man) will really go wild for? Think sexy thoughts! Here are ideas that are sure to heat up their nights.
1. A Little Lingerie
Tiny silk nighties, lace-up corsets, satin garters -- every girl needs a little something sexy to slip on.
2. Plush Prints
There's something about animal skin that makes folks want to growl and roar. Consider leopard-print panties or zebra-print pillowcases.
3. Shower for Two
No more taking turns -- let the lovebirds shower together with a chrome-plated double shower head.
4. Robes to Unrobe
Nothing's more comfy than wrapping your birthday suit in a luxurious velour robe after a hot, steamy...shower.
5. Sensual Scents
A basket of bubble bath, soaps, shampoos, conditioners, lotions, and home fragrance seduces the senses. Jasmine, vanilla, cinnamon, sandalwood, and lavender are the some of the sexiest scents.
6. The Dance of Desire
Buy her belly dancing lessons at a local dance studio or fitness center. Want to get them moving together? Consider buying them tango lessons for two or a season pass for yoga classes.
7. Pamper and Prep
Treat the lover girl to smooth, sensual skin with a pre-wedding spa treatment complete with body wrap, skin scrub, and bikini wax. For fun at home, give Bloom's Aromatherapy Pamper Pack or the Jaqua Girls Japanese Bath Kit for the ultimate shared sensory experience.
8. Irresistible Elixir
Chartreuse, a green after-dinner liqueur, is rumored to have aphrodisiacal properties. Or give a book of cocktail recipes so they can stir up a Sex on the Beach and other steamy libations. Complete the effect with a sophisticated martini set.
9. Wet 'n' Wild
The sound of the ocean is always a turn on. Give them a sound machine that churns out rythmic waves or cool tropical rain soundscapes. For a more meditative gift, consider a small Japanese fountain.
10. Make-Out Music
Get personal and burn a CD with sexy songs (starting off with "Let's Get It On") and favorite bedtime tunes. The Verve Story 1944-1994 2-CD Boxed Set, will get them in the mood for love.
11. Sex Kitten Kit
Give her the ultraglam gift: a vixen make-up kit -- cigarette case with holder, fake eyelashes, fire-engine red lipstick, red nail polish, and a brown pencil for drawing a beauty mark, all in a foxy make-up case. Toss in body shimmer to make her sparkle.
12. Treats They Can Eat
Sex and food go hand in hand. Consider giving edible body paints, erotic fortune cookies, or edible underwear. Or just head to the grocery store and pick up chocolate syrup, honey, or whipped cream.
13. Love Is in the Air
Incense, scented candles, and perfume. Tests have shown that the aromas of cucumber and black licorice (for her) and pumpkin pie (for him) are the top aphrodisiac scents. (It sounds random, but that's what the experts say!)
14. Strike a Pose
Present her with a video camcorder or a camera for high-tech hanky panky. Or give her a certificate for a photo session with a local wedding photographer or a specialized photographer who sets up and shoots boudoir portraits.
15. Light the Love Flame
Set the mood with curvaceous candlesticks and ruby red candles.
16. A Room With a View
Spring for a one-night stay at a nearby hotel and let the newlyweds be tourists in their own town. Or act out the final "window" scene from the movie.
17. Decadent Dining
How about a dinner-for-two gift certificate at a romantic restaurant? (Hint: sushi is supersoft, sensual, and slippery).
18. Fresh-Air Frolick
A picnic basket with a really big blanket serves hours of outdoor fun.
19. Wanton Words
Make your literary gift a lascivious read. Some of our favorites: Intercourses: An Aphrodisiac Cookbook, Hot Sex: How to Do It, and The New Joy of Sex.
20. A Passionate Performance
Tickets to the local ballet, opera, or cabaret. La Bohème is known to bring operagoers to tears, and Carmen features lots of slinky, sultry scenes.
21. Deep Rub
Help the couple relax with a massage for two at a spa. Or treat them to an assortment of scented massage creams and oils, so that they won't have to leave their bedroom. To guide the lovers, think about giving a The Art of Sensual Massage and wooden massage accessories.
22. Rev Up Their Room
Give them the props to turn their bedroom into a bordello. Silk or satin sheets and piles of velvet pillows ought to do the redecorating trick.
1. A Little Lingerie
Tiny silk nighties, lace-up corsets, satin garters -- every girl needs a little something sexy to slip on.
2. Plush Prints
There's something about animal skin that makes folks want to growl and roar. Consider leopard-print panties or zebra-print pillowcases.
3. Shower for Two
No more taking turns -- let the lovebirds shower together with a chrome-plated double shower head.
4. Robes to Unrobe
Nothing's more comfy than wrapping your birthday suit in a luxurious velour robe after a hot, steamy...shower.
5. Sensual Scents
A basket of bubble bath, soaps, shampoos, conditioners, lotions, and home fragrance seduces the senses. Jasmine, vanilla, cinnamon, sandalwood, and lavender are the some of the sexiest scents.
6. The Dance of Desire
Buy her belly dancing lessons at a local dance studio or fitness center. Want to get them moving together? Consider buying them tango lessons for two or a season pass for yoga classes.
7. Pamper and Prep
Treat the lover girl to smooth, sensual skin with a pre-wedding spa treatment complete with body wrap, skin scrub, and bikini wax. For fun at home, give Bloom's Aromatherapy Pamper Pack or the Jaqua Girls Japanese Bath Kit for the ultimate shared sensory experience.
8. Irresistible Elixir
Chartreuse, a green after-dinner liqueur, is rumored to have aphrodisiacal properties. Or give a book of cocktail recipes so they can stir up a Sex on the Beach and other steamy libations. Complete the effect with a sophisticated martini set.
9. Wet 'n' Wild
The sound of the ocean is always a turn on. Give them a sound machine that churns out rythmic waves or cool tropical rain soundscapes. For a more meditative gift, consider a small Japanese fountain.
10. Make-Out Music
Get personal and burn a CD with sexy songs (starting off with "Let's Get It On") and favorite bedtime tunes. The Verve Story 1944-1994 2-CD Boxed Set, will get them in the mood for love.
11. Sex Kitten Kit
Give her the ultraglam gift: a vixen make-up kit -- cigarette case with holder, fake eyelashes, fire-engine red lipstick, red nail polish, and a brown pencil for drawing a beauty mark, all in a foxy make-up case. Toss in body shimmer to make her sparkle.
12. Treats They Can Eat
Sex and food go hand in hand. Consider giving edible body paints, erotic fortune cookies, or edible underwear. Or just head to the grocery store and pick up chocolate syrup, honey, or whipped cream.
13. Love Is in the Air
Incense, scented candles, and perfume. Tests have shown that the aromas of cucumber and black licorice (for her) and pumpkin pie (for him) are the top aphrodisiac scents. (It sounds random, but that's what the experts say!)
14. Strike a Pose
Present her with a video camcorder or a camera for high-tech hanky panky. Or give her a certificate for a photo session with a local wedding photographer or a specialized photographer who sets up and shoots boudoir portraits.
15. Light the Love Flame
Set the mood with curvaceous candlesticks and ruby red candles.
16. A Room With a View
Spring for a one-night stay at a nearby hotel and let the newlyweds be tourists in their own town. Or act out the final "window" scene from the movie.
17. Decadent Dining
How about a dinner-for-two gift certificate at a romantic restaurant? (Hint: sushi is supersoft, sensual, and slippery).
18. Fresh-Air Frolick
A picnic basket with a really big blanket serves hours of outdoor fun.
19. Wanton Words
Make your literary gift a lascivious read. Some of our favorites: Intercourses: An Aphrodisiac Cookbook, Hot Sex: How to Do It, and The New Joy of Sex.
20. A Passionate Performance
Tickets to the local ballet, opera, or cabaret. La Bohème is known to bring operagoers to tears, and Carmen features lots of slinky, sultry scenes.
21. Deep Rub
Help the couple relax with a massage for two at a spa. Or treat them to an assortment of scented massage creams and oils, so that they won't have to leave their bedroom. To guide the lovers, think about giving a The Art of Sensual Massage and wooden massage accessories.
22. Rev Up Their Room
Give them the props to turn their bedroom into a bordello. Silk or satin sheets and piles of velvet pillows ought to do the redecorating trick.
